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Dian
03-07-2004, 09:03 AM
Adoptive father speaks for all adoptees and nmothers. No surprise here
of course.
http://www.regent.edu/acad/schgov/alumni/newsletter/alumninews.html


Consent versus Coercion:

How SB335 Harms Adoption

Thomas C. Atwood

President and CEO

National Council For Adoption

February 3, 2004

National Council For Adoption

225 N. Washington Street, Alexandria, VA 22314-2520

Telephone 703-299-6633, Fax 703-299-6004

www.adoptioncouncil.org

Consent versus Coercion:

How SB335 Harms Adoption

If enacted, SB335 would harm the institution of adoption in New
Hampshire and unjustly and unnecessarily disrupt and harm the lives of
many innocent people involved in adoption.

Adoption is a highly successful social institution that has
wonderfully served needy children and birthparents who are unable or
unready to parent. Yet without any findings to justify the change,

SB335 would radically depart from current practice, by eliminating
even the option of confidentiality in adoption in New Hampshire.

Unfortunately, the loudest voices the legislature and the general
public are likely to hear regarding SB335 are the vocal few who desire
to identify and contact their birthparents, with or without their
consent. This vocal few may feel that they have nothing to lose by
persevering in their advocacy year after year. But birthparents who
desire to maintain their privacy must either remain mute while their
rights are being taken away or lose their privacy in the very act of
defending it.

The National Council For Adoption (NCFA) speaks in their defense, and
in defense of the institution of adoption and of the children,
families, and birthparents it serves.

There are several ways that SB335's elimination of birthparents' right
to choose a private adoption would harm adoption, children, families,
and birthparents:

• First, SB335 would violate birthparents' basic human right to
privacy. SB335 would completely eliminate birthparents' right to
choose a confidential adoption, both retroactively and prospectively.
To open records retroactively without the approval of a birthmother
who was promised privacy is a particularly egregious violation of
trust and common decency.

For the typical birthmother, making an adoption plan for her child is
a supremely loving act, committed in the best interests of her child.
The State of New Hampshire should honor birthmothers for this act of
love, not punish them by stripping them of their basic human right to
privacy.

Under SB335, no future birthmother in New Hampshire would be allowed
to choose a private adoption, no matter what the circumstances of
pregnancy or birth. Without the right to choose a confidential
adoption, the birthmother who felt she must have privacy would have no
choice but abortion. As stated by Jeremiah Gutman, director of the
American Civil Liberties Union (ACLU) and former chair of the ACLU's
Privacy Committee, a woman facing an unplanned pregnancy could
maintain her privacy only if she had an abortion.1

Would the State of New Hampshire grant a woman with an unplanned
pregnancy a right to private abortion but not to private adoption?

We ask the Senate Public Institutions, Health and Human Services
Committee to recognize that there are any number of legitimate and
understandable reasons that birthparents may desire privacy – perhaps,
the birthmother does not want to relive the experience of rape or
incest that caused the pregnancy; perhaps the birthparent does not
want to upset his or her spouse, family, and friends with a never
shared revelation; perhaps the birthparent would be psychologically or
emotionally unable or unready to handle the stress of renewed contact;
or perhaps the birthparent simply believes that the healthiest
approach for all parties is not to have an ongoing relationship. Does
the State of New Hampshire truly believe that one-size fits-all,
mandatory open records is a superior policy to respecting
birthparents' loving discernment and their right to privacy?

• Second, SB335 would increase the number of unwanted, unilaterally
imposed contacts and wreak havoc in people's lives. Thousands of New
Hampshire birthparents, around the country and world, would be unaware
that their privacy had been eliminated by this law, until being sent a
contact preference form on behalf of the adult adopted child.
Providing adult adopted persons identifying birthparent information
without birthparent approval would, obviously, increase the number of
unwanted, unilaterally imposed contacts.

Moreover, birthparents who do not wish to be in contact with the adult
adopted child, and who so indicate on the contact preference form,
will then live in fear that the person, now knowing their identity,
will disregard these wishes and attempt to make contact. Unwanted
reunions between adult adopted persons and birthparents are often
highly disruptive and unsatisfactory for everyone involved, despite
the rosy scenarios sometimes portrayed in the media. Even when adopted
persons and birthparents mutually consent to contact, their
satisfaction with reunions and ongoing relationships is quite
unpredictable.

