My wife and I have been married for 2 years now and things have been
getting increasingly worse. She has 2 kids which I never adopted
because of her wishes (more on that later). We got married in
September 2001, went on our honeymoon in the beginning of October and
while we were on our honeymoon, the apartment we were living in went
up for sale. We managed to buy a condo when we got back and moved in
on Christmas Eve. That night, my wife and I were having a few drinks,
but my wife had a few too many. A very serious argument broke out
between my wife and her older daughter (18 years old at the time) and
my wife beat the crap out of her. Punched her square in the face
repeatedly. I pulled her off and then her daughter ran into the
bathroom, locked the door, and called the police. Then she turned on
me. When the police came to the door, my wife told me that she would
get the kids to say that it was me and that she would make sure that I
was the one who got into trouble. The police asked me some question
and then took her away to spend the night in jail. Her oldest daughter
went to the hospital to get checked out while I stayed home with the
youngest (Then 3 years old). My wife has had physically abusive
episodes since towards me. I have been emotionally and verbally abused
constantly throughout our relationship and I can't take it anymore.
She has done other things but this is the worst. We once got a laptop
an we didn't have 24 hours before she snatched it from my hands and
broke it. The list goes on and on.
She has complete control over the finances and I have to ask
permission to do anything financially. If I need gas, I have to ask.
She has complete control over my life and seems to feel the need to
control everyone else's life. She doesn't work; I am the only source
of income except for the child support she receives every week from
the children's father (See second sentence above). I have no say in
what the kids do or how they act. The youngest gets away with anything
she wants. When she gets angry at me, she almost always does it in
front of the children and then makes me look bad. This makes the
children not like me. It's as if she turns them away from me.
Every time I need something, like my car fixed, we never have the
money. But when her car needs fixed, it's in the shop the next day. I
asked her why that was and she said that I have caused the family
monetary hardship. This was due to some bills that weren't paid off
when we got married. But it wasn't that bad.
The mortgage for the condo is under my name but both of us had to sign
it, she has 2 kids (Not my own) but doesn't have a job. I can't live
like this anymore. I'm married to a psycho and I need suggestions.