Hi everyone! I'm looking for any advice or information that can be given towards my situation....
I have a 4yo daughter. Her father and I have never been married. Didn't really have much of a relationship. Off and on dating for a couple months(I was young, naive, and stupid). We were together maybe 2 months when I found out I was pregnant. He didn't want me to keep the child, and so we parted ways. Although I kept the same number for about two years after she was born, I haven't heard from him since I was pregnant. So, her father has never been in her life. He has never seen her, signed her birth certificate, paid child support, etc.
Obviously I had to grow up, so with the help of family I had my little girl and went to college. Almost two years ago I met a wonderful man, we dated while he and I finished up on our BA's, and finally married last month. For the past 6 months or so he has gradually expressed interest in adopting her. She sees him as her father, his parents as her grandparents, etc, so I don't see why not. However, I know nothing is that simple.
How do we go about this adoption when I have no way of locating the father in order to have him sign over his rights. I wouldn't even begin to know where to look. Are we better off just changing her last name to his, or should we grow through the whole process?
Any help is appreciated.
I have a 4yo daughter. Her father and I have never been married. Didn't really have much of a relationship. Off and on dating for a couple months(I was young, naive, and stupid). We were together maybe 2 months when I found out I was pregnant. He didn't want me to keep the child, and so we parted ways. Although I kept the same number for about two years after she was born, I haven't heard from him since I was pregnant. So, her father has never been in her life. He has never seen her, signed her birth certificate, paid child support, etc.
Obviously I had to grow up, so with the help of family I had my little girl and went to college. Almost two years ago I met a wonderful man, we dated while he and I finished up on our BA's, and finally married last month. For the past 6 months or so he has gradually expressed interest in adopting her. She sees him as her father, his parents as her grandparents, etc, so I don't see why not. However, I know nothing is that simple.
How do we go about this adoption when I have no way of locating the father in order to have him sign over his rights. I wouldn't even begin to know where to look. Are we better off just changing her last name to his, or should we grow through the whole process?
Any help is appreciated.
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