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    Okay, here's the deal. DS is 14 years old. He's always been small (5th
    percentile for height throughout most of his life, although, I remember one
    point where he was on the 20th percentile line on the graph). He's a good kid,
    bright, polite, good sense of humor, but not at all athletic. At middle school
    he was thought very highly of by his teachers, and had a group of about 6 or 7
    boys that he hung out with, had lunch with, etc. They, like him, tended toward
    the computer-geek-type (gamers), although, according to his teachers, he was
    liked by most of the other kids. I saw this myself as we would walk to and
    from the school... other kids made it a point to say hi to him. He is a bit
    shy, but really does get his energy by being with others. I tease him that he
    is a contradiction --- a shy extrovert!

    So, next year he goes to high school. He is very anxious about it, and more
    than one comment makes me think that his height is part of it. For instance, I
    said something today about our littlest dog thinking, "It's hard to be a little
    dog" and DS says, "Tell me about it. You don't have to tell me about the "l"
    word!" He's made jokes that someone might actually put him in a locker. He
    is, of course, also anxious that he might not have any classes with his
    friends.

    Can I help? Being small can be a bonus for girls, but I'm sure it is a
    liability for boys. As his dad tells it, he was the shortest, skinniest kid in
    school until he was sixteen, when he "shot up" (all the way to 5'9"! ;-)).
    Any suggestions anyone can make about how to help him?

    Sheila

  • #2
    OT: Boys, height and high school

    I think that it would be beneficial if he enjoyed at least some
    aspects of his physique. So, maybe get him to become a strong young
    person, by lifting weights for example. If he can become interested,
    that would be excellent, and also good for his health. Just a thought.

    i

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    • #3
      OT: Boys, height and high school

      I think that it would be beneficial if he enjoyed at least some
      aspects of his physique. So, maybe get him to become a strong young
      person, by lifting weights for example. If he can become interested,
      that would be excellent, and also good for his health. Just a thought.

      i

      Comment


      • #4
        OT: Boys, height and high school

        >I think that it would be beneficial if he enjoyed at least some
        aspects of his physique. So, maybe get him to become a strong youngperson, by lifting weights for example. If he can become interested,that would be excellent, and also good for his health. Just a thought.i
        His dad drags him to the gym periodically. He hates it, but does it to please
        his dad.

        Now, what he does like to do is fencing. He's even discovered a plus side of
        his height -- you are harder to hit! ;-)

        Sheila

        Comment


        • #5
          OT: Boys, height and high school

          >I think that it would be beneficial if he enjoyed at least some
          aspects of his physique. So, maybe get him to become a strong youngperson, by lifting weights for example. If he can become interested,that would be excellent, and also good for his health. Just a thought.i
          His dad drags him to the gym periodically. He hates it, but does it to please
          his dad.

          Now, what he does like to do is fencing. He's even discovered a plus side of
          his height -- you are harder to hit! ;-)

          Sheila

          Comment


          • #6
            Boys, height and high school


            "WhansaMi" <[email protected]> wrote in message
            news:[email protected]
            Okay, here's the deal. DS is 14 years old. He's always been small (5th percentile for height throughout most of his life, although, I remember
            one
            point where he was on the 20th percentile line on the graph). He's a good
            kid,
            bright, polite, good sense of humor, but not at all athletic. At middle
            school
            he was thought very highly of by his teachers, and had a group of about 6
            or 7
            boys that he hung out with, had lunch with, etc. They, like him, tended
            toward
            the computer-geek-type (gamers), although, according to his teachers, he
            was
            liked by most of the other kids. I saw this myself as we would walk to
            and
            from the school... other kids made it a point to say hi to him. He is a
            bit
            shy, but really does get his energy by being with others. I tease him
            that he
            is a contradiction --- a shy extrovert! So, next year he goes to high school. He is very anxious about it, and
            more
            than one comment makes me think that his height is part of it. For
            instance, I
            said something today about our littlest dog thinking, "It's hard to be a
            little
            dog" and DS says, "Tell me about it. You don't have to tell me about the
            "l"
            word!" He's made jokes that someone might actually put him in a locker.
            He
            is, of course, also anxious that he might not have any classes with his friends. Can I help? Being small can be a bonus for girls, but I'm sure it is a liability for boys. As his dad tells it, he was the shortest, skinniest
            kid in
            school until he was sixteen, when he "shot up" (all the way to 5'9"!
            ;-)).
            Any suggestions anyone can make about how to help him? Sheila
            How tall is he? truly noticeably shorter than most of the other kids in his
            class?
            I also have a 14-yr-old (well, he'll be 15 next month) . He happens to be 6
            feet tall though. I don't think he and his friends segregate each other
            according to height. Among the kids in his grade, there is a *huge*
            variation in height, weight , etc. If you're cool, you're cool.
            I'd not mention it or make an issue about his height. There isn't really
            much you can do about it anyway.


