I have a 4 month old daughter to a married man.
Who I was in a relationship with for 8 years, and he has been married the entire time. Throughout this 8 years he has been severely violent and extremely mentally and physically abusive to me. I have never had him arrested, though I have documented some of the many incidents. He assaulted me while I was pregnant, and after I had the baby, while she was in my arms and another time while I was breastfeeding her. One of those two times was witnessed by my sister. He has signed an acknowledgement of paternity form, and I have allowed him to come to the home I share with my parents daily to see our daughter. I moved from a home with him to here because of his abusive behavior. Recently he has become aggressive toward my father and mother, threatening them, basically terrorizing them in their own home, and yes, all of this radical behavior in front of my child. He is also an alcoholic with a history of DUI charges and other alcohol related incidents. And he insists on coming to see her very intoxicated at 3 or 4 am to wake her because "he has a right to see his daughter".
Recently he has informed me he will be having his lawyer contact me and will take me to court for custody of our daughter. He believes I was a promiscuous woman before I met him(which I was), and therefore am a bad mother. Even though I have not been with anyone but him in 8 years. He says he has witnesses to testify that I am a bad person. I have never been arrested, do not drink alcohol, or do drugs, as all of these do apply to him. I am solely breastfeeding my daughter, she has refused a bottle and I have a lactation consultant to testify to this. He even admitted to me that he used to sit with the child he had to his wife while she was at work, and leave him in a high chair ALL DAY while he got drunk and passed out!!!
, And that his wife has taken their infant child out at 3 or 4 am in snowstorms to wait in parking lots outside of bars for him, all because he ordered her to do so. She is also abused by him and will not refuse anything he orders her to do. He brags about this.
So. . . my question is, how likely is it, that if I request to a judge to grant him supervised visitation only, that he will if any at all? Or is it likely I will have to send my 4 month old baby off with this drunken monster? And does that fact that she refuses a bottle help me? What can I do to keep her safe and with me?

Recently he has informed me he will be having his lawyer contact me and will take me to court for custody of our daughter. He believes I was a promiscuous woman before I met him(which I was), and therefore am a bad mother. Even though I have not been with anyone but him in 8 years. He says he has witnesses to testify that I am a bad person. I have never been arrested, do not drink alcohol, or do drugs, as all of these do apply to him. I am solely breastfeeding my daughter, she has refused a bottle and I have a lactation consultant to testify to this. He even admitted to me that he used to sit with the child he had to his wife while she was at work, and leave him in a high chair ALL DAY while he got drunk and passed out!!!

So. . . my question is, how likely is it, that if I request to a judge to grant him supervised visitation only, that he will if any at all? Or is it likely I will have to send my 4 month old baby off with this drunken monster? And does that fact that she refuses a bottle help me? What can I do to keep her safe and with me?
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