• Third, SB335 would undermine the strength of the adoptive family, by
establishing as the legal norm and the cultural expectation that
adopted persons and their birthparents will, and should, "reunite"
when the child reaches the age of majority. A chief reason adoption
has been so successful is because society and law have respected the
adoptive family as the child's "forever" family. But SB335 would
promote the view of the adoptive family as essentially long-term
foster care, until the adopted child grows up and can be reunited with
her or his "real" family. Such a view is harmful to children and
families. Adoptive parenting has provided untold social and familial
blessings to children throughout the years. Law and society must
continue to respect the adoptive family's status as the adopted
person's true and permanent family, in order for those blessings to
continue.

• Fourth, SB335 would reduce the number of adoptions and increase the
number of abortions. Open-records advocates' argument that eliminating
the option of privacy in adoption would have no effect on the number
of abortions defies common sense. Obviously, some number of women with
unplanned pregnancies, who would otherwise choose adoption, would
choose abortion if they could not choose adoption with the assurance
of privacy. What that number would be is impossible to tell, but what
does it need to be? The loss of human potential from even one abortion
that would have been an adoption is unknowable. And the ratio of
adoptions to abortions in New Hampshire is already extremely low. In
1996, New Hampshire had only 43 domestic infant adoptions placements
for every 1,000 abortions.2

• Fifth, SB335 would reduce the number of adoptions and increase the
number of children in foster care. Eliminating privacy in adoption
would mean that women with unplanned, out-of-wedlock births, who would
only choose adoption if it was confidential, would have no choice but
to single-parent. Social science data clearly reveal that the more
single parents there are, the more children languish in foster care.
Additionally, fewer couples would be willing to adopt, because of the
promotion of the view of adoption as longterm foster care, and because
of heightened fear over birthparents' ability to disrupt the adoptive
family. With fewer families willing to adopt, more children would be
stuck in foster care for longer periods of time.

• Sixth, SB335 would perpetuate the myth that adopted persons face
debilitating identity problems that can only be resolved by open
records and reunions with birthparents. The erroneous assumption of
open-records advocates is the false and demeaning notion that in order
to be psychologically healthy, all adopted persons must fulfill a
deep-seated need to have identifying information about, and contact
with, their biological parents. The truth is, however, that the vast
majority of persons adopted at a young age accept their adoption
readily, and grow up to be successful, happy, stable adults at the
same rate as people raised in their biological families. While many
adopted persons indicate a curiosity about their biological parents,
very few profess anything approaching a need for identifying
information or contact, fewer still would favor having the right to
impose themselves on birthparents against their will, and only a small
percentage actually search.

• Seventh, SB335 would add nothing to the adopted person's ability to
obtain medical information. New Hampshire law already allows for
adopted persons to obtain birthparent health history. Agencies and
attorneys alike willingly facilitate this process confidentially.

But genetic testing available today already makes this issue moot. One
can obtain far more information about one's genetic predispositions
from such tests than from any medical history of biological parents.

A Fair and Effective Policy -- Mutual Consent

Birthparents and adult adopted persons who desire to exchange
identifying information and/or have contact with each other should be
allowed to do so. New Hampshire's existing Chapter 170-B:19 does just
that. By allowing birthparents to sign, at the time of relinquishment
or consent to adoption, a release authorizing the adult adopted child
to obtain birthparent identifying information, and also allowing the
birthparent the right to revoke or amend the permission at any time,
New Hampshire is facilitating mutually desired contact, all the while
allowing birthparents to safeguard their privacy, if they so choose.
Though one may sympathize with the adopted person who desires to know
his or her birthparents personally, mutual consent is the only fair
standard for the sharing of identifying information and for contacts
between adopted persons and their birthparents.

Opponents of the principle of mutual consent often justify their
opposition by stating that the low frequency of reunions is evidence
of the policy's ineffectiveness. The more likely explanation is that
those who do not consent to contact simply have chosen not to share
identifying information or have contact. People who so choose should
be allowed to keep their privacy. Existing law that allows
birthparents to authorize, as part of the adoption approval process,
release of their identifying information to the adult adopted child,
has the effect of making birthparents aware of the option to forego
privacy.