            Comment


            • #7
              Boys, height and high school


              "WhansaMi" <[email protected]> wrote in message
              news:[email protected]
              Okay, here's the deal. DS is 14 years old. He's always been small (5th percentile for height throughout most of his life, although, I remember
              one
              point where he was on the 20th percentile line on the graph). He's a good
              kid,
              bright, polite, good sense of humor, but not at all athletic. At middle
              school
              he was thought very highly of by his teachers, and had a group of about 6
              or 7
              boys that he hung out with, had lunch with, etc. They, like him, tended
              toward
              the computer-geek-type (gamers), although, according to his teachers, he
              was
              liked by most of the other kids. I saw this myself as we would walk to
              and
              from the school... other kids made it a point to say hi to him. He is a
              bit
              shy, but really does get his energy by being with others. I tease him
              that he
              is a contradiction --- a shy extrovert! So, next year he goes to high school. He is very anxious about it, and
              more
              than one comment makes me think that his height is part of it. For
              instance, I
              said something today about our littlest dog thinking, "It's hard to be a
              little
              dog" and DS says, "Tell me about it. You don't have to tell me about the
              "l"
              word!" He's made jokes that someone might actually put him in a locker.
              He
              is, of course, also anxious that he might not have any classes with his friends. Can I help? Being small can be a bonus for girls, but I'm sure it is a liability for boys. As his dad tells it, he was the shortest, skinniest
              kid in
              school until he was sixteen, when he "shot up" (all the way to 5'9"!
              ;-)).
              Any suggestions anyone can make about how to help him? Sheila
              How tall is he? truly noticeably shorter than most of the other kids in his
              class?
              I also have a 14-yr-old (well, he'll be 15 next month) . He happens to be 6
              feet tall though. I don't think he and his friends segregate each other
              according to height. Among the kids in his grade, there is a *huge*
              variation in height, weight , etc. If you're cool, you're cool.
              I'd not mention it or make an issue about his height. There isn't really
              much you can do about it anyway.


              Comment


              • #8
                Boys, height and high school

                >> Okay, here's the deal. DS is 14 years old. He's always been small (5th
                percentile for height throughout most of his life, although, I rememberone
                point where he was on the 20th percentile line on the graph). He's a good
                kid,
                bright, polite, good sense of humor, but not at all athletic. At middle
                school
                he was thought very highly of by his teachers, and had a group of about 6
                or 7
                boys that he hung out with, had lunch with, etc. They, like him, tended
                toward
                the computer-geek-type (gamers), although, according to his teachers, he
                was
                liked by most of the other kids. I saw this myself as we would walk to
                and
                from the school... other kids made it a point to say hi to him. He is a
                bit
                shy, but really does get his energy by being with others. I tease him
                that he
                is a contradiction --- a shy extrovert! So, next year he goes to high school. He is very anxious about it, and
                more
                than one comment makes me think that his height is part of it. For
                instance, I
                said something today about our littlest dog thinking, "It's hard to be a
                little
                dog" and DS says, "Tell me about it. You don't have to tell me about the
                "l"
                word!" He's made jokes that someone might actually put him in a locker.
                He
                is, of course, also anxious that he might not have any classes with his friends. Can I help? Being small can be a bonus for girls, but I'm sure it is a liability for boys. As his dad tells it, he was the shortest, skinniest
                kid in
                school until he was sixteen, when he "shot up" (all the way to 5'9"!
                ;-)).
                Any suggestions anyone can make about how to help him? Sheila
                How tall is he? truly noticeably shorter than most of the other kids in hisclass?I also have a 14-yr-old (well, he'll be 15 next month) . He happens to be 6feet tall though. I don't think he and his friends segregate each otheraccording to height. Among the kids in his grade, there is a *huge*variation in height, weight , etc. If you're cool, you're cool.I'd not mention it or make an issue about his height. There isn't reallymuch you can do about it anyway.
                He's about 5 feet, I think. There are probably only 5 or 6 kids in his grade
                that were shorter than him. We seem to grow 'em big in our neighborhood! I'm
                5'4 and a half, and almost all of them were much taller than me!

                I don't think the issue is as much the other kids, at least the ones he know,
                as his view of himself.

                Sheila

                Comment


                • #9
                  Boys, height and high school

                  >> Okay, here's the deal. DS is 14 years old. He's always been small (5th
                  percentile for height throughout most of his life, although, I rememberone
                  point where he was on the 20th percentile line on the graph). He's a good
                  kid,
                  bright, polite, good sense of humor, but not at all athletic. At middle
                  school
                  he was thought very highly of by his teachers, and had a group of about 6
                  or 7
                  boys that he hung out with, had lunch with, etc. They, like him, tended
                  toward
                  the computer-geek-type (gamers), although, according to his teachers, he
                  was
                  liked by most of the other kids. I saw this myself as we would walk to
                  and
                  from the school... other kids made it a point to say hi to him. He is a
                  bit
                  shy, but really does get his energy by being with others. I tease him
                  that he
                  is a contradiction --- a shy extrovert! So, next year he goes to high school. He is very anxious about it, and
                  more
                  than one comment makes me think that his height is part of it. For
                  instance, I
                  said something today about our littlest dog thinking, "It's hard to be a
                  little
                  dog" and DS says, "Tell me about it. You don't have to tell me about the
                  "l"
                  word!" He's made jokes that someone might actually put him in a locker.
                  He
                  is, of course, also anxious that he might not have any classes with his friends. Can I help? Being small can be a bonus for girls, but I'm sure it is a liability for boys. As his dad tells it, he was the shortest, skinniest
                  kid in
                  school until he was sixteen, when he "shot up" (all the way to 5'9"!
                  ;-)).
                  Any suggestions anyone can make about how to help him? Sheila
                  How tall is he? truly noticeably shorter than most of the other kids in hisclass?I also have a 14-yr-old (well, he'll be 15 next month) . He happens to be 6feet tall though. I don't think he and his friends segregate each otheraccording to height. Among the kids in his grade, there is a *huge*variation in height, weight , etc. If you're cool, you're cool.I'd not mention it or make an issue about his height. There isn't reallymuch you can do about it anyway.
                  He's about 5 feet, I think. There are probably only 5 or 6 kids in his grade
                  that were shorter than him. We seem to grow 'em big in our neighborhood! I'm
                  5'4 and a half, and almost all of them were much taller than me!

