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how to characterize them in a way that is *testable*. That being said... nobody has a "grand unified theory" of personality (AFAIK) yet; if any such theory is constructed it would be likely to be defined by the exceptions. So it's quite possible some of my pet memes will be consistent with a specific population (perhaps not a wide one, of course) of people. IOW I'm thinking that I'm populating some of the exceptions. Mind you, I tend to look at things from the "Selfish Gene" meme and consider the evolution of the human genome and how it influences the engine of thought. (Then again I could wax poetic as I claim the title of "Stand Up Philosopher". I don't have to have answers, you know, just questions.) Consider this, then: creativity is based on errors. -- Jack C Lipton | cupasoup at pele dot cx | http://www.asstr.org/~CupaSoup/ "While life is too short to be taken seriously, it also lasts for far too long to spend it with a stick up your ***." - me |
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many smaller theories of physics which are testable. Some of these work, and some have been discarded. It is a common logical mistake to conclude that "because we don't understand everything, that means we don't understand anything." Here is something testable. You believe that depression is caused by "social stresses." Take a group of 1000 people. You'll discover that some people who have low levels of stressors are depressed. You'll discover that others with quite high levels of stress are not depressed. Quote:
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I've said that social stresses are likely to be causative in SOME depression; to be specific, there is situational depression and structural depression. Both are "managable" via medication. If you don't pay attention and differentiate one from the other then Quote:
Antidepressants SELL so well because of situational stressors. They work as a treatment. If they actually provided a cure none of the drug companies would be for 'em since there's no long-term cash-flow. I don't think I ever said necessitated; people vary. Some *do* require long-term meds, some are more likely situational-- but because the meds render the symptoms unimportant, the situation is not dealt with directly. Back to situational stressors, so let's play with a subset of social/economic stressors as a "form of fun". OK, how about these words: Outsourcing Offshoring Utilization Targets Overtime Targets (Please note that I'm half expecting my job to be sent off-shore sometime in the next year or so. Only the bean-counters, executives and salesmen will be left.) Any of these things, when you're faced with them, will likely be an irritant. Some folks will face a short term "situational" depression before turning around and coping with them in a constructive fashion. As I said, *SOME*. Some will have coping mechanisms already in place and won't even notice. There are people who are depressed regardless of the situation. If Eeyore isn't a candidate for Prozac (or Paxcil, Zoloft, etc...) then who is? (My wife has told me that each of the "Pooh" characters are usually found in Psych units.) When there's something wrong with the neurotransmitter inventory, these meds are a life-saver. I'm of the opinion, however, that people who face many of the social stresses w/o some kind of "pressure relief" (be it sports or whatever; we're talking "play" here instead of "work" or other "chores") are more likely to face a situationally triggered despression. Note: "more likely". People vary in their coping skills. And one of the coping skills *IS* to find some form of "play" as an escape/discharge mechanism. That being said... - - - My personal form of play these days is Sailing. It's physical, I don't see it as unrewarding work and there is a sense of "power" in tapping the wind and wave to your own purposes. (There will be those who go "cool" and others wondering what kind of rocks I have in my head for not sitting with a beer watching Hockey games, especially w/ the Tampa Bay Lightning Bolts in the play-offs for the Stanley Cup.) Oh, yeah... the Stanley Cup is *NOT* an autographed athletic protector. :-) :-) -- Jack C Lipton | cupasoup at pele dot cx | http://www.asstr.org/~CupaSoup/ "While life is too short to be taken seriously, it also lasts for far too long to spend it with a stick up your ***." - me |
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cupasoup@peElMe.cx (Jack C Lipton) writes: Quote:
of the depression, it is important to treat it. If the underlying cause could be identified, it would be good to treat that, but we've always been very bad at that. Quote:
allegiance to Dawkins). Quote:
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antibiotics. Beware, your foil hat is showing! Quote:
frightening, stressful, and not caused by the invention (or marketing) of SSRIs. Quote:
taking SSRIs for a few months. Quote:
depressed. So maybe this confusion is about the confusion between clinically depressed (which can merit medication) and the popular definition of the word which is much broader. Quote:
depressed? Based on the people I know, I doubt that you would find sailing attractive in that situation. Depression seems to include (for many people) an inability to enjoy any activity. I think you've been trying to make the argument that we use drugs to deal with depression instead of dealing with it in some better way like we used to in some halcyon (not Halcion(tm)) days. Do I misunderstand your argument? If I'm _not_ misunderstanding you, then I think you're making an error by imagining that depression was dealt with in a good way before the days of antidepressants. |