Conclusion

No other counseling relationship between client and professional
service provider is subject to State violation of client privacy. If
the State may remove a professionally guaranteed right to
confidentiality in adoption, what is to prevent the State from
attempting to remove that right in relationships with doctors,
lawyers, clergy, and others, as well? Eliminating privacy in adoption
resulted in the elimination of adoption as a social institution in
Great Britain.4 It would be tragic and devastating to the interests of
children to see that outcome in New Hampshire. But the same result
could well occur here if SB335 is enacted, to the detriment of
children, birthparents, and families.

In 1996, the State of New Hampshire had 121 domestic infant adoptions,
as compared with 3,400 non-marital live births and 2,771 abortions.5
If the Senate Public Institutions, Health and Human Services Committee
were to pass SB335, then it would be choosing to continue this trend.
If, on the other hand, the Committee defeats this harmful legislation,
it would be choosing to protect the loving option of adoption, with
all its proven benefits to children, families, and birthparents.

1 "Privacy and Adoption," by Jeremiah Gutman, Adoption Factbook III,
National Council For Adoption, 1999, page

197.

2 "National Adoption Data," Adoption Factbook III, page 40.

3 Growing Up Adopted: A Portrait of Adolescents and Their Families, by
Peter L. Benson, Ph.D., Anu R. Sharma,

Ph.D., L.P., and Eugene Roehlkepartain, Search Institute, Minneapolis,
MN, 1994.

4 "Removing Privacy and Its Impact on Adoption: An Analysis of Data
from England and Wales as Compared with

America," by William Pierce, Adoption Factbook III, 1999, pages
209-212.

5 "National Adoption Data," Adoption Factbook III, page 40.

Thomas C. Atwood is President and CEO of the National Council For
Adoption. The Alexandria, Virginia-based National Council For Adoption
is one of America's leading adoption and child welfare organizations.
Founded in 1980, the mission of the National Council For Adoption is
to promote the well-being of children, birthparents, and adoptive
families by advocating for the positive option of adoption.

Marley Greiner
03-07-2004, 10:13 AM
Thanks Di. I don't know why I didn't think of posting this here! . It's a
masterful piece of manipulation and propaganda designed to strike terror
into the hearts of certain members of the adoption community. You'd think
that this would piss off people, wouldn't you. Unfortunately, most people
sit on their hands and play victim.

As it stands now, though, the NH bill has been grossly amended. If passed,
it will be one of the most Draconian access laws in the country. The bill
was introduced as a clean open records bill Since then it has been amended
to:

1) make the bill prospective; that is it will pertain only for future
adoptees, not generations of NH adoptees held hostage to secrecy

2) in direct violation of NH adoption law, it would require that the state
hold up issuing the obc for 15 days while it attempts to contact the
bparents and inform them of::

3) the contact veto which would prohibt the adult adoptee from contacting
bparents if they file such a veto. Violation of that veto would be
punishble as a misdomeanor (no classification yet cited in amendment) that
would subject the adopted person to a fine and possible imprisonment.

This is *not* a Bastard Nation bill.

I'll post our action alert over here in a minute.

