My daughter is pregnant by a guy who is incarcerated until end of next year. She does not want him to have anything to do with the baby, which is due in a couple of months. She is 17 and he is 25. (Yeah I know he lied about his age to us and doesnt look that old). We of course wouldve never let her date him. Anyway she feels it is in the best interest of her child he not be a part of the baby's life. This guy is a drug addict (of course not in jail) he lies constantly, is in jail for 11 counts of forgery and breaking his bond. I do not and can not ever trust him again. We at first tried to help make it work and let him stay in our basement for a couple of weeks. The whole time all he did was lie to us. He never worked, broke things, borrowed money that he was to pay back (yeah right) and was verbally abusive and physically abusive ,that I have just found out. She thought she "loved" him. When he jumped bond they got him. Now he is serving the rest of his time. I feel if he was not in jail he would still be leading the same life he has been. Sorry for the long story but what rights does she have and what all do we need to do to keep him away from this child? or can we? Will it be easy for him to get custody? He tells her he will take her to court and tell the judge she has done all these bad things, which arent true so he can get custory. Any advice is much appreciated!! We have no idea what the laws in Georgia are.

Little bit of advice.

She is the mother and she makes 100% of her childs decisions. She doesn't have to let him see him/her until it is court documented.

Also, make sure you testify about all that has gone on. The more the evidence the better. With his back ground....HE should be the one worrying, not her. A loser like that shouldn't even be able to see his kid. I think the judge will be on her side 100%. If not, he's not right. Hehe!!!

Anyways, watch out for this guy. If anything happens ALWAYS have her call the police. That way it is documented.

-Justin
-Central Illinois

My daughter is pregnant by a guy who is incarcerated until end of next year. She does not want him to have anything to do with the baby, which is due in a couple of months. She is 17 and he is 25. (Yeah I know he lied about his age to us and doesnt look that old). We of course wouldve never let her date him. Anyway she feels it is in the best interest of her child he not be a part of the baby's life. This guy is a drug addict (of course not in jail) he lies constantly, is in jail for 11 counts of forgery and breaking his bond. I do not and can not ever trust him again. We at first tried to help make it work and let him stay in our basement for a couple of weeks. The whole time all he did was lie to us. He never worked, broke things, borrowed money that he was to pay back (yeah right) and was verbally abusive and physically abusive ,that I have just found out. She thought she "loved" him. When he jumped bond they got him. Now he is serving the rest of his time. I feel if he was not in jail he would still be leading the same life he has been. Sorry for the long story but what rights does she have and what all do we need to do to keep him away from this child? or can we? Will it be easy for him to get custody? He tells her he will take her to court and tell the judge she has done all these bad things, which arent true so he can get custory. Any advice is much appreciated!! We have no idea what the laws in Georgia are.

You and your daughter need to consult with an attorney because there are some legal realities to her situation that she needs to be prepared for. Here are a few of the things an attorney will tell her:

1. When the baby is born the father has every legal right to take your daughter to court to have a DNA test and be proven the legal father. He also has the right to file for custody (that is not to say that he'd definately get it, just that he has the legal right to try for different forms of custody). He also has the right to file for visitation, and the reality is that if he is the father he'd most likely get visitation absent a court finding that he is a PHYSICAL danger to his child. Once he is determined to be the legal father he'd have the legal obligation to pay any CS that the court orders.

2. If your daughter has been recieving, or at any time in the future, recieves public assistance the state will REQUIRE her to name the father so that he will have to pay CS to the state- in other words, he'll be a part of the child's life and have all the rights as stated above given to him by the state.

3. If the father is still incarcerated at the time of birth he will still have the legal right to file for his rights even while incarcerated.

4. If the father wishes to enforce his rights the reality is that the court will most likely give him at minimum some form of visitation, again, unless your daughter can PROVE to the court that the father presents a very real physical danger to the child.

Your daughter needs to come to terms with the reality that she made the choice to slepp with this man, and that he is the father and does have rights, and she almost certainly will not be allowed to keep him out of HIS CHILD'S life.
If she hates the father so much and truly does not want him to be a part of his own child's life, she should speak to an attorney about how to put the baby up for adoption, because that's the only way that she MIGHT be able to keep him away from the child.
Xena