K1 Marriage Failing .... What are my options?

[dutchman2001nl]

Originally posted by Leslie66

Hi Dutch! How are you

and the Mrs.?
We are doing great. If we were any better, we'd
be 4 people.
It's such a wonderful feeling, being together. We';ll
have our 1st wedding-anniversary in 2 days, and it feels great to be
married to this wonderful woman. I am a blessed man
I went for my
Interim EAD yesterday, but they don't give it the same day here in
Kentucky, and I need to come back the 22nd to pick it up. I'm ready to
go working, it's boring being home all day.
Mrs. is doing great to....
working hard though as always.
How are things with you guy's?
Take care
please.....


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[JohnCindy]

Originally posted by dutchman2001nl

We are doing great.

If we were any better, we'd be 4 people.

It's such a wonderful

feeling, being together. We';ll have our 1st wedding-anniversary in 2
days, and it feels great to be married to this wonderful woman. I am a
blessed man

I went for my Interim EAD yesterday, but they don't

give it the same day here in Kentucky, and I need to come back the 22nd
to pick it up. I'm ready to go working, it's boring being home all day.

Mrs. is doing great to.... working hard though as always. How are

things with you guy's?

Take care please.....

Happy 1st
Anniversary!!! John and I celebrate ours on July 19th!



Cindy


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[Leslie66]

Originally posted by ironporer

........ abuser of

small animals

<snip>

Did you hear that, Ray? He
says that likes it's a bad thing.


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[dutchman2001nl]

Originally posted by JohnCindy

Happy 1st Anniversary!!!

John and I celebrate ours on July 19th!

Cindy

Happy 1st Anniversary to you too


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[JohnCindy]

Originally posted by dutchman2001nl

Happy 1st

Anniversary to you too

Time really does fly when you are
having fun


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[Leslie66]

Originally posted by dutchman2001nl

We are doing great.
<snip> How are things with you guy's? Take care

please.....

That's great. Tell Patricia hello for me.


We're doing really well. Khalid got his 2 year EAD and is already
working. He's also enrolled in some college courses. Funny thing, even
though he's from Marakesh, he thinks the heat in Texas is worse than
Africa. I'm afraid he's right.

Take is easy....

Leslie


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[dutchman2001nl]

Originally posted by Leslie66

That's great. Tell

Patricia hello for me.

We're doing really well. Khalid got his 2

year EAD and is already working. He's also enrolled in some college
courses. Funny thing, even though he's from Marakesh, he thinks the
heat in Texas is worse than Africa. I'm afraid he's right.

Take is

easy....

Leslie

We'll need to move to Texas then.... I
love the heat.
We were in FL recently for a vacation, and it was over
100F.... pretty nice.


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[Noorah101]

Originally posted by dutchman2001nl

We'll need to move

to Texas then.... I love the heat.

We were in FL recently for a

vacation, and it was over 100F.... pretty nice.

Dutch...OMG....come to Arizona! It's like an oven here!

Leslie,
Khalid would probably like the heat here...at least it's a DRY
heat....LOL

I have relatives in Florida and I can't stand the humidity
there!! It totally drains me.

Rene


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[dutchman2001nl]

Originally posted by Noorah101

Dutch...OMG....come to

Arizona! It's like an oven here!

Leslie, Khalid would probably

like the heat here...at least it's a DRY heat....LOL

I have

relatives in Florida and I can't stand the humidity there!! It totally
drains me.

Rene

Florida, Arizona, Texas.... I'll need
to talk to Patricia about me traveling so much


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[Leslie66]

Originally posted by Noorah101

Dutch...OMG....come to

Arizona! It's like an oven here!

Leslie, Khalid would probably

like the heat here...at least it's a DRY heat....LOL

I have

relatives in Florida and I can't stand the humidity there!! It totally
drains me.

Rene

It's deadly humid here
too............ Yucky-poo!!

Dutch, you can have this heat. I can't
stand July and August in Texas, but I wouldn't trade the winters.


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[Noorah101]

Originally posted by Leslie66

Dutch, you can have this

heat. I can't stand July and August in Texas, but I wouldn't trade the
winters.
Leslie, I'm with you on that one. When winter comes
here I remember why I suffer through summer


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[Andrew DeFaria]

jcapulet wrote:

Originally posted by psychobabbler1

You can grow up and try to make it work, or start getting packed up to go back from whence you came

Didn't she say adultery was an issue?