Marley




"Dian" <patrice068@optusnet.com.au> wrote in message
news:9a095db9.0403070903.27ed9cf5@posting.google.c om... Adoptive father speaks for all adoptees and nmothers. No surprise here of course. http://www.regent.edu/acad/schgov/alumni/newsletter/alumninews.html Consent versus Coercion: How SB335 Harms Adoption Thomas C. Atwood President and CEO National Council For Adoption February 3, 2004 National Council For Adoption 225 N. Washington Street, Alexandria, VA 22314-2520 Telephone 703-299-6633, Fax 703-299-6004 www.adoptioncouncil.org Consent versus Coercion: How SB335 Harms Adoption If enacted, SB335 would harm the institution of adoption in New Hampshire and unjustly and unnecessarily disrupt and harm the lives of many innocent people involved in adoption. Adoption is a highly successful social institution that has wonderfully served needy children and birthparents who are unable or unready to parent. Yet without any findings to justify the change, SB335 would radically depart from current practice, by eliminating even the option of confidentiality in adoption in New Hampshire. Unfortunately, the loudest voices the legislature and the general public are likely to hear regarding SB335 are the vocal few who desire to identify and contact their birthparents, with or without their consent. This vocal few may feel that they have nothing to lose by persevering in their advocacy year after year. But birthparents who desire to maintain their privacy must either remain mute while their rights are being taken away or lose their privacy in the very act of defending it. The National Council For Adoption (NCFA) speaks in their defense, and in defense of the institution of adoption and of the children, families, and birthparents it serves. There are several ways that SB335's elimination of birthparents' right to choose a private adoption would harm adoption, children, families, and birthparents: . First, SB335 would violate birthparents' basic human right to privacy. SB335 would completely eliminate birthparents' right to choose a confidential adoption, both retroactively and prospectively. To open records retroactively without the approval of a birthmother who was promised privacy is a particularly egregious violation of trust and common decency. For the typical birthmother, making an adoption plan for her child is a supremely loving act, committed in the best interests of her child. The State of New Hampshire should honor birthmothers for this act of love, not punish them by stripping them of their basic human right to privacy. Under SB335, no future birthmother in New Hampshire would be allowed to choose a private adoption, no matter what the circumstances of pregnancy or birth. Without the right to choose a confidential adoption, the birthmother who felt she must have privacy would have no choice but abortion. As stated by Jeremiah Gutman, director of the American Civil Liberties Union (ACLU) and former chair of the ACLU's Privacy Committee, a woman facing an unplanned pregnancy could maintain her privacy only if she had an abortion.1 Would the State of New Hampshire grant a woman with an unplanned pregnancy a right to private abortion but not to private adoption? We ask the Senate Public Institutions, Health and Human Services Committee to recognize that there are any number of legitimate and understandable reasons that birthparents may desire privacy - perhaps, the birthmother does not want to relive the experience of rape or incest that caused the pregnancy; perhaps the birthparent does not want to upset his or her spouse, family, and friends with a never shared revelation; perhaps the birthparent would be psychologically or emotionally unable or unready to handle the stress of renewed contact; or perhaps the birthparent simply believes that the healthiest approach for all parties is not to have an ongoing relationship. Does the State of New Hampshire truly believe that one-size fits-all, mandatory open records is a superior policy to respecting birthparents' loving discernment and their right to privacy? . Second, SB335 would increase the number of unwanted, unilaterally imposed contacts and wreak havoc in people's lives. Thousands of New Hampshire birthparents, around the country and world, would be unaware that their privacy had been eliminated by this law, until being sent a contact preference form on behalf of the adult adopted child. Providing adult adopted persons identifying birthparent information without birthparent approval would, obviously, increase the number of unwanted, unilaterally imposed contacts. Moreover, birthparents who do not wish to be in contact with the adult adopted child, and who so indicate on the contact preference form, will then live in fear that the person, now knowing their identity, will disregard these wishes and attempt to make contact. Unwanted reunions between adult adopted persons and birthparents are often highly disruptive and unsatisfactory for everyone involved, despite the rosy scenarios sometimes portrayed in the media. Even when adopted persons and birthparents mutually consent to contact, their satisfaction with reunions and ongoing relationships is quite unpredictable. . Third, SB335 would undermine the strength of the adoptive family, by establishing as the legal norm and the cultural expectation that adopted persons and their birthparents will, and should, "reunite" when the child reaches the age of majority. A chief reason adoption has been so successful is because society and law have respected the adoptive family as the child's "forever" family. But SB335 would promote the view of the adoptive family as essentially long-term foster care, until the adopted child grows up and can be reunited with her or his "real" family. Such a view is harmful to children and families. Adoptive parenting has provided untold social and familial blessings to children throughout the years. Law and society must continue to respect the adoptive family's status as the adopted person's true and permanent family, in order for those blessings to continue. . Fourth, SB335 would reduce the number of adoptions and increase the number of abortions. Open-records advocates' argument that eliminating the option of privacy in adoption would have no effect on the number of abortions defies common sense. Obviously, some number of women with unplanned pregnancies, who