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    >WhansaMi wrote:
    But then, why plan it in the first place?!Well, it is like the Sister Hazel concert we missed -- we both like themusic, we'd both like to be able to hear it live, DH was willing to put upwith the crowd to hear them, but, when the time came, I didn't want tobe rushed anymore (we'd already been structured earlier in the day) and his his thinking about his ambivalence about being in crowds meant that when I said, "You know, I really want to rush to try to get there and all", he readily agreed.
    Why not only "plan" to attend events that sell tickets at the door?beeswing
    We do a lot of that too! But, we like having the option to go to things that
    require planning. I guess that is the mindset we've developed -- buying the
    tickets gives us the option of going.

    Sheila

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    • Disappointment....

      >WhansaMi wrote:
      But then, why plan it in the first place?!Well, it is like the Sister Hazel concert we missed -- we both like themusic, we'd both like to be able to hear it live, DH was willing to put upwith the crowd to hear them, but, when the time came, I didn't want tobe rushed anymore (we'd already been structured earlier in the day) and his his thinking about his ambivalence about being in crowds meant that when I said, "You know, I really want to rush to try to get there and all", he readily agreed.
      Why not only "plan" to attend events that sell tickets at the door?beeswing
      We do a lot of that too! But, we like having the option to go to things that
      require planning. I guess that is the mindset we've developed -- buying the
      tickets gives us the option of going.

      Sheila

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      • Disappointment....

        [email protected] (WhansaMi) wrote in message news:<[email protected]>...
        We do a lot of that too! But, we like having the option to go to things that require planning. I guess that is the mindset we've developed -- buying the tickets gives us the option of going.
        We're kinda sorta similar, but different. :-)

        We are not very big couch potatoes and do go out 3-4 times a week.
        But, we rarely plan things in advance. Instead, we plan the day of the
        event. DF checks the online calendars in the morning, emails me a list
        of activities going on that night, and we decide then to book the
        tickets, or (if the activities are free or we don't expect them to
        sell out) we'll hold off until after work to see what we feel up to.
        That usually means we go out - it's just we wait until last minute to
        choose between activities.

        There are exceptions, of course. Like recently, when we saw Mamma Mia
        for my bday. DF booked those tickets a week in advance. Almost
        everything else, we wait until that day, cuz you never know if
        something better to do is going to come up (especially the last-minute
        free theater ticket offers we get from our mailing list).

        We do the couch potato/veg thing a few times a week, too. Our usual
        thing this summer, on the Sundays w/o kids, is to hang in our backyard
        in our hammock, alternating naps with reading our books. And
        weeknights, when we opt to stay in, we spend time visiting over wine
        on our patio, then curl up in bed with some ice cream and watch South
        Park.

        DF tends to get impatient when we plan to do things with other people.
        The logistics get too complicated and make his head spin. It's one
        thing if it's just us (with or w/o my DD's). Quite another if we have
        to juggle our schedule with other people's schedules. We still manage
        to go out with our couple friends twice a month. We do enjoy them
        immensely once we get to where we planned - it's all the pre-planning
        in advance that drives DF crazy. Doesn't bother me as much, and I do
        try to take over the planning for us, but he insists because he's the
        logistician. What makes him the most anxious, however, is worrying
        that everyone's going to be happy with THE PLAN.


        We're going on vacation soon and the logistics req'd detailed advanced
        planning. I handled all the details weeks ago, and I'll be the one who
        gets us all packed and to the airport on time. I'm good at the
        pre-planning stuff as long as I have plenty of notice. Same for our
        housewarming party - I did all the planning and prep work for that,
        while DF just threw his hands up in the air and acted too overwhelmed
        to think about it until the 11th hour.

        So basically if it needs to be planned in advance, I do it. If it
        doesn't, DF does it! We're happy and it works for us both.

        jen

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        • Disappointment....