Yeah. And so? Many couples survive infidelity.
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[Andrew DeFaria]

marriagefailing wrote:

Nope, no life set up. No work. No real friends either, yet. I'm just seeing boundless opportunity that doesn't exist elsewhere.

Great. Glad you like America. Now go home and come back when you have
something to offer. We really don't need yet another foreigner who has
no means of support and just likes the opportunity of possibly
succeeding here. This is exactly why US immigration laws requiring
sponsorship. Sure a lot of people like the boundless opportunity that
America offers and they want to come here. But if we simply allowed that
to happen many would fail and then we have to bail them out.

You're husband was your sponsor. You lost your sponsor. You should go
home and come back if you still want to in a legal fashion, which will
entail either getting another sponsor be it marriage based or employment
based.

Sorry if this sounds harsh but I believe it to be reality.

Good luck.

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[Andrew DeFaria]

inquisitive40 wrote:

Some people just cheat for the buzz of cheating.

Ah... well that *is* a reason!

Saying people cheat for a reason kinda implies she can do something about it.

And sometimes, though rarely I would think, that reason is something
that can be fixed.

Not sure what she can do now,, Was it just a misreading of the guy OR did you think that he would change when you lived together?

Counseling would be a start in order to ascertain why he cheated.

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[Andrew DeFaria]

Leslie66 wrote:

Originally posted by dutchman2001nl

We are doing great. <snip> How are things with you guy's? Take care

please..... That's great. Tell Patricia hello for me. We're doing really well. Khalid got his 2 year EAD and is already working. He's also enrolled in some college courses. Funny thing, even though he's from Marakesh, he thinks the heat in Texas is worse than Africa. I'm afraid he's right. Take is easy.... Leslie

I know this will be unpopular however, doesn't BE have those private
message thingies so you you girls can have your "Hi, how are you?"/"Just
fine, and you" private conversion um... err.. *privately*.

Geeze. I feel like I'm listening in on somebody's cell phone!
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[Hypertweeky]

Originally posted by dutchman2001nl

We are doing great.

If we were any better, we'd be 4 people.

It's such a wonderful

feeling, being together. We';ll have our 1st wedding-anniversary in 2
days, and it feels great to be married to this wonderful woman. I am a
blessed man

I went for my Interim EAD yesterday, but they don't

give it the same day here in Kentucky, and I need to come back the 22nd
to pick it up. I'm ready to go working, it's boring being home all day.

Mrs. is doing great to.... working hard though as always. How are

things with you guy's?

Take care please.....

Aww
Dutchie!!
CONGRATULATIONS!!
You have been married for a
year? Wow time goes by fast!


Ps:Our anniversary is within 10 days, I
love being married!!


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[Hypertweeky]

Originally posted by marriagefailing

I came here on a

K1 visa, and we married within the 90 days. Two months post-marriage, it
is clear to us that the marriage is not working. We haven't yet filed
the AOS paperwork, and my US-citizen husband refuses to co-operate in
doing so. Is there any way for me to remain in the US permanently now?


Hey there:

I am so sorry to hear that. Is there anyway you
can work it out?, You went thru the K1 process, spent time separated..
isn't there anything you can do to remain with the man you learnt to
love?
You have been married for 2 months, It is hard at first because
living together 24/7 is very different than seeing each other every 5
months, it takes time to adjust to marriage life.. but if there is love,
every situation can be conquered, Maybe I am dreamer.. but That's the
way I think a marriage should be!
If you love him.. don't throw
everything away.. If you no longer love him.. the best thing is to walk
away, but be sure that's what you really want, because once you walk
away.. there might not be a turning back..
I wouldn't worry about my
immigration status if my marriage was failing.. but then again.. that's
me.
Look within your heart.. think twice and if you decide that separate
ways is what you really want.. then go ahead..
Good Luck!!


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[Folinskyinla]

Originally posted by marriagefailing

I came here on a

K1 visa, and we married within the 90 days. Two months post-marriage, it
is clear to us that the marriage is not working. We haven't yet filed
the AOS paperwork, and my US-citizen husband refuses to co-operate in
doing so. Is there any way for me to remain in the US permanently now?