would otherwise choose adoption, would choose abortion if they could not choose adoption with the assurance of privacy. What that number would be is impossible to tell, but what does it need to be? The loss of human potential from even one abortion that would have been an adoption is unknowable. And the ratio of adoptions to abortions in New Hampshire is already extremely low. In 1996, New Hampshire had only 43 domestic infant adoptions placements for every 1,000 abortions.2 . Fifth, SB335 would reduce the number of adoptions and increase the number of children in foster care. Eliminating privacy in adoption would mean that women with unplanned, out-of-wedlock births, who would only choose adoption if it was confidential, would have no choice but to single-parent. Social science data clearly reveal that the more single parents there are, the more children languish in foster care. Additionally, fewer couples would be willing to adopt, because of the promotion of the view of adoption as longterm foster care, and because of heightened fear over birthparents' ability to disrupt the adoptive family. With fewer families willing to adopt, more children would be stuck in foster care for longer periods of time. . Sixth, SB335 would perpetuate the myth that adopted persons face debilitating identity problems that can only be resolved by open records and reunions with birthparents. The erroneous assumption of open-records advocates is the false and demeaning notion that in order to be psychologically healthy, all adopted persons must fulfill a deep-seated need to have identifying information about, and contact with, their biological parents. The truth is, however, that the vast majority of persons adopted at a young age accept their adoption readily, and grow up to be successful, happy, stable adults at the same rate as people raised in their biological families. While many adopted persons indicate a curiosity about their biological parents, very few profess anything approaching a need for identifying information or contact, fewer still would favor having the right to impose themselves on birthparents against their will, and only a small percentage actually search. . Seventh, SB335 would add nothing to the adopted person's ability to obtain medical information. New Hampshire law already allows for adopted persons to obtain birthparent health history. Agencies and attorneys alike willingly facilitate this process confidentially. But genetic testing available today already makes this issue moot. One can obtain far more information about one's genetic predispositions from such tests than from any medical history of biological parents. A Fair and Effective Policy -- Mutual Consent Birthparents and adult adopted persons who desire to exchange identifying information and/or have contact with each other should be allowed to do so. New Hampshire's existing Chapter 170-B:19 does just that. By allowing birthparents to sign, at the time of relinquishment or consent to adoption, a release authorizing the adult adopted child to obtain birthparent identifying information, and also allowing the birthparent the right to revoke or amend the permission at any time, New Hampshire is facilitating mutually desired contact, all the while allowing birthparents to safeguard their privacy, if they so choose. Though one may sympathize with the adopted person who desires to know his or her birthparents personally, mutual consent is the only fair standard for the sharing of identifying information and for contacts between adopted persons and their birthparents. Opponents of the principle of mutual consent often justify their opposition by stating that the low frequency of reunions is evidence of the policy's ineffectiveness. The more likely explanation is that those who do not consent to contact simply have chosen not to share identifying information or have contact. People who so choose should be allowed to keep their privacy. Existing law that allows birthparents to authorize, as part of the adoption approval process, release of their identifying information to the adult adopted child, has the effect of making birthparents aware of the option to forego privacy. Conclusion No other counseling relationship between client and professional service provider is subject to State violation of client privacy. If the State may remove a professionally guaranteed right to confidentiality in adoption, what is to prevent the State from attempting to remove that right in relationships with doctors, lawyers, clergy, and others, as well? Eliminating privacy in adoption resulted in the elimination of adoption as a social institution in Great Britain.4 It would be tragic and devastating to the interests of children to see that outcome in New Hampshire. But the same result could well occur here if SB335 is enacted, to the detriment of children, birthparents, and families. In 1996, the State of New Hampshire had 121 domestic infant adoptions, as compared with 3,400 non-marital live births and 2,771 abortions.5 If the Senate Public Institutions, Health and Human Services Committee were to pass SB335, then it would be choosing to continue this trend. If, on the other hand, the Committee defeats this harmful legislation, it would be choosing to protect the loving option of adoption, with all its proven benefits to children, families, and birthparents. 1 "Privacy and Adoption," by Jeremiah Gutman, Adoption Factbook III, National Council For Adoption, 1999, page 197. 2 "National Adoption Data," Adoption Factbook III, page 40. 3 Growing Up Adopted: A Portrait of Adolescents and Their Families, by Peter L. Benson, Ph.D., Anu R. Sharma, Ph.D., L.P., and Eugene Roehlkepartain, Search Institute, Minneapolis, MN, 1994. 4 "Removing Privacy and Its Impact on Adoption: An Analysis of Data from England and Wales as Compared with America," by William Pierce, Adoption Factbook III, 1999, pages 209-212. 5 "National Adoption Data," Adoption Factbook III, page 40. Thomas C. Atwood is President and CEO of the National Council For Adoption. The Alexandria, Virginia-based National Council For Adoption is one of America's leading adoption and child welfare organizations. Founded in 1980, the mission of the National Council For Adoption is to promote the well-being of children, birthparents, and adoptive families by advocating for the positive option of adoption.

