On May 12, 2010, my boyfriend (BF) took his ex to court for violation of his visitation rights. The judge awarded an order (parenting proposal plan) stipulating the every other weekend visits, parents must communicate regarding visitation and the normal holidays visitation. The judge made it clear to the ex not to put the children in the middle and the two parties must come to a mutual agreement. The ex tried to use that the its the kids decision if they want to go or not and he should respect that. The judge said that she must encourage the kids to go with their father. Long story short, the kids always wants to spend time with their father but, the ex always denies them. Basically, she hasn't been following the divorce decree for 8 years.
On Thursday, May 13, 2010, we went to watch his 16 yo daughter's softball game. His 12 yo son approached him and said that he wanted to be with his friends this weekend and he no need go if he doesn't want to go. How can his son go from, always asking his mom to go with Dad, from this statement. I don't understand. My assumption is that the ex is brain washing him. Anyways, BF called his ex from his daughter's cell and tried to make arrangement with for the weekend visitation. She told my BF to "No call me, don't call my phone!"
On Friday, May 14, 2010, BF left a message on ex house phone to make arrangements for the weekend visitation. We went to watch his daughter's state championship game and after the game, his son approached him again. Stating he has a game on Saturday and he wants to be with his friends. BF said, "no worry son, i'll take you to your game". The son said okay. Later that night, because of the message BF left at ex home, the son called BF. He was telling BF that next week he can come for visitation. BF said, son that's not my visitation day. Son said, "well mom said the following weekend then." BF stated, "I'm not suppose to put you in the middle. Me and Mom suppose to talk and come to a mutual agreement." He asked son to put his ex on the phone. She refused to talk to BF.
Saturday on May 15, 2010. it was his visitation day so my BF was kinda worried that ex would make allegations towards him (like she had done so during their divorce) so he called for HPD for assistance. When we got there, ex and his son was not home. Ex's husbands son was home and BF asked if he could call ex. Anyways, she returned home and was furious. The officer told her that BF is exercising his rights and he's there to enforce the order. Ex stated, "well i'm not gonna force my son to go with somebody that he doesn't want to go to." BF calmly said, "we suppose to communicate regarding visitation and the kids cannot be put in the middle". She replied, "like i told you in court, i no need communicate with you". The officer than said, "okay, since he is at practice right now, mom this would be your weekend and Dad, next week is your weekend'. Ex agreed saying, "yah, he can try next week". BF told ex, "we can do this the easy way or the hard way". She took off storming towards the house saying, "what ever".
At this point, BF knows this would be an on-going battle and he will continue to call HPD for assistance so there is no allegations on his part. My question is, how long does BF has to endure this? When can he file to go back to court cause he knows that she will continue to violate the order like she has done so with the divorce decree. And what will happen to ex if BF does take her back to court.
On Thursday, May 13, 2010, we went to watch his 16 yo daughter's softball game. His 12 yo son approached him and said that he wanted to be with his friends this weekend and he no need go if he doesn't want to go. How can his son go from, always asking his mom to go with Dad, from this statement. I don't understand. My assumption is that the ex is brain washing him. Anyways, BF called his ex from his daughter's cell and tried to make arrangement with for the weekend visitation. She told my BF to "No call me, don't call my phone!"
On Friday, May 14, 2010, BF left a message on ex house phone to make arrangements for the weekend visitation. We went to watch his daughter's state championship game and after the game, his son approached him again. Stating he has a game on Saturday and he wants to be with his friends. BF said, "no worry son, i'll take you to your game". The son said okay. Later that night, because of the message BF left at ex home, the son called BF. He was telling BF that next week he can come for visitation. BF said, son that's not my visitation day. Son said, "well mom said the following weekend then." BF stated, "I'm not suppose to put you in the middle. Me and Mom suppose to talk and come to a mutual agreement." He asked son to put his ex on the phone. She refused to talk to BF.
Saturday on May 15, 2010. it was his visitation day so my BF was kinda worried that ex would make allegations towards him (like she had done so during their divorce) so he called for HPD for assistance. When we got there, ex and his son was not home. Ex's husbands son was home and BF asked if he could call ex. Anyways, she returned home and was furious. The officer told her that BF is exercising his rights and he's there to enforce the order. Ex stated, "well i'm not gonna force my son to go with somebody that he doesn't want to go to." BF calmly said, "we suppose to communicate regarding visitation and the kids cannot be put in the middle". She replied, "like i told you in court, i no need communicate with you". The officer than said, "okay, since he is at practice right now, mom this would be your weekend and Dad, next week is your weekend'. Ex agreed saying, "yah, he can try next week". BF told ex, "we can do this the easy way or the hard way". She took off storming towards the house saying, "what ever".
At this point, BF knows this would be an on-going battle and he will continue to call HPD for assistance so there is no allegations on his part. My question is, how long does BF has to endure this? When can he file to go back to court cause he knows that she will continue to violate the order like she has done so with the divorce decree. And what will happen to ex if BF does take her back to court.
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