Hi:

Talk to a lawyer on this one -- this is a gray area.
There IS case law that suggests that it is possible -- but it is pre-
1986 when they introduced the conditional stuff.

There is NO clear
answer on this.

It depends on how much you are willing to fight it.


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Cal. Bar Board of Legal Specialization


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[AnnaV]

Originally posted by Folinskyinla

Hi: Talk to a

lawyer on this one -- this is a gray area. There IS case law that
suggests that it is possible -- but it is pre-1986 when they introduced
the conditional stuff.

There is NO clear answer on this. It

depends on how much you are willing to fight it.

Hi, Mr. F,


Out of curiousity, which case law is that (it's going to be a slow
weekend here and I need something to sink my teeth into)? And if she
does fight for it, does she still have to show "positive equities"? I
doubt she has US citizen or PR relatives besides her husband, and I
doubt that she has established ties to the community or her job.

Anna


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[todai]

Originally posted by marriagefailing

I came here on a

K1 visa, and we married within the 90 days. Two months post-marriage, it
is clear to us that the marriage is not working. We haven't yet filed
the AOS paperwork, and my US-citizen husband refuses to co-operate in
doing so. Is there any way for me to remain in the US permanently now?



Have you thought about just finding someone else to marry?
You could file another aos with the new guy. There are lots of guys who
want to get married.


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[elenagreene]

Originally posted by AnnaV

Hi, Mr. F, Out of

curiousity, which case law is that (it's going to be a slow weekend here
and I need something to sink my teeth into)? And if she does fight for
it, does she still have to show "positive equities"? I doubt she has US
citizen or PR relatives besides her husband, and I doubt that she has
established ties to the community or her job.

Anna

I am
sorry you didn't have your marriage work out.


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[ray6]

Originally posted by todai

Have you thought about just

finding someone else to marry? You could file another aos with the new
guy. There are lots of guys who want to get married.
Thank you
toady.. aka Dave W ...another usless comment...


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[elenagreene]

I think that is a great idea to find another man to marry.
then you
could stay here in the USA.


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[Ranjini]

Originally posted by elenagreene

I think that is a

great idea to find another man to marry.

then you could stay here in

the USA.


hmmmmm.....


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[Ranjini]

Originally posted by ray6

And the troll gets another

new name

The cat is away, and the mice are at play.


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[Folinskyinla]

Originally posted by elenagreene

I think that is a

great idea to find another man to marry.

then you could stay here in

the USA.

Wrong.


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[Andrew DeFaria]

todai wrote:

Originally posted by marriagefailing

I came here on a K1 visa, and we married within the 90 days. Two months post-marriage, it is clear to us that the marriage is not working. We haven't yet filed the AOS paperwork, and my US-citizen husband refuses to co-operate in doing so. Is there any way for me to remain in the US permanently now?

Have you thought about just finding someone else to marry? You could file another aos with the new guy. There are lots of guys who want to get married.

That's fine but it just doesn't work like that. Sure she could get
married - but she's gotta leave the country soon. She cannot use
marriage to a USC at this point as a way to stay in the country. (And
getting married on such a rebound is *not* a good idea anyway).

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[dutchman2001nl]

Originally posted by Hypertweeky

Aww Dutchie!!

CONGRATULATIONS!!

You have been married for a year? Wow time goes by

fast!

Ps:Our anniversary is within 10 days, I love being

married!!
Thanks Hyper, Happy Anniversary to you guy's too


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[veryfunny]

Originally posted by elenagreene

I think that is a

great idea to find another man to marry.

then you could stay here

in the USA.

Don't you have to be deeply in love to get
married anymore?


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[ironporer]

Originally posted by todai

Have you thought about just

finding someone else to marry? You could file another aos with the new
guy. There are lots of guys who want to get married.

I
believe being married to two men at the same time is still illegal- even
in Utah. Might present some issues at AOS.

Since no one has asked
(everyone just assumes it was the evil man), who commited the adultery?
Your initial post would lead me to believe it was you- since he is so
adamant in his not wanting to continue the marriage. Just being nosey.


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