          [email protected] (WhansaMi) wrote in message news:<[email protected]>...
          We do a lot of that too! But, we like having the option to go to things that require planning. I guess that is the mindset we've developed -- buying the tickets gives us the option of going.
          We're kinda sorta similar, but different. :-)

          We are not very big couch potatoes and do go out 3-4 times a week.
          But, we rarely plan things in advance. Instead, we plan the day of the
          event. DF checks the online calendars in the morning, emails me a list
          of activities going on that night, and we decide then to book the
          tickets, or (if the activities are free or we don't expect them to
          sell out) we'll hold off until after work to see what we feel up to.
          That usually means we go out - it's just we wait until last minute to
          choose between activities.

          There are exceptions, of course. Like recently, when we saw Mamma Mia
          for my bday. DF booked those tickets a week in advance. Almost
          everything else, we wait until that day, cuz you never know if
          something better to do is going to come up (especially the last-minute
          free theater ticket offers we get from our mailing list).

          We do the couch potato/veg thing a few times a week, too. Our usual
          thing this summer, on the Sundays w/o kids, is to hang in our backyard
          in our hammock, alternating naps with reading our books. And
          weeknights, when we opt to stay in, we spend time visiting over wine
          on our patio, then curl up in bed with some ice cream and watch South
          Park.

          DF tends to get impatient when we plan to do things with other people.
          The logistics get too complicated and make his head spin. It's one
          thing if it's just us (with or w/o my DD's). Quite another if we have
          to juggle our schedule with other people's schedules. We still manage
          to go out with our couple friends twice a month. We do enjoy them
          immensely once we get to where we planned - it's all the pre-planning
          in advance that drives DF crazy. Doesn't bother me as much, and I do
          try to take over the planning for us, but he insists because he's the
          logistician. What makes him the most anxious, however, is worrying
          that everyone's going to be happy with THE PLAN.


          We're going on vacation soon and the logistics req'd detailed advanced
          planning. I handled all the details weeks ago, and I'll be the one who
          gets us all packed and to the airport on time. I'm good at the
          pre-planning stuff as long as I have plenty of notice. Same for our
          housewarming party - I did all the planning and prep work for that,
          while DF just threw his hands up in the air and acted too overwhelmed
          to think about it until the 11th hour.

          So basically if it needs to be planned in advance, I do it. If it
          doesn't, DF does it! We're happy and it works for us both.

          jen

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          • Disappointment....

            WhansaMi wrote:
            Oh, I can identify with that! Many times we plan something, and whenthe time comes I think "why did we have to do this"?! This happensquite often when I just get excited and invite a bunch of people overfor dinner or something, and then on the day I just want to relax inbed and do nothing! It also happens at times that we plan goingsomewhere and then just want to vegetate in front of TV instead.BUT... I also know that if I get over the initial laziness and get ittogether I will enjoy it much more than just staying in my pjs! Soknowing that, I grumble and nag a bit (and yes, it's mostly me doingit, because most of the work and effort for any social activity ismine!), push myself to do it, and then feel GREAT! I would feel awfulif I missed something fun just because I didn't feel like moving atthe moment. :-) But, it isn't only laziness
            It is for me! I have no problem with schedules, so when I feel something
            is a burden it's because of laziness.


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            • Disappointment....

              WhansaMi wrote:
              Oh, I can identify with that! Many times we plan something, and whenthe time comes I think "why did we have to do this"?! This happensquite often when I just get excited and invite a bunch of people overfor dinner or something, and then on the day I just want to relax inbed and do nothing! It also happens at times that we plan goingsomewhere and then just want to vegetate in front of TV instead.BUT... I also know that if I get over the initial laziness and get ittogether I will enjoy it much more than just staying in my pjs! Soknowing that, I grumble and nag a bit (and yes, it's mostly me doingit, because most of the work and effort for any social activity ismine!), push myself to do it, and then feel GREAT! I would feel awfulif I missed something fun just because I didn't feel like moving atthe moment. :-) But, it isn't only laziness
              It is for me! I have no problem with schedules, so when I feel something
              is a burden it's because of laziness.


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