                  I don't think the issue is as much the other kids, at least the ones he know,
                  as his view of himself.

                  Sheila

                  Comment


                  • #10
                    OT: Boys, height and high school

                    "WhansaMi" <[email protected]> wrote in message
                    news:[email protected]
                    I think that it would be beneficial if he enjoyed at least someaspects of his physique. So, maybe get him to become a strong youngperson, by lifting weights for example. If he can become interested,that would be excellent, and also good for his health. Just a thought.i His dad drags him to the gym periodically. He hates it, but does it to
                    please
                    his dad. Now, what he does like to do is fencing. He's even discovered a plus side
                    of
                    his height -- you are harder to hit! ;-)
                    Martial arts, perhaps? Very good confidence builder.


                    Comment


                    • #11
                      OT: Boys, height and high school

                      "WhansaMi" <[email protected]> wrote in message
                      news:[email protected]
                      I think that it would be beneficial if he enjoyed at least someaspects of his physique. So, maybe get him to become a strong youngperson, by lifting weights for example. If he can become interested,that would be excellent, and also good for his health. Just a thought.i His dad drags him to the gym periodically. He hates it, but does it to
                      please
                      his dad. Now, what he does like to do is fencing. He's even discovered a plus side
                      of
                      his height -- you are harder to hit! ;-)
                      Martial arts, perhaps? Very good confidence builder.


                      Comment


                      • #12
                        OT: Boys, height and high school

                        In article <[email protected]>, WhansaMi wrote:
                        I think that it would be beneficial if he enjoyed at least someaspects of his physique. So, maybe get him to become a strong youngperson, by lifting weights for example. If he can become interested,that would be excellent, and also good for his health. Just a thought.i His dad drags him to the gym periodically. He hates it, but does it to please his dad. Now, what he does like to do is fencing. He's even discovered a plus side of his height -- you are harder to hit! ;-) Sheila
                        Well, that's great if he likes it!

                        i

                        Comment


                        • #13
                          OT: Boys, height and high school

                          In article <[email protected]>, WhansaMi wrote:
                          I think that it would be beneficial if he enjoyed at least someaspects of his physique. So, maybe get him to become a strong youngperson, by lifting weights for example. If he can become interested,that would be excellent, and also good for his health. Just a thought.i His dad drags him to the gym periodically. He hates it, but does it to please his dad. Now, what he does like to do is fencing. He's even discovered a plus side of his height -- you are harder to hit! ;-) Sheila
                          Well, that's great if he likes it!

                          i

                          Comment


                          • #14
                            OT: Boys, height and high school


                            "Ignoramus11472" <[email protected]> wrote in message
                            news:[email protected]
                            In article <[email protected]>, WhansaMi wrote:
                            I think that it would be beneficial if he enjoyed at least someaspects of his physique. So, maybe get him to become a strong youngperson, by lifting weights for example. If he can become interested,that would be excellent, and also good for his health. Just a thought.i His dad drags him to the gym periodically. He hates it, but does it to
                            please
                            his dad. Now, what he does like to do is fencing. He's even discovered a plus
                            side of
                            his height -- you are harder to hit! ;-) Sheila Well, that's great if he likes it!
                            Is wrestling an option? He'd be competing in his own weight class, so his
                            size might be less a disadvantage. Maybe he'd enjoy it.



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                            • #15
                              OT: Boys, height and high school


                              "Ignoramus11472" <[email protected]> wrote in message
                              news:[email protected]
                              In article <[email protected]>, WhansaMi wrote:
                              I think that it would be beneficial if he enjoyed at least someaspects of his physique. So, maybe get him to become a strong youngperson, by lifting weights for example. If he can become interested,that would be excellent, and also good for his health. Just a thought.i His dad drags him to the gym periodically. He hates it, but does it to
                              please
                              his dad. Now, what he does like to do is fencing. He's even discovered a plus
                              side of
                              his height -- you are harder to hit! ;-) Sheila Well, that's great if he likes it!
                              Is wrestling an option? He'd be competing in his own weight class, so his
                              size might be less a disadvantage. Maybe he'd enjoy it.



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