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    Let me tell you the saga of the worst marriage of the world which is mine.
    My husband turned a 180 after I was pregnant with our daughter. He began to punch holes in walls, have affairs, general bad husband behavior.
    He constantly emotionly abuses me, and has for three years, he has grabbed me on several occasions. I have only called the police on him once, He had been on a drinking binge and been in a fight early that night. Came home covered in blood head to toe screaming at me and throwing things around the house. He was removed, since he had not hit me, no report was filed and he was made to call a friend to get him out of the home, after which he went out and drank more.
    After keeping late nights er should I say early mornings, and keeping me away from family and friends, not allowing me to talk to them, or for them to come by and see me, I was not allowed to go out of the house unless it was to the store, any thing else I had to go with him. The one night I went home with my friends, I told him what time I was going to be home and he locked me out of the house. I crawled in through the window and locked my self in our bed room. He threw the kids and I out of the house on Thanksgiving 2004 and this year he wouldn’t allow me to spend any time with my family. Shortly after he was forcing me to have sex with him, saying it’s not rape when your married. He was and still is depriving me of sleep, I have been a stay at home mom since my 1st was born so three years. and I have a one year old. He had never spent more than 5 hours with the kids alone at this point. I was advised to file for a PFA from my attorney. I had to sneak out of the house to get into see him. I PFA was denied on not having enough evidence of the abuse. So I was afraid to go home because he had been so rageful. I stayed with a friend and he called the police and said that I was kidnapping the children!! The next day he filed for divorce 15 min before I did...this was the second time he had filed for divorce. I had the kids staying with my mom and dad at this point till our court date for tem. order. My last lawyer said we should just agree on sharing the kids 50/50 and this is what the judge will want and pressured me to go with this, even though I told him this was a bad idea and I thought the children were unsafe with him, for the simple fact that he had never really had them on his own. Well some how my lawyer agreed to my husband having four days and me three!!! I was Irate, and so my lawyer said, well we will just have to go back to court. We were sharing the home, and at one of our switches he didn't answer the door, so I opened it with my key and my three year old was up naked (it was 12pm) and my one year old had been in the crib all morning, since like 7 when he/she gets up, covered in urine and feeces! I asked my kids where is daddy, HE WAS PASSED OUT AT NOON NAKED IN OUR BEDROOM. The house looked like a bomb hit it! dog poop, dirty dishes etc. I waited till he left and video taped the home the condition of the children etc. I did this after every switch, he got into my car and took the tape out and ransacked my car in the middle of the night. I was so desprate to help my poor children!!! After everytime he had my one year old he/she vomited i think from food posioning. My lawyer didn't seem to think that it was urgent to help my kids!!! I decided to do the only thing that I thought I could, reconcile with him to protect my children, other wise his high powered attorney would do what ever he wanted and show me in the worst light. He was making things up about me saying I did drugs, A total lie, I told him to feel free to drug test me anytime!!!! A condition of the reconcilation was that he made me sign a paper from his lawyer saying that if eaither of us were to file again in six months that the temporay order were to go back to the way they were. He forced me to call my lawyer and tell him that I agreed to do so. My lawyer later called me and said I know why you went back and I know you were under diress when you called. I will testify to that.
    He is keeping his unual hours again, 6am 8am etc. he never sees our kids!
    My three year old found Viagra in his Shoe that was left in his car! I found condoms in his over night bag he takes to work!!
    Friday he came home at 10:30 pm Around midnight I
    asked if he was ready to go to bed, he was letting the dogs out, and
    I went to brush teeth etc, I heard the water running in the kitchen
    which seemed like forever! So I looked to see what was going on and
    he was going through my phone and purse.
    My friend has a calling card she calls me from at work, he
    flipped when he saw this number, out of state area code. He kept
    asking me who is this! Who is this! I told him its "Jane" He
    said "you are a liar," you just can't stop lying, you're nothing but
    a compulsive liar and I can't trust you!" I asked him to calm down,
    and if he didn't believe me that I would have her call from it
    tomorrow and he could talk to her. Then he told me that I talk to my
    family too much. And it needed to stop. And he was going to move us
    all away. He kept asking me over and over getting more mad, WHY ARE
    YOU A LIAR? TELL ME YOU"RE A LIAR WHY CAN" T YOU ADMIT IT!!!, so I
    said listen, have I lied, yes, am I compulsive liar? No and I am a
    good person, and I try to be a good person, and besides you've never
    lied in your life?" So I had looked on the counter, and he had
    drank ½ of a 1.75 litter bottle of whiskey!!! THAT NIGHT! I told
    him instead of concentrating on what you don't like about me, normal
    people don't drink this much in one night, and I know you probably
    drink more at work!!! You need help, none of your friends want to
    help you or your family but you are going to die!!!! Then he said
    f**k this I'm refilling tomorrow and getting the kids away from
    you!!! I was in shock! I asked him to please calm down, and he
    grabbed my arms and threw me out of the way, and screamed at me that
    if I were to talking he was going to throw me through the window in
    the kitchen and call the police and say I was attacking him, mean
    while I'm on the floor crying my arms hurt so bad. I was so upset
    that I was vomiting. It was now 5am. Every time I tried to get away
    from him he followed. I couldn't get to my tape recorder to record
    any of this, and was afraid if I called the police he would turn it
    around on me, I was so scared. He got home after 6am, drunk, last
    night, got up and saw the kids for 10 min before he left again at
    10am! Doesn't it seem like the courts would see this as he is the
    unfit parent or what!? We (my children and my parents and I) are
    going to start going to Al-Anon meetings this week, to try to get
    some outside advice and show that I want out for our children; I
    know this is bad but I'm stuck with no money! ON THE BRIGHT
    SIDE….MY KIDS REALLY NEVER DO SEE HIM, SO……THEY AREN'T BEING
    POLLUTED BY HIS EVILNESS AND NOT SEEING HIM ABUSE ME, AND NOT NEGLECTED BY HIM.
    *****PLEASE WHAT CAN I DO!!!!*********
    I need to prove these things so they are not just hear say how can i do that!!!!!??????

