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03-09-2004, 05:55 AM
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Hoping for a reunion
BETH COHEN , Staff Writer 03/09/2004
FRANCONIA – Twins Sophia and Joseph Salem have never met their four older
brothers and sisters.
Those siblings comprise two other sets of twins – sisters Nadia and Vera‚
who are 11‚ and brothers Sergey and Nikolai‚ who are 10.
But later this spring‚ the three sets of twins will reunite in the Pskov
region of Russia. And with Russian court approval‚ Sophia and Joseph’s
adoptive parents‚ Lisa and Hythem Salem of Cobble Court‚ will adopt the
four siblings and bring them to live in their Franconia home.
“I will share my toys with them‚” said Sophia‚ 6‚ who’s older than
Joseph by a minute. “I want to hug and kiss them.”
Sophia and Joseph‚ who attend kindergarten at Franconia Elementary School‚
were adopted by Lisa and Hythem on Jan. 18‚ 1999.
“The fact is they are the brother and sister of these children and you
can’t live with the time and moment when Joseph and Sophia say‚ ‘What did
you do to save my brothers and sisters?’” said Hythem‚ 43‚ a senior
network engineer for Motorola in Horsham.
Hythem said he and Lisa decided it would be better for Sophia and Joseph to be
reunited with their siblings.
“To see a family reunited‚ and to raise them under the same roof – it’s
going to be exciting‚” he said. “Even with the challenges that lie
ahead‚ that will be...water under the bridge.”
Hythem and Lisa both said they think Nadia‚ Vera‚ Sergey and Nikolai would
probably not have a happy future if they remained in Russia.
The girls live in an orphanage 170 miles from their brothers.
Few people are willing to adopt children older than age 5‚ and at age 16 in
Russia‚ orphan children are emancipated and left to fend for themselves‚
often without skills‚ they said.
“That’s really a sorry future and we just can’t live with that‚”
Hythem said.
Adopting an entire family’s children is rare‚ according to Kelli
Myers-Gottmoller‚ a family services supervisor in adoption for the Lutheran
Children & Family Services in Roslyn.
“When children come into the system in Russia‚ the children generally are
not kept together‚” she said.
The LSFS is handling the home study for the Salem family‚ to ensure they are
emotionally‚ financially and physically prepared to take on four more adopted
children.
“It’s a heartbreaking thing it happened this way‚ but I am happy we can
reunite brothers and sisters from the same birth parents‚” Hythem said.
“I am sad for the birth parents‚ but I am happy for us to be able to raise
all of the children under one roof.”
Although rare‚ the Salem family will adopt all of the children in part
because Lisa has maintained contact for six years with Russian officials to
check on the well-being of Nadia‚ Vera‚ Sergey and Nikolai.
She said she’s thought about a possible reunion since adopting Sophia and
Joseph‚ but it was not possible until Vera‚ Nadia‚ Sergey and Nikolai
became orphans 18 months ago. Their birth parents‚ whom Lisa declined to
identify by name‚ had given up the children due to severe poverty.
Sophia and Joseph were put up for adoption at birth‚ spending the first six
months of their life in a Russian hospital. Then they were placed in an
orphanage for another five months before they were adopted by the Salems.
“My husband and I could have had children on our own‚ but we thought about
it and wondered why we should have children on our own when there are so many
children out there without parents that we could adopt‚” said Lisa‚ 39‚
who works from home and writes books.
The Salems learned on Dec. 27 that they could adopt Nadia‚ Vera‚ Sergey and
Nikolai.
“Sometimes you have to listen to your heart and do what you believe‚”
Lisa said.
In mid-April‚ Lisa and Hythem will take Sophia and Joseph to Russia to meet
their siblings.
Then in June‚ Lisa and Hythem will return to Russia to bring the four
children home. Sophia and Joseph will stay at home with a family friend.
Lisa and Hythem said they know there will be many challenges ahead‚ but they
aren’t worried.
“Life’s hardest journeys give you the most joy‚” Lisa said.
Right now the Salems are focusing on the reunion.
When Nikolai and Sergey arrive in the United States‚ Joseph plans to teach
them how to play baseball and football.
Sophia said she plans to teach her Russian-speaking sisters the English
language.
Lisa said she realizes the children will have more complex needs that also must
be addressed.
Those needs include buying new clothing‚ furniture‚ more food‚ toys‚
books and bicycles. They also will have to provide medical care and build an
addition onto their three-bedroom home.
“I know we could convert our living room into a bedroom‚ but then we still
need another bedroom‚” Lisa said.
They are seeking help from the community‚ whether it’s money‚ clothing‚
furniture or a builder willing to construct an addition onto the Salem home for
free or at a reduced cost.
Money is tight and the Salems already have cashed in their retirement
account‚ she said.
“I feel bad because I’ve never had to ask for anything‚” Lisa said.
“But we have to put our pride aside.”
She estimates it will cost at least $51‚000 to adopt the children‚ provide
for their needs and construct the addition to their home.
The Salems also need to buy a new vehicle that will accommodate at least eight
people. Their existing Honda Odyssey can only seat seven.
The Salems have set up a bank account at the American Heritage Credit Union in
Horsham‚ where people can make monetary donations.
They also are accepting other types of donations – clothing‚ furniture and
other non-monetary items – at their Franconia home. They ask that people call
them at xxxxx before dropping off donations.
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A good friend will come and bail you out of jail . . . but, a true friend will
be sitting next to you saying, "Damn . . . that was fun!"
