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  • 16 yo mom, 5m old baby, 17yo dad: no support North Carolina

    I am 16 an I have a beautiful 5 month old baby that I wouldn't trade anything in the world for but her daddy sees her ocationally and I go to school to get my GED classes an I need a baby sitter and I'm currently tryig to find a job so I'm making no income and no child support or any kind of support from him Im on the waiting list to be called for daycare but it will be next year sometime. Everyone says I can't do nothing or get any help from him until he turns 18. Which won't be for another 6-7 months. I need help now what should I do? Tell me what you can please and don't be rude I am a great mother and would do anything for my baby.

  • cbg
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    Bob, you are a lucky man....

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  • complwyr
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    The Bieber came to town (Charlotte) a few days ago and did a show just up the street 2 blocks from my office. Man, what a zoo it was around that area that afternoon before the show started. I have never seen so many hyper-excited 13 year old girls in one place in my life........

    Fortunately, my kids are boys. I did not have to go see the Beibs.

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  • GotSmart
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    Originally posted by cactus jack View Post
    Nah, I really don't either. Was trying to provoke SOMEONE out there (enter echoing whistling tune) to tell us.

    I certainly hope that Katharine is ok.
    Same here. Perhaps she could explain it to us.

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  • cactus jack
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    Nah, I really don't either. Was trying to provoke SOMEONE out there (enter echoing whistling tune) to tell us.

    I certainly hope that Katharine is ok.
    Last edited by cactus jack; 01-18-2013, 01:05 AM.

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  • Betty3
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    At my age, I don't either.

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  • GotSmart
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    To be honest, I know "what" it is, I just do not comprehend "why" it is.

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  • Betty3
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    Goodness I'm probably older than Got Smart & I know what a "Bieber" is.

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  • cactus jack
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    Originally posted by GotSmart View Post
    What is a Bieber?

    That could use some updating, but As my kids tell me I do not know what is "in" now. (Nothing is "cool" any more )
    You DON'T know what a Bieber is???? You have got to be kidding me!

    man, you are so WAYYYY behind in the times! oh my gAWDDDDDDDDDD!

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  • Dogmatique
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    Originally posted by GotSmart View Post
    What is a Bieber?

    I was hoping it could be cured with a good dose of penicillin but apparently nawt...

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  • GotSmart
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    What is a Bieber?

    That could use some updating, but As my kids tell me I do not know what is "in" now. (Nothing is "cool" any more )

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  • complwyr
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    Got Smart, that rules post is great. And so true.

    But I would update it by a generation or so -- the teens these days probably don't know the late Kurt Cobain or the rapidly approaching middle age but still hot Jennifer Anniston. Maybe substitute Justin Bieber or Robert Pattison for Kurt, and "Snooky" -- or whatever that fool's name is --for Jennifer.

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  • complwyr
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    If Katherine were to call her county's child support enforcement agency (each county in NC has one) then they would pursue the child support from baby daddy without any cost to her. If he gets tagged with it and cannot pay, maybe his parents will pay it for him.

    And Katherine, if you are here in Mecklenburg County, I will handle your child support action for you against baby daddy pro bono, which means for free, if you will only come up with the money to pay the court costs. Just call me. I am in the phone book, and I feel strongly that baby daddies should pay their child support. As a middle aged father of 3 kids of my own, I would be more than happy to deliver a dose of cold reality to the young man and make him do what is right.

    And visitation by baby daddy has nothing to do with whether he pays child support. If the judge thinks that he is not fit to visit with baby, or if he is not responsible enough to handle the baby, the judge will not give him any visitation rights. But he will make him pay some monetary support anyway.

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  • cactus jack
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    Originally posted by GotSmart View Post
    Sorry guys. I cant resist posting this just in case~~~
    http://urgotera.multiply.com/journal/item/42
    Yep. It's gospel.

    It saddens me so much to see kids with so much promise and a bright future in front of them, ready for the taking, and they throw it all away by foolish acts like this. She can still grab it before it's gone, but only she can reach out and take it. No one can do it for her.

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  • GotSmart
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    Sorry guys. I cant resist posting this just in case~~~

    http://urgotera.multiply.com/journal/item/42


    Rule No. 1: Life is not fair. Get used to it. The average teen-ager uses the phrase "It's not fair" 8.6 times a day. You got it from your parents, who said it so often you decided they must be the most idealistic generation ever. When they started hearing it from their own kids, they realized Rule No. 1.

    Rule No. 2: The real world won't care as much about your self-esteem as much as your school does. It'll expect you to accomplish something before you feel good about yourself. This may come as a shock. Usually, when inflated self-esteem meets reality, kids complain that it's not fair. (See Rule No. 1)

    Rule No. 3: Sorry, you won't make $40,000 a year right out of high school. And you won't be a vice president or have a car phone either. You may even have to wear a uniform that doesn't have a Gap label.

    Rule No. 4: If you think your teacher is tough, wait 'til you get a boss. He doesn't have tenure, so he tends to be a bit edgier. When you screw up, he's not going to ask you how you feel about it.

    Rule No. 5: Flipping burgers is not beneath your dignity. Your grandparents had a different word for burger flipping. They called it opportunity. They weren't embarrassed making minimum wage either. They would have been embarrassed to sit around talking about Kurt Cobain all weekend.

    Rule No. 6: It's not your parents' fault. If you screw up, you are responsible. This is the flip side of "It's my life," and "You're not the boss of me," and other eloquent proclamations of your generation. When you turn 18, it's on your dime. Don't whine about it, or you'll sound like a baby boomer.

    Rule No. 7: Before you were born your parents weren't as boring as they are now. They got that way paying your bills, cleaning up your room and listening to you tell them how idealistic you are. And by the way, before you save the rain forest from the blood-sucking parasites of your parents' generation, try delousing the closet in your bedroom.

    Rule No. 8: Your school may have done away with winners and losers. Life hasn't. In some schools, they'll give you as many times as you want to get the right answer. Failing grades have been abolished and class valedictorians scrapped, lest anyone's feelings be hurt. Effort is as important as results. This, of course, bears not the slightest resemblance to anything in real life. (See Rule No. 1, Rule No. 2 and Rule No. 4.)

    Rule No. 9: Life is not divided into semesters, and you don't get summers off. Not even Easter break. They expect you to show up every day. For eight hours. And you don't get a new life every 10 weeks. It just goes on and on. While we're at it, very few jobs are interested in fostering your self-expression or helping you find yourself. Fewer still lead to self-realization. (See Rule No. 1 and Rule No. 2.)

    Rule No. 10: Television is not real life. Your life is not a sitcom. Your problems will not all be solved in 30 minutes, minus time for commercials. In real life, people actually have to leave the coffee shop to go to jobs. Your friends will not be as perky or pliable as Jennifer Aniston.

    Rule No. 11: Be nice to nerds. You may end up working for them. We all could.

    Rule No. 12: Smoking does not make you look cool. It makes you look moronic. Next time you're out cruising, watch an 11-year-old with a butt in his mouth. That's what you look like to anyone over 20. Ditto for "expressing yourself" with purple hair and/or pierced body parts.

    Rule No. 13: You are not immortal. (See Rule No. 12.) If you are under the impression that living fast, dying young and leaving a beautiful corpse is romantic, you obviously haven't seen one of your peers at room temperature lately.

    Rule No. 14: Enjoy this while you can. Sure parents are a pain, school's a bother, and life is depressing. But someday you'll realize how wonderful it was to be a kid. Maybe you should start now. You're welcome.

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