  • #2
    Have you thought of going to a shelter?

    Otherwise, call 911 during every incident--especially when he is drunk. At the very least, the numerous calls will be on record. More likely, the police will haul his *** in. If you are real lucky, they will put his drunken, worthless *** into a rehab center.
    "What would a reasonable person do?"

    aryels
    A.S. Paralegal
    Criminal Justice Student--B.S.

    "Give this guy 15 cents and tell him to go to hell."

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    • #3
      fyi .
      National Domestic Violence Hotline
      NDVH Hotline: 800 799-7233 Phone: (512) 453-8117 Email: [email protected] Website: www.ndvh.org Open year-round, trained staff provide counseling and referral services to all, free of charge.
      American Domestic Violence Crisis Line
      Phone: 866-USWOMEN, (866-879-6636) Email Hotline: [email protected] International toll free domestic violence crisis line that abused American women & children can call by contacting the regional AT&T operator in their country of residence and ask to be connected. The crisis line operates from 10pm to 6am, Pacific Standard Time, Monday - Friday.

      I suggest that you document abuse as it is happening, but call the hotlines to get some professional advice and referral to a shelter. It is really a difficult call because you need evidence of the abuse to be able to make a clean break in terms of not just filing for divorce but seeking and getting sole custody of the kids with him getting no visitation or only supervised visitation, but you need some professional advice and hopefully one of these hotlines can refer you to that.

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      • #4
        you have to be smart

