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  • #16
    K1 Marriage Failing .... What are my options?


    Originally posted by marriagefailing
    Nope, no life set
    up. No work. No real friends either, yet. I'm just seeing boundless
    opportunity that doesn't exist elsewhere.
    What country do you
    come from...?


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    • #17
      K1 Marriage Failing .... What are my options?


      Originally posted by marriagefailing
      I came here on a
      K1 visa, and we married within the 90 days. Two months post-marriage, it
      is clear to us that the marriage is not working. We haven't yet filed
      the AOS paperwork, and my US-citizen husband refuses to co-operate in
      doing so. Is there any way for me to remain in the US permanently now?


      Gosh my heart breaks for you. I pray for the best for you.
      Take care and keep us posted on your progress.

      Like Rene
      suggested.......... maybe marriage counceling. It can help people who
      have been married a long time........ maybe there is still hope and you
      and husband. The flame may be low but hopefully it isn't out and you
      can find that spark that you had when you married him.

      Cindy


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      • #18
        K1 Marriage Failing .... What are my options?


        Originally posted by marriagefailing
        Married out of
        love, but now want to stay.
        We loved each other (from a distance)
        for a couple of years. Vacationed together, spoke every other day, wrote
        each other constantly. But that's a little different than 24 x 7 as
        we've discovered. 24 x 7 isn't working at all. You discover a lot about
        a person that can change your perspective when you live with them.Never really married for the sake of being in the US, but now that I'm
        here, I REALLY want to stay.


        I'm sorry if this sounds harsh,
        but welcome to the reality of marriage. Of course being together 24/7
        is different than just spending short times together. It's a hell of a
        lot easier to walk away than it is to work things out, but if you really
        love each other, then you need to give it time and really try. It's
        only been a couple months, which is not enough time to really deal with
        the issues. You can grow up and try to make it work, or start getting
        packed up to go back from whence you came. The choice is yours.

        Flame
        away if you feel you must, but that's the way it is.


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        • #19
          K1 Marriage Failing .... What are my options?


          Originally posted by marriagefailing
          Nope, no life set
          up. No work. No real friends either, yet. I'm just seeing boundless
          opportunity that doesn't exist elsewhere.

          I am not sure what
          country you are from but coming from Europe (Ireland) myself I find the
          US very like Europe in a lot of ways, standard of living and lifestyle
          are similar. The main thing I would miss if I moved back to Ireland
          would be the sunshine here (California). To say the opportunities here
          do not exist anywhere else is a little unrealistic. The US is a great
          country but the same lifestyle can be had in many other countries.

          Hope
          it all works out for you
          Patrick


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          • #20
            K1 Marriage Failing .... What are my options?


            Originally posted by inquisitive40
            I am not sure what
            country you are from but coming from Europe (Ireland) myself I find the
            US very like Europe in a lot of ways, standard of living and lifestyle
            are similar. The main thing I would miss if I moved back to Ireland
            would be the sunshine here (California). To say the opportunities here
            do not exist anywhere else is a little unrealistic. The US is a great
            country but the same lifestyle can be had in many other countries.Hope it all works out for you
            Patrick
            Exactly..... yes
            that's right.
            I couldn't have said it any better.


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            • #21
              K1 Marriage Failing .... What are my options?

              britchicknyc wrote:
              Originally posted by marriagefailing
              You hit the nail on the head on the issue of adultery, I'm afraid
              What a horrid situation! I feel bad for you. I have a feeling, maybe someone else can clarify, that you might have a chance of staying based on the fact it might be unreasonable to expect you to stay in the marriage. Good luck to you....i'll follow your posts.
              While adultery can sometimes be overcome it takes a lot of work. I'm
              more curious why you *REALLY *(emphasis yours) wish to remain? What
              happened to you is not good. I would also think (guessing here) that you
              don't have a lot of roots/family here to start with (otherwise if you
              *REALLY* wish to remain perhaps you could come back sponsored by them)
              and I also doubt you have managed to established true, life long
              friendships in a mere two months. Being you're gonna be going through a
              lot most people would think you would want to be back home where you can
              be consoled by friends and family there. As such, again, why do you
              *REALLY* wish to stay here?