Steve White
03-07-2004, 11:29 AM
In article
<DDJ2c.83965$aH3.2569275@bgtnsc04-news.ops.worldnet.att.net>,
"Marley Greiner" <maddogmarley@worldnet.att.net> wrote:
As it stands now, though, the NH bill has been grossly amended. If passed, it will be one of the most Draconian access laws in the country. The bill was introduced as a clean open records bill Since then it has been amended to: 1) make the bill prospective; that is it will pertain only for future adoptees, not generations of NH adoptees held hostage to secrecy 2) in direct violation of NH adoption law, it would require that the state hold up issuing the obc for 15 days while it attempts to contact the bparents and inform them of:: 3) the contact veto which would prohibt the adult adoptee from contacting bparents if they file such a veto. Violation of that veto would be punishble as a misdomeanor (no classification yet cited in amendment) that would subject the adopted person to a fine and possible imprisonment. This is *not* a Bastard Nation bill.


Thank goodness. Who's the legislator who proposed this, is he/she
responsible for the amendments, and can we persuade him/her to pull it
now?





steve

Marley Greiner
03-07-2004, 11:37 AM
"Steve White" <steve@spam.me.never> wrote in message
news:steve-D8F0CD.13292407032004@netnews.comcast.net... In article <DDJ2c.83965$aH3.2569275@bgtnsc04-news.ops.worldnet.att.net>, "Marley Greiner" <maddogmarley@worldnet.att.net> wrote: As it stands now, though, the NH bill has been grossly amended. If passed, it will be one of the most Draconian access laws in the country. The bill was introduced as a clean open records bill Since then it has been amended to: 1) make the bill prospective; that is it will pertain only for future adoptees, not generations of NH adoptees held hostage to secrecy 2) in direct violation of NH adoption law, it would require that the state hold up issuing the obc for 15 days while it attempts to contact the bparents and inform them of:: 3) the contact veto which would prohibt the adult adoptee from contacting bparents if they file such a veto. Violation of that veto would be punishble as a misdomeanor (no classification yet cited in amendment) that would subject the adopted person to a fine and possible imprisonment. This is *not* a Bastard Nation bill. Thank goodness. Who's the legislator who proposed this, is he/she responsible for the amendments, and can we persuade him/her to pull it now?

The sponsor had nothing to do with the amendments. They came from a
committee, and unfortunately, under some (imo) strange procedural rules in
NH is not allowed to withdraw the bill.

Marley steve

Dian
03-07-2004, 03:18 PM
"Marley Greiner" <maddogmarley@worldnet.att.net> wrote in message news:<DDJ2c.83965$aH3.2569275@bgtnsc04-news.ops.worldnet.att.net>... Thanks Di. I don't know why I didn't think of posting this here! . It's a masterful piece of manipulation and propaganda designed to strike terror into the hearts of certain members of the adoption community. You'd think that this would piss off people, wouldn't you. Unfortunately, most people sit on their hands and play victim.
I guess it's all part of the parcel, Marley. While records are closed
they remain oppressed, which make everyone a "victim."

In amongst all their transparently 'caring angst' over the nmother's
right to
privacy we find the true reason behind their stance. Atwood could not
have made it more obvious if he hung bells and whistles on it.

What I want to know is why everyone is so afraid of calling a spade a
spade and
acknowledging the fact that it is self serving adoptive parents
who are opposing your rights in their obvious belief that they own
your souls and you owe them. This article couldn't make that more
obvious. And it needs to be publicly addressed and they need to be put
in their place and made to realise that no parent has a right to
control their children once they become adults.