        Originally posted by fulltimemom
        Let me tell you the saga of the worst marriage of the world which is mine.
        My husband turned a 180 after I was pregnant with our daughter. He began to punch holes in walls, have affairs, general bad husband behavior.
        He constantly emotionly abuses me, and has for three years, he has grabbed me on several occasions. I have only called the police on him once, He had been on a drinking binge and been in a fight early that night. Came home covered in blood head to toe screaming at me and throwing things around the house. He was removed, since he had not hit me, no report was filed and he was made to call a friend to get him out of the home, after which he went out and drank more.
        After keeping late nights er should I say early mornings, and keeping me away from family and friends, not allowing me to talk to them, or for them to come by and see me, I was not allowed to go out of the house unless it was to the store, any thing else I had to go with him. The one night I went home with my friends, I told him what time I was going to be home and he locked me out of the house. I crawled in through the window and locked my self in our bed room. He threw the kids and I out of the house on Thanksgiving 2004 and this year he wouldn’t allow me to spend any time with my family. Shortly after he was forcing me to have sex with him, saying it’s not rape when your married. He was and still is depriving me of sleep, I have been a stay at home mom since my 1st was born so three years. and I have a one year old. He had never spent more than 5 hours with the kids alone at this point. I was advised to file for a PFA from my attorney. I had to sneak out of the house to get into see him. I PFA was denied on not having enough evidence of the abuse. So I was afraid to go home because he had been so rageful. I stayed with a friend and he called the police and said that I was kidnapping the children!! The next day he filed for divorce 15 min before I did...this was the second time he had filed for divorce. I had the kids staying with my mom and dad at this point till our court date for tem. order. My last lawyer said we should just agree on sharing the kids 50/50 and this is what the judge will want and pressured me to go with this, even though I told him this was a bad idea and I thought the children were unsafe with him, for the simple fact that he had never really had them on his own. Well some how my lawyer agreed to my husband having four days and me three!!! I was Irate, and so my lawyer said, well we will just have to go back to court. We were sharing the home, and at one of our switches he didn't answer the door, so I opened it with my key and my three year old was up naked (it was 12pm) and my one year old had been in the crib all morning, since like 7 when he/she gets up, covered in urine and feeces! I asked my kids where is daddy, HE WAS PASSED OUT AT NOON NAKED IN OUR BEDROOM. The house looked like a bomb hit it! dog poop, dirty dishes etc. I waited till he left and video taped the home the condition of the children etc. I did this after every switch, he got into my car and took the tape out and ransacked my car in the middle of the night. I was so desprate to help my poor children!!! After everytime he had my one year old he/she vomited i think from food posioning. My lawyer didn't seem to think that it was urgent to help my kids!!! I decided to do the only thing that I thought I could, reconcile with him to protect my children, other wise his high powered attorney would do what ever he wanted and show me in the worst light. He was making things up about me saying I did drugs, A total lie, I told him to feel free to drug test me anytime!!!! A condition of the reconcilation was that he made me sign a paper from his lawyer saying that if eaither of us were to file again in six months that the temporay order were to go back to the way they were. He forced me to call my lawyer and tell him that I agreed to do so. My lawyer later called me and said I know why you went back and I know you were under diress when you called. I will testify to that.
        He is keeping his unual hours again, 6am 8am etc. he never sees our kids!
        My three year old found Viagra in his Shoe that was left in his car! I found condoms in his over night bag he takes to work!!
        Friday he came home at 10:30 pm Around midnight I
        asked if he was ready to go to bed, he was letting the dogs out, and
        I went to brush teeth etc, I heard the water running in the kitchen
        which seemed like forever! So I looked to see what was going on and
        he was going through my phone and purse.
        My friend has a calling card she calls me from at work, he
        flipped when he saw this number, out of state area code. He kept
        asking me who is this! Who is this! I told him its "Jane" He
        said "you are a liar," you just can't stop lying, you're nothing but
        a compulsive liar and I can't trust you!" I asked him to calm down,
        and if he didn't believe me that I would have her call from it
        tomorrow and he could talk to her. Then he told me that I talk to my
        family too much. And it needed to stop. And he was going to move us
        all away. He kept asking me over and over getting more mad, WHY ARE
        YOU A LIAR? TELL ME YOU"RE A LIAR WHY CAN" T YOU ADMIT IT!!!, so I
        said listen, have I lied, yes, am I compulsive liar? No and I am a
        good person, and I try to be a good person, and besides you've never
        lied in your life?" So I had looked on the counter, and he had
        drank ½ of a 1.75 litter bottle of whiskey!!! THAT NIGHT! I told
        him instead of concentrating on what you don't like about me, normal
        people don't drink this much in one night, and I know you probably
        drink more at work!!! You need help, none of your friends want to
        help you or your family but you are going to die!!!! Then he said
        f**k this I'm refilling tomorrow and getting the kids away from
        you!!! I was in shock! I asked him to please calm down, and he
        grabbed my arms and threw me out of the way, and screamed at me that
        if I were to talking he was going to throw me through the window in
        the kitchen and call the police and say I was attacking him, mean
        while I'm on the floor crying my arms hurt so bad. I was so upset
        that I was vomiting. It was now 5am. Every time I tried to get away
        from him he followed. I couldn't get to my tape recorder to record
        any of this, and was afraid if I called the police he would turn it
        around on me, I was so scared. He got home after 6am, drunk, last
        night, got up and saw the kids for 10 min before he left again at
        10am! Doesn't it seem like the courts would see this as he is the
        unfit parent or what!? We (my children and my parents and I) are
        going to start going to Al-Anon meetings this week, to try to get
        some outside advice and show that I want out for our children; I
        know this is bad but I'm stuck with no money! ON THE BRIGHT
        SIDE….MY KIDS REALLY NEVER DO SEE HIM, SO……THEY AREN'T BEING
        POLLUTED BY HIS EVILNESS AND NOT SEEING HIM ABUSE ME, AND NOT NEGLECTED BY HIM.
        *****PLEASE WHAT CAN I DO!!!!*********
        I need to prove these things so they are not just hear say how can i do that!!!!!??????
        Been there done that. I'm in the same situation . your story makes me want to beat the crap out of him. Listen, he is spiteful and has a bad attorney. you need people on your side. Keep getting proof video,audio, and if you cause him to lose his job by telling his boss your story he loses his attorney because he's unable to pay them or you should set him up for a felony. How about if he got drunk and woke up in a stolen car and a bystander called police.
        how about finding a tax violation and reort him to I.R.S. Get even and get rid of him.

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        • #5
          Originally posted by sevilm07
          Been there done that. I'm in the same situation . your story makes me want to beat the crap out of him. Listen, he is spiteful and has a bad attorney. you need people on your side. Keep getting proof video,audio, and if you cause him to lose his job by telling his boss your story he loses his attorney because he's unable to pay them or you should set him up for a felony. How about if he got drunk and woke up in a stolen car and a bystander called police.
          how about finding a tax violation and reort him to I.R.S. Get even and get rid of him.
          Please don't dredge up 3 month old posts.

          By now, this situation is already resolved.
          Not everything that makes you mad, sad or uncomfortable is legally actionable.

          I am not now nor ever was an attorney.

          Any statements I make are based purely upon my personal experiences and research which may or may not be accurate in a court of law.

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