saveing my little girl

[Edward in Tx]

Last weekend i dropped my daughter off at the same place me and the ex exchange her for her weekend visits and my ex father in law came along.Well he needed to talk to me he says so he starts cussing me out and then pushed me i didnt touch him back i just called the police to make a report stateing that i was assulted by him and that he is obviously violant.The ex lives in the household with this man is it possiable that the law will see it in the best intrest of my daughter to get her out of the situation?this is the 2nd time he has done this...but the first time i have pressed charges? please help!



Edward in Texas

[xild]

You can press charges but I bet a judge will dismiss anything you say about your kids living in a violent household. A judge will simply see it as you're trying to get custody of the children.

File a complaint though, to document the incident.

[firefighter1816]

If the incident occured in front of your daughter you have grounds to call the child protective services in your area. They will question her and find out if your father in law has made verbal threats in front of her when your not around. Also instead of going to family court and stating that the father in law is violent you can request that your pick up and drop off place be designated at the police department because of the incidents. you may want to consider putting a cam corder in your car to record every pick up and drop off, this is very useful to all agencies. Do not disclose that you are recording. First make sure the use of a camera is legal in your county. Good Luck

[xild]

I absolutely love the camcorder idea. I had this happen to me as the woman who got strangled outside his house when I dropped my daughter off. A judge looked at me and called me a liar because we were in a custody battle.

Hopefully, things are different now. But yes, first things first, protect yourself and protect your child from seeing this type of behavior.

[elklaw]

If you have concerns that he is being violent around your daughter or is unbalanced, you should pursue modification of custody, but initially maybe ask DCS to investigate. You have a police report. That should be enough to get the process going. YOu also may want to speak with the child and the mother and others to get an idea about what may be going on also before taking action.

[afnam]

Originally Posted by elklaw

If you have concerns that he is being violent around your daughter or is unbalanced, you should pursue modification of custody, but initially maybe ask DCS to investigate. You have a police report. That should be enough to get the process going. YOu also may want to speak with the child and the mother and others to get an idea about what may be going on also before taking action.

Out of experience , the other party will usually lie in court,unless you have creditable witnesses to stand by your word. The video camera or a tape recorder is almost a must these days.The court system like to see a pattern by the agressor.This builds the proponderous of evidence . So the first time the individual acts like this they will most likely let him slide , especilly in Texas. But, if you keep taking notes,and making reports about everything that happens ,you will be able to use the negative activity to your advantage.Also,put a restraining order against this person, it will not take much for him to violate it. Out of all things , you have to keep your own nose clean .Someone will always have a micoscope on you as well.