I am 18 and my Parents are giving me a cerfew Michigan

[ChicaChick07]

I am From Michigan and I am not sure if this is the right forum I am supposed to be posting in but anyway here is my problem:

I am 18 years old and I live at home, I am still in high school and they give me a curfew of 1:00am and I don't think this is fair. Also sometimes I would like to spend the night at my boyfriends house and they won't let me. Can they do this or not?
can they tell me what I can and cant do?

I would like LAW Examples please and comments are also good

Thank you so much!

[mikswi]

Hoo-Boy! Im gonna sit back and wait for others to chime in on this one LOL!

18, 1 AM curfew........."thats not fair, I have rights"

Sorry, I couldnt help it

[Baystategirl]

I am From Michigan and I am not sure if this is the right forum I am supposed to be posting in but anyway here is my problem:

I am 18 years old and I live at home, I am still in high school and they give me a curfew of 1:00am and I don't think this is fair. Also sometimes I would like to spend the night at my boyfriends house and they won't let me. Can they do this or not?
can they tell me what I can and cant do?

I would like LAW Examples please and comments are also good

Thank you so much!

If you don't like the rules of the house feel free to move! You're 18...move out!!

But while you live under your parents roof...you follow their rules...even if you are 30!

If you don't like it than pay for your own roof!!

[ChicaChick07]

See the thing is that the only place I can go is my boyfriend house because I don't have a job. Do I have to tell them I am leaving or can I just leave?

[Baystategirl]

See the thing is that the only place I can go is my boyfriend house because I don't have a job. Do I have to tell them I am leaving or can I just leave?

Finish school ...for gods sake don't be in such a flippin' hurry to grow up...take advantage of your parents support...go to college..get established...then think about getting serious!!

[ChicaChick07]

My Parents thing that can ground me and I don't think its right so please I just want to know what the laws are

[Baystategirl]

My Parents thing that can ground me and I don't think its right so please I just want to know what the laws are

I gave you the laws in my 1st reply....If you are living under their roof you are subject to their rules! Period! End of discussion!

[cyjeff]

Okay, here's the thing...

You want all the opportunities of an adult with none of the responsibilities.

You have two options.

Option one. Live with you parents, eat their food, sleep under their roof, obey their rules.

Option two. Live without your parents. Get a job, pay for your own stuff, obey your own rules. Get no support, financially, from your parents.

Your parents no longer owe you a single thing and can kick you out in the street. You may want to remember that.

[rcpilot]

At 18 you are an adult.

They cannot keep you in the house if you want to leave. They also do not have to let you back in, if you do leave, AND this is likely to cause a seperation between you and the only two people you actually can count on to always love you. I think the only prudent thing for you to do is as your parents ask untill such a time as you can manage on your own. I DO NOT suggest you move in with your boyfriens, since at your age you should be meeting a lot of people and learning the difference between LOVE and infactuation. Get out on your own as soon as you can, learn about the real world, your fantasy one is crumbling.

[ChicaChick07]

i pretty much pay for everything right now but the roof over my head and i am over at my boyfriends most of the time anyway so I don't see why they wont just let me go!

[rcpilot]

Maybe

It is because they love you, and being older than you they have more knowlage of what happens when, etc. They choose to keep you at home until you graduate, they hope you will go to college and become self sufficient and mature, AND THEN meet the man of your dreams, get married give your all to your husband, have kids, live , love, and try to teach your children, even when they don't agree with you, that Mommy knows best.

[Baystategirl]

i pretty much pay for everything right now but the roof over my head and i am over at my boyfriends most of the time anyway so I don't see why they wont just let me go!

I can tell by your responses that you lack the maturity to be on your own...Leaving now will be a huge mistake!

[milspecgirl]

lol- oh to be young again.
You are going to have to make a decision- either move out on your own and be prepared to be cut off from your parents or stay and follow their rules. They can't make you do anything- you are 18, but they have final say over what happens in their house and who they allow to be there. Your stepfather only has as much say as the fact that it is his house- same as your mom.

[mikswi]

What is it that makes you sure, your ready to be on your own and make your own decisions? Because your 18? I know people that are 28 and still cant make it on their own. Why? Choices...........their lack of an education leaves them too broke to move forward in life. The child support for the kid he fathered when he was 22 at a party, takes whats's left of his check.

His theory? He's banking on the estate when his parents die. Some plan huh? NO experiencing life, no waking up to a spouse, sharing life.

My point is, that being "ready" is a state of mind in ADDITION to being financially ready. Want to show your parents that their wrong? Finish school with as high grades as possible. Go to college, even if its community college and learn a field or trade.

I guarantee that if you do this, within 1 1/2 years yur parents will pull you aside and say "You have grown so much. Your responsible, thoughtful and self sufficent. Your mom and I are very proud of you."

Because in the end, at your age, its about their approval. Not getting to do what you want.

[mommyof4]

You want the law? Okay, as you are 18 and can legally leave at any time, your parents are now your landlord. You are a tennant. They can charge you rent, utilities, and every thing else they spend to support you. The landlord has the ultimate say on what happens on his property. If you don't like the rules, you are luckier than 99.9% of the population in that you can legally leave without having to worry about breaking a lease.

Grow up kiddo. You have a choice to make. Either you obey their rules or you move out on your own. Is your boyfriend willing to support you? Obviously, since you are not paying housing, you are in no position to support yourself. Yep, that includes rent, utilities, food, clothing, insurance, health care, toiletries, and any other incidentals and necessities that we can pretty much state with certainy you do not pay for. As you state that your sole purpose in life at this point is to spend every moment with the boyfriend, we have to wonder when you have time for a job? Are you really trying to convey to the world that your life and interest revolve around a boyfriend at the age of 18? If so, that is a very sad statement of your life and mentality. Just think what you could accomplish in life. *sigh*

Is this even a serious question?