my 11 year old does not want to spend every other weekend with her dad. we have joint custody, but he lives out of state, and takes her and my younger daughter to his apt with his girlfriend, refusing to allow them to go to any events, parties, soccer games, or participate in school activities, etc.... my older daughter especially is anxious, and unhappy. what can i do? do i force her to go? can she say no. my x keeps saying that i am interfering with his visitation each time i tell him that she has something like a good friends party, school function etc... he wont take them to anything. i am heat siclk.. please help..my daughter is becoming very anxious and feels bullied by her dad.