-----Unknown
G=461&dept_id=466404&rfi=6
Hoping for a reunion
BETH COHEN , Staff Writer 03/09/2004
FRANCONIA – Twins Sophia and Joseph Salem have never met their four older
brothers and sisters.
Those siblings comprise two other sets of twins – sisters Nadia and Vera‚
who are 11‚ and brothers Sergey and Nikolai‚ who are 10.
But later this spring‚ the three sets of twins will reunite in the Pskov
region of Russia. And with Russian court approval‚ Sophia and Joseph’s
adoptive parents‚ Lisa and Hythem Salem of Cobble Court‚ will adopt the
four siblings and bring them to live in their Franconia home.
“I will share my toys with them‚” said Sophia‚ 6‚ who’s older than
Joseph by a minute. “I want to hug and kiss them.”
Sophia and Joseph‚ who attend kindergarten at Franconia Elementary School‚
were adopted by Lisa and Hythem on Jan. 18‚ 1999.
“The fact is they are the brother and sister of these children and you
can’t live with the time and moment when Joseph and Sophia say‚ ‘What did
you do to save my brothers and sisters?’” said Hythem‚ 43‚ a senior
network engineer for Motorola in Horsham.
Hythem said he and Lisa decided it would be better for Sophia and Joseph to be
reunited with their siblings.
“To see a family reunited‚ and to raise them under the same roof – it’s
going to be exciting‚” he said. “Even with the challenges that lie
ahead‚ that will be...water under the bridge.”
Hythem and Lisa both said they think Nadia‚ Vera‚ Sergey and Nikolai would
probably not have a happy future if they remained in Russia.
The girls live in an orphanage 170 miles from their brothers.
Few people are willing to adopt children older than age 5‚ and at age 16 in
Russia‚ orphan children are emancipated and left to fend for themselves‚
often without skills‚ they said.
“That’s really a sorry future and we just can’t live with that‚”
Hythem said.
Adopting an entire family’s children is rare‚ according to Kelli
Myers-Gottmoller‚ a family services supervisor in adoption for the Lutheran
Children & Family Services in Roslyn.
“When children come into the system in Russia‚ the children generally are
not kept together‚” she said.
The LSFS is handling the home study for the Salem family‚ to ensure they are
emotionally‚ financially and physically prepared to take on four more adopted
children.
“It’s a heartbreaking thing it happened this way‚ but I am happy we can
reunite brothers and sisters from the same birth parents‚” Hythem said.
“I am sad for the birth parents‚ but I am happy for us to be able to raise
all of the children under one roof.”
Although rare‚ the Salem family will adopt all of the children in part
because Lisa has maintained contact for six years with Russian officials to
check on the well-being of Nadia‚ Vera‚ Sergey and Nikolai.
She said she’s thought about a possible reunion since adopting Sophia and
Joseph‚ but it was not possible until Vera‚ Nadia‚ Sergey and Nikolai
became orphans 18 months ago. Their birth parents‚ whom Lisa declined to
identify by name‚ had given up the children due to severe poverty.
Sophia and Joseph were put up for adoption at birth‚ spending the first six
months of their life in a Russian hospital. Then they were placed in an
orphanage for another five months before they were adopted by the Salems.
“My husband and I could have had children on our own‚ but we thought about
it and wondered why we should have children on our own when there are so many
children out there without parents that we could adopt‚” said Lisa‚ 39‚
who works from home and writes books.
The Salems learned on Dec. 27 that they could adopt Nadia‚ Vera‚ Sergey and
Nikolai.
“Sometimes you have to listen to your heart and do what you believe‚”
Lisa said.
In mid-April‚ Lisa and Hythem will take Sophia and Joseph to Russia to meet
their siblings.
Then in June‚ Lisa and Hythem will return to Russia to bring the four
children home. Sophia and Joseph will stay at home with a family friend.
Lisa and Hythem said they know there will be many challenges ahead‚ but they
aren’t worried.
“Life’s hardest journeys give you the most joy‚” Lisa said.
Right now the Salems are focusing on the reunion.
When Nikolai and Sergey arrive in the United States‚ Joseph plans to teach
them how to play baseball and football.
Sophia said she plans to teach her Russian-speaking sisters the English
language.
Lisa said she realizes the children will have more complex needs that also must
be addressed.
Those needs include buying new clothing‚ furniture‚ more food‚ toys‚
books and bicycles. They also will have to provide medical care and build an
addition onto their three-bedroom home.
“I know we could convert our living room into a bedroom‚ but then we still
need another bedroom‚” Lisa said.
They are seeking help from the community‚ whether it’s money‚ clothing‚
furniture or a builder willing to construct an addition onto the Salem home for
free or at a reduced cost.
Money is tight and the Salems already have cashed in their retirement
account‚ she said.
“I feel bad because I’ve never had to ask for anything‚” Lisa said.
“But we have to put our pride aside.”
She estimates it will cost at least $51‚000 to adopt the children‚ provide
for their needs and construct the addition to their home.
The Salems also need to buy a new vehicle that will accommodate at least eight
people. Their existing Honda Odyssey can only seat seven.
The Salems have set up a bank account at the American Heritage Credit Union in
Horsham‚ where people can make monetary donations.
They also are accepting other types of donations – clothing‚ furniture and
other non-monetary items – at their Franconia home. They ask that people call
them at xxxxx before dropping off donations.
-------------------------
A good friend will come and bail you out of jail . . . but, a true friend will
be sitting next to you saying, "Damn . . . that was fun!"
-----Unknown