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At one time depression, when the depressive had any money, was being "treated" via psychoanalysis. I'm pretty sure that people will agree with me that this is not a particularly productive treatment for "structural" depression but would be useful for the situational variety. One of my "beefs" with passing out antidepressants like candy is that situational depression is NOT being differentiated; very little effort is being taken to trying to bring these folks *off* of antidepressants. So, nowadays, it seems that all those facing depression are being treated as if they have a structurally caused depression. Quote:
depression needs some education in coping mechanisms (or at least deeper research) in order to just get out of the habit of passing out meds and waiting for the patient to go away. In the USA these days the Psychiatrist is prescribing the med and just sees the patient to ensure that the meds are actually doing their jobs (and to prescribe other meds to manage side defects) and seldom does a deeper dive into the background of the depression. That's the job of the psychologist... and most medical plans don't want to cover the costs of treatment (it seems cheaper to just hand over antidepressants for the rest of the patient's life). Quote:
psychoanalysis works for the situationally depressed but is completely useless when dealing with structurally depressed people. The frustration of the structurally depressed, IMHO, leaked over so those facing a low point in their lives (and who just needed education in managing the stresses) would get lumped in with the group who really _do_ need the meds to find balance. Of course it doesn't help that health plans in the USA don't want to cope with emotional disturbances so any kind of Psych care tends to be treated as a "self-inflicted" wound and so no one (except the very wealthy) can afford to be properly evaluated. The question is how well is the disease being managed? Depression is no less real than diabetes; it's just that some folks can escape depression because it's not built in to their body chemistry (like some Type II's) while others will be dependant upon outside meds for the rest of their lives (like Type I's) with no hope of reprieve. My key point is that some of those w/ situational depression are being treated as structural even though it's only a matter that their coping skills fall short. Quote:
being over-prescribed (for viral infections, too) many of them are losing the effectiveness as resistant pathogens evolve on exposure. I agree with the point of treatment/cure for organic issues here; there's no real choice in handling infections. That being said... have you looked at what diabetics go through? The glucose meter is pretty cheap but requires consumables (test strips are NOT cheap!) in order to work. Some work has been done to study ways to do this in both a non-invasive way (and w/o the need for test strips) but between costs of FDA testing and the like the tester would be priced *way* out of line. I doubt my wife is an example of what diabetics go through- even though we _can_ afford the strips, etc, she still chooses *not* to check her BG (and implies it's because she wants to save money). Quote:
with them well. My point is that for those who do not have a good inventory of coping skills the candy is a wonderful means to manage the stress... the medical system taking the "easy way out"... until the health care costs end up on the patient and they have no choice but to find a coping mechanism without any help. Quote:
from depression and does not break it down further into the structural (where a chemical imbalance is inbuilt) and situational (where coping mechanisms fall short). SSRIs (and their predecessors) treat these equally well. Unfortunately, little further DX is done to see whether talking to or educating the patient is going to help them come off of the med. There are people for whom the meds will be there for life... but that's *hopefully* not true of everybody. So, yeah, it might be a good idea to pass the meds to the situationally depressed *BUT* it should include additional evaluation to help decide whether the person is really structurally rather than situationally depressed. Some can be weaned off the meds... but IMHO seldom is there enough effort by the Psychiatrist or Psychologist to find that point. Quote:
coping skills and who internalizes rather than discharges stress will usually be considered as "depressed" to an MD. SSRIs make it easy to NOT do that extra work using doctors which the Health Neglect Plans *like*. Quote:
one. She seems to enjoy the boat to some degree and has been working up her confidence in handling the tiller as I work the lines. I have been situationally depressed but did not want to go on meds; I've been on the ropes more than once but managed (somehow) to "tough it out" (all right, so I had some help; people here talked to me and pointed me at things to read, etc, that helped me grow out of what I was). I can at least state the suicidal ideation, while not completely flushed, is not the serious issue it once was. I will admit that a depressive spike sucks the enthusiasm of living/playing right out of you and so, while in such a spike, sailing would not be much fun, the *thought* that I have an "escape" keeps any spikes from sending me far enough down to lose all interest in life. Quote:
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(for the most part) turned it's back on other treatments now that handing out the meds is so much easier. Switching back to organic issues... *SOME* Type II diabetics can be treated via diet. If the patient puts effort into it they can eventually be weaned off the meds (though I doubt they will never escape testing their Blood Glucose on a regular schedule). This is a laudable goal but requires the ability to recognize WHICH patients this will work for... which, to be perfectly honest, I've little idea of how this can be discovered. So a (perhaps small) percentage of Type II diabetics can escape the use of oral meds to deal with their shortfall of insulin (all right, so it's usually something "wrong" with the insulin being produced). (I'm married to a Type II, BTW, who is also depressed, has Fibromyalgia, arthritis and tends to have problems breathing. I do not think she's in the running for escaping Type II but we know people-- very few-- who have.) Type I diabetics have no choice but to take insulin since they're bodies had an auto-immune reaction and their bodies suddenly thought "whoa! these Islets of Langerhans sure sound like foreign territory to me!" so there's effectively no insulin being produced. (I've some friends who are Type I diabetics. It hurts.) In effect, both have structural problems but for a small proportion of the Type IIs (by altering diet, losing weight, etc) the symptoms can be reduced to near-zero impact. Finally, a few words about stress. I've been told that stress can look like damn near any other ailment. After my TIAs last year I went through a whole bunch of tests and no organic reason for the hypertensive episodes have been found (I'm 50; my carotoid dopplers were apparently surprisingly clean, my MRI/MRA showed no problem w/ my arteries in my brain, my echocardiogram was unremarkable, my thallium stress test showed nothing extraordinary and my angiogram apparently indicated nominal operation of my heart) and a neurologist asked me if I was under any unusual stresses. When I rattled off the first 7 that came to mind he nodded, adding, "Yes, that'd do it." However my MD tells me that stress can mimic almost any malady (including some cancers) which makes me wonder if there is something basically *wrong* with the social structure we've built for ourselves. -- Jack C Lipton | cupasoup at pele dot cx | http://www.asstr.org/~CupaSoup/ "While life is too short to be taken seriously, it also lasts for far too long to spend it with a stick up your ***." - me |
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"Jack C Lipton" <cupasoup@peElMe.cx> wrote in message news:slrncbea6s.qj.cupasoup@soup2nets.net.dhis.org ... Quote:
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"Doug Anderson" <ethelthelogremovethis@yahoo.com> wrote in message news:XPQtc.3089$3x.2806@attbi_s54... Quote:
social stress causes depression, and two, that levels of social stress are actually increasing. |
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"Joy" <joydoesntlikespam@nospam.yahoo.com> writes:
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that there is an effective way to teach coping skills that will help some clinically depresssed people become undepressed. |
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I'm smart enough to be aware that there *is* an structural (i.e. "organic") form of depression as well as situational. Psychotherapy/Teaching does *nothing* for them so the old treatment regime was ineffective. I'm basically pointing out that instead of working to cure those who DO NOT have a permanent organic issue w/ their neurotransmitter levels. I'm also irritated that he's so thick about using the term "clinically depressed" because BOTH forms will present as "clinical depression" but these are subsets of the whole. Now occasionally I have been pretty damn thick myself but Doug makes me look positively inventive. And for once it seems I've found someone better than me at playing stupid... which is a relief. In any case, I believe that depression isn't just one thing-- and I may be under-flexible in only thinking there's two mechanisms for it, so these various subsets would require some thought and even (perhaps) varying care plans. Instead it's easier to tell someone to take an SSRI and not deal with it further to discover the etymology. One care plan, one treatment protocol... It was awful for structural depressives back when psychotherapy w/ no antidepressants was the usual treatment protocol, but I'm of the opinion that just throwing SSRIs at 'em now isn't exactly a clear improvement for _all_ cases. (IOW those with an organically-derived "structural depression" are the people most able to benefit.) For the people who are NOT normally depressed via organic issues (as I consider "situational") I do believe that stresses that "civilization" brings (and the key tenet of "non-violence") may place some folks at a disadvantage because sublimation mechanisms are not necessarily trivial to build and maintain. -- Jack C Lipton | cupasoup at pele dot cx | http://www.asstr.org/~CupaSoup/ "While life is too short to be taken seriously, it also lasts for far too long to spend it with a stick up your ***." - me |
