Question Michigan

[mom26]

I know people that have answered my earlier post have recomened me to just give up. And follow through with the adoption. Or back out and file for custody. I just want to hear other opionions...... Ok child now 3 lives with mom and soon to be step dad. (Step dad has been in his life sience he was about 2/3 months old) Mom promised us visitation even after the adoption. We sent child a birthday gift we recieved no thank you no nothing. How would you feel if your childs real father wanted to make an effort for visitation and even letting the adoption go through to the best interest of child..... Would you be affended if Girlfriend/BIO dad and 1/2 brother still wanted to visit?

[mommyof4]

I know people that have answered my earlier post have recomened me to just give up. And follow through with the adoption. Or back out and file for custody. I just want to hear other opionions...... Ok child now 3 lives with mom and soon to be step dad. (Step dad has been in his life sience he was about 2/3 months old) Mom promised us visitation even after the adoption. We sent child a birthday gift we recieved no thank you no nothing. How would you feel if your childs real father wanted to make an effort for visitation and even letting the adoption go through to the best interest of child..... Would you be affended if Girlfriend/BIO dad and 1/2 brother still wanted to visit?

It is really not about any of the adults being offended. It is about the confusion it will cause for the children. No, not just the 3 year old being adopted, but for your little one, too. If the child is going to be adopted, then the new family needs time and a relief from any outside pressure (do not mean that you are pressuring them. ) to become settled into their roles of father and son.

[Suzy72]

The short answer... Yes

The long answer... Yes. IMO when one gives up their child for adoption they do not have the right to ask for contact and the 'perks' as they may be. I would be highly offended... but Mommyof4 is correct, it's even worse for the children. I do not see ANY way that a biological parent (or family) that has given up rights to a child could objectively 'just visit.' They are going to want to express their opinion about this or that... this it'll be 'just' wanting to see school records, or 'just' wanting to be able to see him/him when they want. When it starts it snowballs.

I am unsure what the problem is here. It's fairly simple... either your bf steps up the plate and becomes a father by doing all the fun stuff as well as the obligations or he lets step-dad adopt and let it go.

[thirdpartycustody]

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If the child lives with mom and step dad, the real father wanted to be apart of the childs life now, do not let the adoption go through he has no parental rights after the adoption. However, the real father can fight for parental rights and if he does not visit the child he can allow the grand parents to have the child during his visitation time. The grand parents in this case has no rights to fight for anything. By law no matter what happens the parent with the child has to encourage a relationship with the absent parent even if the child does not want to go. So as a father he has visitation rights If the natual father allows the adoption to go through then his rights to see or be apart of that childs life is over.