I know I'll probally hear alot of bad things from people but let me explain. I have 2 kids from my ex that I met while I was in the NAVY when I was 19. She lives in Seattle and I live in Philly. I have not seen the kids in 4 years. I've gone out there but it gets too expensive. She refuses to come out here. My mother and I have offered to pay for the plane tickets and she will not. Now, we have no court order. We agreed that I would pay $400 a month. I've done so for years. I never get any part of the tax refund and I'm not even sure if one of the kids is mine. She's got me by the balls. I don't know what to do. If I ask for a paternity test, she'll take me to court and I'll have to pay double or triple. I'm tired of being a paycheck. I can explain further if someone is willing to help me.