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cupasoup@peElMe.cx (Jack C Lipton) writes:
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depression and "situational" depression. And I suggest that you aren't either, and that actually your distinction is between clinical depression, and the popular sense of the word. |
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cupasoup@peElMe.cx (Jack C Lipton) writes:
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days when we could loll around in the caves all day with the occasional foray through the garden of eden for nuts and berries. |
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effort to continue "increasing" worker productivity. While understandable, there are limits because human beings are emergent rather than deterministic so we do not perform well like robots. ISO-9000 (and -9001) along with SEI/CMM seem to be top-down structures intended to hem humans into small cages with little/no opportunity for individual initiative... in effect building a caste system. Meanwhile, corporations are paying more attentio to their institutional investors who have completely different strategies to satisfy THEIR customers than the regular corporations. Publicly held companies have serious problems when they're popular w/ the institutions. The things I'm seeing (and I'm not as oppressed as others are, but I keep my eyes open wondering when it's going to be _my_ turn) is that the people who actually *DO* the work are seeing little for their efforts... all because the company can threaten to send their work off-shore. It's the same kind of pressure company owners put on the workers that strengthened the Klan: "work these wages or I'll hire those fellas over there for less" so the current effort at globalization exists to put steady pressure on those providing labor to keep the price of labor down. At the same time executive compensation is out of all control in the US... but not elsewhere. Why can't the USA globalize the executives? Or is there really some uncoordinated effort to form a caste system in the US? (Gawd... the things that hit me sometimes. There were some studies done almost a hundred years ago that looked into efficiency and stress in the workplace and stress was found to be a cause of inefficiency... and I recall that when the workers didn't feel cornered by giving them some control over their environment that productivity went up. I wish I remember the cite on this study...) -- Jack C Lipton | cupasoup at pele dot cx | http://www.asstr.org/~CupaSoup/ "While life is too short to be taken seriously, it also lasts for far too long to spend it with a stick up your ***." - me |
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short of using antidepressants. The second responds to antidepressants but should not be a life-long dependancy on the meds... but the opportunity to study mechanisms to get them off of the meds aren't being taken... so it's cheaper to provide the SSRIs as a coping mechanism. Quote:
that it's not in my blood though it looks like it's in my wife's. It *may* be wishful thinking but I'd like to hope that her history (and having to live with me) would support the idea that her's is more situational. :-) :-) :-) I'm also aware that at my most depressed I've never been reduced to just sitting in one place waiting for the fear of movement to lift, so I know that I am unlikely to have been "clinically depressed" (though some have suggested that I go on SSRIs to keep me from getting depressed). I recognize that stress plays a different role in how I malfunction (TIAs, for instance; my neurologist said I've probably been having them on-and-off for some time but it's only when it hits in a motor/sensory zone that I notice, like when my left arm "got distant" one day; feeling one's IQ drop is frightening too) so it can come out in many ways. I do not know if I would be considered "clinically depressed" whilst in the middle of a spike; it is easier for a doctor to say "hmm" and prescribe an SSRI because they've got to see the next patient in order to maintain their throughput targets. -- Jack C Lipton | cupasoup at pele dot cx | http://www.asstr.org/~CupaSoup/ "While life is too short to be taken seriously, it also lasts for far too long to spend it with a stick up your ***." - me |
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cupasoup@peElMe.cx (Jack C Lipton) writes:
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now affecting white-collar workers as well as blue collar ones whereas hitherto we were ina privileged minority. But working conditions for most people who work for big companies have always been sub-optimal in that people see little return for their efforts. Quote:
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ever be taken off of SSRIs without relapsing." and "It is situational if you can eventually be taken off of SSRIs perhaps with some talk-therapy." Is that correct? This definition includes no treatment guidelines right? You have to treat all cases as if they are "situational" since the only way you know if they are or aren't is if you can wean the patient from his or her meds with talk therapy. So I have to say I find this a useless distinction. But I'd go further - I don't even find it a distinction. Depression can measurably alter the brain's chemistry. SSRIs can change that for the better. In some cases the change sticks after SSRIs are discontinued. So by your definition that would be "situational" even though the disorder was verifiable "organic." To me the distinction you are trying to make is a false dichotomy. But we westerners love those, so you're in an old traditiion. Now I agree with you that talk-therapy can have a useful role in people's lives, including in learning to deal with depression. But I'm not convinced it can have a useful role if the depression isn't also treated with medication. |
