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Hi
I don't know which group to ask this question and hence I am posting
here.
How do I check out whether the person whom I met online (through a
dating service) is what he said he is, i.e I have the name he gave me,
the city he lives. I don't have the exact name of the office he works
but he told me that he works for ???? (a government office). His
outgoing message at that number states his occupation and the
department he works at. He also said that he's divorced (in his email
aside from indicating that in his profile).
I was the one who initiated the contact (he was one out of the two
whom I contacted). As we exchanged a few email communications hich
went well, and then exchanged the phone numbers (note that we talked
briefly on phone once; the contact has been email ONLY since we met 3
months ago), I never thought that I would come to the point of
checking things out unless we developed a serious relationship after
meeting in person. At this point, I am not even thinking about
serious, lonlastign relations that we both stated we want in our
profile. But ...
we plan to meet (we live 2 hours drive from each other; he doesn't
push me to meet him though he always indicated that he would want to)
and I feel that for the sake of total peace of mind, I should check
into his identity and the info he gave me.
How do I go about checking it? I assume that it is not illegal to
check into it but what is the legal procedure? I have heard of private
detectives but HOW to find them so that I won't be hiring the false
ones.
Somemone suggested me that I can check with county clerk office
whether he has divorce paper on file but from what I gathered, he
could have got a divorce before he moved to his current city which is
the city that he said he grew up and his family lives. So he may have
been born there. So I need the check followings:
1. First, his true identity has to be checked:Ppicture and name match;
age
would be good too (he must have gone to high school there too)
2. I need to check whether he is single or not; whether he is living
with/involved with a woman, i.e has a steady relationship. In
fact, I
wouldn't want to get involved at all if also is involved with any
woman in
non-steady relationship. That's for later check..
3. His occupation as he told me in the department of Homeland Security
- this
is to make sure that he didn't use such an occupation to make me
gullible.
He did say in his profile that he's a lawyer.
I really don't think his identity is a problem but like I said, I need
to have TOTAL peach of mind before I develope any kind of real life
relationship.
Please advise me on how to go about it? I have NOT got involved with
anyone through online service, i.e I am a careful person.
Because of the sincereness I sensed during our early commuincation, I
have developed attractions to him and I want to at least see him and
may be get to know him ....
I WANT TO CHECK THE CORRECTNESS of all the info he gave me (I never
asked and he never said whether he was involved with anyone; his
profile implied that there shouldn't be a question) instead of
counting on blind faith.
If he is what he said he is, I don't want to miss out on seeing and
knowing him...
Any useful guidance/info would greatly be appreciated.
Thanks.
I don't know which group to ask this question and hence I am posting
here.
How do I check out whether the person whom I met online (through a
dating service) is what he said he is, i.e I have the name he gave me,
the city he lives. I don't have the exact name of the office he works
but he told me that he works for ???? (a government office). His
outgoing message at that number states his occupation and the
department he works at. He also said that he's divorced (in his email
aside from indicating that in his profile).
I was the one who initiated the contact (he was one out of the two
whom I contacted). As we exchanged a few email communications hich
went well, and then exchanged the phone numbers (note that we talked
briefly on phone once; the contact has been email ONLY since we met 3
months ago), I never thought that I would come to the point of
checking things out unless we developed a serious relationship after
meeting in person. At this point, I am not even thinking about
serious, lonlastign relations that we both stated we want in our
profile. But ...
we plan to meet (we live 2 hours drive from each other; he doesn't
push me to meet him though he always indicated that he would want to)
and I feel that for the sake of total peace of mind, I should check
into his identity and the info he gave me.
How do I go about checking it? I assume that it is not illegal to
check into it but what is the legal procedure? I have heard of private
detectives but HOW to find them so that I won't be hiring the false
ones.
Somemone suggested me that I can check with county clerk office
whether he has divorce paper on file but from what I gathered, he
could have got a divorce before he moved to his current city which is
the city that he said he grew up and his family lives. So he may have
been born there. So I need the check followings:
1. First, his true identity has to be checked:Ppicture and name match;
age
would be good too (he must have gone to high school there too)
2. I need to check whether he is single or not; whether he is living
with/involved with a woman, i.e has a steady relationship. In
fact, I
wouldn't want to get involved at all if also is involved with any
woman in
non-steady relationship. That's for later check..
3. His occupation as he told me in the department of Homeland Security
- this
is to make sure that he didn't use such an occupation to make me
gullible.
He did say in his profile that he's a lawyer.
I really don't think his identity is a problem but like I said, I need
to have TOTAL peach of mind before I develope any kind of real life
relationship.
Please advise me on how to go about it? I have NOT got involved with
anyone through online service, i.e I am a careful person.
Because of the sincereness I sensed during our early commuincation, I
have developed attractions to him and I want to at least see him and
may be get to know him ....
I WANT TO CHECK THE CORRECTNESS of all the info he gave me (I never
asked and he never said whether he was involved with anyone; his
profile implied that there shouldn't be a question) instead of
counting on blind faith.
If he is what he said he is, I don't want to miss out on seeing and
knowing him...
Any useful guidance/info would greatly be appreciated.
Thanks.
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