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              • #22
                K1 Marriage Failing .... What are my options?


                Originally posted by psychobabbler1
                You can grow up and
                try to make it work, or start getting packed up to go back from whence
                you came

                Didn't she say adultery was an issue?


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                • #23
                  K1 Marriage Failing .... What are my options?


                  Originally posted by jcapulet
                  Didn't she say adultery
                  was an issue?
                  Hey, long time no see... how are things?


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                  • #24
                    K1 Marriage Failing .... What are my options?


                    Originally posted by dutchman2001nl
                    Hey, long time no
                    see... how are things?

                    Hey Dutchman! I just sent you a
                    message


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                    • #25
                      K1 Marriage Failing .... What are my options?


                      Originally posted by jcapulet
                      Hey Dutchman! I just sent
                      you a message
                      I sent you one too


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                      • #26
                        K1 Marriage Failing .... What are my options?


                        Originally posted by jcapulet
                        Didn't she say adultery
                        was an issue?

                        Yes, which I didn't read until after I posted.
                        It makes the problem
                        definitely more complicated but I still stand by
                        what I wrote. IMO, ou shouldn't bail out on a marriage until every
                        effort is made to save it (exceptions being the obvious spouse abuse,
                        child abuse and I also include animal cruelty because it's a warning
                        sign of worse things). People cheat for a reason. I don't condone it
                        but it could be something that could be worked out. If not, then as I
                        said, time to pack up and leave.


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                        • #27
                          K1 Marriage Failing .... What are my options?


                          Originally posted by psychobabbler1
                          Yes, which I didn't
                          read until after I posted. It makes the problem
                          definitely more
                          complicated but I still stand by what I wrote. IMO, ou shouldn't bail
                          out on a marriage until every effort is made to save it (exceptions
                          being the obvious spouse abuse, child abuse and I also include animal
                          cruelty because it's a warning sign of worse things). People cheat for
                          a reason. I don't condone it but it could be something that could be
                          worked out. If not, then as I said, time to pack up and leave.


                          Some people just cheat for the buzz of cheating. Saying
                          people cheat for a reason kinda implies she can do something about it.

                          Not sure what she can do now,, Was it just a misreading of the guy OR
                          did you think that he would change when you lived together?
                          Patrick


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                          • #28
                            K1 Marriage Failing .... What are my options?


                            Originally posted by marriagefailing
                            I came here on a
                            K1 visa, and we married within the 90 days. Two months post-marriage, it
                            is clear to us that the marriage is not working. We haven't yet filed
                            the AOS paperwork, and my US-citizen husband refuses to co-operate in
                            doing so. Is there any way for me to remain in the US permanently now?



                            Do a search here for "AGUILA". His situation is similar to
                            yours.

                            Good luck.


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                            • #29
                              K1 Marriage Failing .... What are my options?


                              Originally posted by dutchman2001nl
                              Exactly..... yes
                              that's right.
                              I couldn't have said it any better.

                              Hi
                              Dutch! How are you and the Mrs.?


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                              • #30
                                K1 Marriage Failing .... What are my options?


                                Originally posted by inquisitive40
                                Some people just
                                cheat for the buzz of cheating. Saying people cheat for a reason kinda
                                implies she can do something about it.
                                Not sure what she can do now,,
                                Was it just a misreading of the guy OR did you think that he would
                                change when you lived together?
                                Patrick
                                The reasons for the
                                marriage not working are sort of water under the bridge now. It
                                doesn't sound like either one of them wants to stay together, and the
                                choice is definitely theirs. However, regarding the OP's main
                                question, the answer is still no. If the USC spouse won't comply with
                                completing the AOS process, she simply can't stay here legally. Had
                                the problems started after submission of the paperwork, she might have
                                had a chance. She will need the USC's I-864 to submit with the AOS
                                papers, even if she wanted to go it alone, and he doesn't want to help.
                                So there you have it.

                                Rene


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