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"Jack C Lipton" <cupasoup@peElMe.cx> wrote in message news:slrncbjf1f.cep.cupasoup@soup2nets.net.dhis.or g... Quote:
related aspects to our culture. For instance, for a lot of people the family is still the center of their lives - for quite a lot of people, church is still a big part of their "culture" - there is the "gym" part of the culture, the "community" part of the culture, etc. I live in a small town in the south, and still the arts are a big part of "the culture" around here. Work is only part of it. and financial/economic Quote:
because things do change. I think your implication is that pressures are greater, though, and I'm not sure I buy that. Think back a hundred years or more to when we were a more agrarian society. If you were a farmer, and the crops failed, you and your family went hungry. Now THAT strikes me as financial/economic pressure - even greater than that experienced today. |
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"Jack C Lipton" <cupasoup@peElMe.cx> wrote in message news:slrncbjv6l.dio.cupasoup@soup2nets.net.dhis.or g... Quote:
young. Most people farmed for a living - now THERE are some long hours with pretty strict productivity goals and a crappy pay rate. And talk about behavior restrictions - those darned puritans would burn you at the stake for a witch if you didn't "fit in". The pay rate was pretty crappy, too - but nobody worried about maximizing the work/life balance because your life *was* work.... My point is that while life today is different - and I'd certainly agree that it is - it isn't necessarily more stressful. |
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line, although I sure would like to box it in that way, and think there is - nice neat little packages. I bet, in reality, it's a continuum, that is, it is on a scale. So if you did a biopsy on a bunch of people who have suffered from depression in their lives, you would find various shades of gray, biochemically speaking (so to speak). At one extreme would be those who should use ADs to make up for a biochemical deficiency, and at the other, those who don't. With shades of gray in between. |
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"Jack C Lipton" <cupasoup@peElMe.cx> wrote in message
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with the creativity within you and find a productuve niche for yourself that has not been optimized away. Maybe you can get paid for what you love to do, by finding a way to publish your writings. The key hidden resource of American* techies such as you and me is creativity: the ability to look at something that has been seen in a mundane way 10**N times (for some large value of N) and seeing it differently than it ever has been seen before. Here is an ancecdote to consider... the first interview I landed, over 3 months ago, was with the firm to which my former management is outsourcing my old group's work. (The promises to only do the old generation of the product we support has since been broken.) It was liberating to realize that they were _afraid_ of me. That they did not feel confident in their ability to manage Americans, particularly those whose old jobs went to this firm. Your humanity, which seems like a burden so much of a time, will be (IMO) the source of your deliverance. Hang in there and believe in yourself! -- Tsam (*I'm using this too-broad term, which I usually avoid, to remind him that I'm another rider in his particular handbasket, wondering where wer're going. I'm doing this because our common bond is key to the emotional side of this messsage. I'll be more accurate in posts where the NG as a whole is the intended audience.) |
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with efforts to diagnose since, damnit, we're all unique. What complicates matters, IMHO, is that other influences over serotonin and the like exist, like diet. These kinds of influences will complicate matters when it comes to diagnosis and treatment. The problem now is that with SSRIs there's no real effort to discover the different shadings of clinical depression; with an effective treatment via meds there's little motivation to take a closer look. (shrugs) "Problem solved, so what's the next drug we need? Oh, a drug to enable impotent men to have erections?" Now there's research to find a med to boost a woman's libido... (*sigh*) I'm not sure I want to need meds to turn me on and turn me off... -- Jack C Lipton | cupasoup at pele dot cx | http://www.asstr.org/~CupaSoup/ "While life is too short to be taken seriously, it also lasts for far too long to spend it with a stick up your ***." - me |
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later. I thought the anti-depressants really only worked on clinical depression -- depression caused by abnormal brain chemistry -- that they *didn't* work on situational depression (otherwise known as unhappiness, I think.) Have I picked up the wrong impression somwhere? Ted |
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depression, I had situational depression. A long laundry list of traumatic, emotional events had happened to me over a period of of months and, as the doctor explained it to me, my brain was in high overdrive as far as producing seratonin. So, I went on ADs to (as the doctor put it) get my brain back to 'idle'. (Where it has remained every since. There, I said it first. :P) From my reading back then, there is a distinction between (if I recall the terms correctly) exogenous depression and endogenous. Or 'depression from the outside' and 'depression from the inside.' The mechanics of the depression is the same, the causes are dif- ferent. Where people get confused, IMO, is when they confuse situational depression with 'being unhappy.' There's as comparable as a splinter in your big toe and having your leg amputated without anesthesia. And ADs work just fine with situational depression. Tracey |
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where he was equating "situational depression" with "unhappiness." My point was that ADs don't make people happy, and hence are not useful treatments for unhappiness. |
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"Jack C Lipton" <cupasoup@peElMe.cx> wrote in message
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among the employees of a large firm whose management seems to have lost interest in our former core business was that selling this business to foreign owners who would want to be in this business would be functionally equivalent to outsourcing management. -- Tsam |
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"Jack C Lipton" <cupasoup@peElMe.cx> wrote in message
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I have long (and still) been blamed by someone less functional than I, long unable to hold a job, for failing to get the prescription for pills to make me accept her treatment without becoming too distracted to work effectively. This becomes another instance of being "unable to do as I'm supposed to" by someone who claims to "not run people". I get told that shouting for one of several hours as a reaction to frustration is her "being real", and that my strenuous efforts to not shout back is "cruel psychological speak" that is the "true abuse". Someone who, when stuck in her frustrations, becomes a different person who confuses her internal pain with the right to judge reality for her family. It is truly confusing that following therapists' advice to be assertive is not effective, but compassionately seeing her side is. It may be that the difference in Jack's case is similar, an insistance that her problems must be external to her and must be treated by changing me. This sounds very similar to what shows as "depression" in Jack -- the presence of a carrier who claims no symptoms. -- Tsam |
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"Tsam Nami" <tsam-nami@tidal.wav> wrote in message
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here are some ideas for improved job security: - information security Outsourcing companies can show their short-sightedness by failing to protect their information assets. The security to counter this blindness is a skill that involves creativity in anticipating threats before they have been demonstrated. - CSI In a job-seeking support group, this was suggested for recycled engineers. It is a skill where methodical work is needed, and it can be viewed as helping prove the innocent innocent. -- Tsam |
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"Doug Anderson" <ethelthelogremovethis@yahoo.com> wrote in message
news:aczuc.18777$IB.136@attbi_s04... Quote:
depression." I was not aware that situations (e.g., some serious crisis) could bring about chemical changes that were, in some sense, self-perpetuating in that talk or behavioral or other therapy not using drugs was ineffective -- even though unhealthy brain chemistry wasn't the cause of the depression, it became what keeps it going. Ted |
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stressful events (some good, some bad) are given different scores and if you score over a certain amount, you're in danger of a stress- related illness? I took one of those around the time of being put on ADs and I had a score that was 3-4 times higher than the cutoff line. In about a year and a half, I married, endured a long geographical separation from my new husband, left a 10 year career, moved (twice), my sister died, a major holiday occurred, I moved twice, my grandmother died, my grandfather died, my dad had a heart attack, I got pregnant, I had a baby, I spent a summer with a stepson I had never met before he arrived, my marriage was falling apart with me having no clue as to what exactly was wrong, and, the topper, I found out my husband was ready to leave me for another woman. By the time my counselor said 'You need to go on ADs. Go to a doctor,' I had 'been unhappy' for pretty much nine months straight with the previous 6 months or so containing lots of emotional/traumatic events. My brain had started seeing that chemical imbalance as balanced and wasn't able to correct it to normal. The abnormal had become normal to it. I was on ADs for 8 or 9 months and haven't needed them since (that was 8 or 9 years ago now.) Tracey |
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