As it stands now, though, the NH bill has been grossly amended. If passed, it will be one of the most Draconian access laws in the country. The bill was introduced as a clean open records bill Since then it has been amended to: 1) make the bill prospective; that is it will pertain only for future adoptees, not generations of NH adoptees held hostage to secrecy 2) in direct violation of NH adoption law, it would require that the state hold up issuing the obc for 15 days while it attempts to contact the bparents and inform them of:: 3) the contact veto which would prohibt the adult adoptee from contacting bparents if they file such a veto. Violation of that veto would be punishble as a misdomeanor (no classification yet cited in amendment) that would subject the adopted person to a fine and possible imprisonment. This is *not* a Bastard Nation bill. I'll post our action alert over here in a minute. Marley
Okay.

Di "Dian" <patrice068@optusnet.com.au> wrote in message news:9a095db9.0403070903.27ed9cf5@posting.google.c om... Adoptive father speaks for all adoptees and nmothers. No surprise here of course. http://www.regent.edu/acad/schgov/alumni/newsletter/alumninews.html Consent versus Coercion: How SB335 Harms Adoption Thomas C. Atwood President and CEO National Council For Adoption February 3, 2004 National Council For Adoption 225 N. Washington Street, Alexandria, VA 22314-2520 Telephone 703-299-6633, Fax 703-299-6004 www.adoptioncouncil.org Consent versus Coercion: How SB335 Harms Adoption If enacted, SB335 would harm the institution of adoption in New Hampshire and unjustly and unnecessarily disrupt and harm the lives of many innocent people involved in adoption. Adoption is a highly successful social institution that has wonderfully served needy children and birthparents who are unable or unready to parent. Yet without any findings to justify the change, SB335 would radically depart from current practice, by eliminating even the option of confidentiality in adoption in New Hampshire. Unfortunately, the loudest voices the legislature and the general public are likely to hear regarding SB335 are the vocal few who desire to identify and contact their birthparents, with or without their consent. This vocal few may feel that they have nothing to lose by persevering in their advocacy year after year. But birthparents who desire to maintain their privacy must either remain mute while their rights are being taken away or lose their privacy in the very act of defending it. The National Council For Adoption (NCFA) speaks in their defense, and in defense of the institution of adoption and of the children, families, and birthparents it serves. There are several ways that SB335's elimination of birthparents' right to choose a private adoption would harm adoption, children, families, and birthparents: . First, SB335 would violate birthparents' basic human right to privacy. SB335 would completely eliminate birthparents' right to choose a confidential adoption, both retroactively and prospectively. To open records retroactively without the approval of a birthmother who was promised privacy is a particularly egregious violation of trust and common decency. For the typical birthmother, making an adoption plan for her child is a supremely loving act, committed in the best interests of her child. The State of New Hampshire should honor birthmothers for this act of love, not punish them by stripping them of their basic human right to privacy. Under SB335, no future birthmother in New Hampshire would be allowed to choose a private adoption, no matter what the circumstances of pregnancy or birth. Without the right to choose a confidential adoption, the birthmother who felt she must have privacy would have no choice but abortion. As stated by Jeremiah Gutman, director of the American Civil Liberties Union (ACLU) and former chair of the ACLU's Privacy Committee, a woman facing an unplanned pregnancy could maintain her privacy only if she had an abortion.1 Would the State of New Hampshire grant a woman with an unplanned pregnancy a right to private abortion but not to private adoption? We ask the Senate Public Institutions, Health and Human Services Committee to recognize that there are any number of legitimate and understandable reasons that birthparents may desire privacy - perhaps, the birthmother does not want to relive the experience of rape or incest that caused the pregnancy; perhaps the birthparent does not want to upset his or her spouse, family, and friends with a never shared revelation; perhaps the birthparent would be psychologically or emotionally unable or unready to handle the stress of renewed contact; or perhaps the birthparent simply believes that the healthiest approach for all parties is not to have an ongoing relationship. Does the State of New Hampshire truly believe that one-size fits-all, mandatory open records is a superior policy to respecting birthparents' loving discernment and their right to privacy? . Second, SB335 would increase the number of unwanted, unilaterally imposed contacts and wreak havoc in people's lives. Thousands of New Hampshire birthparents, around the country and world, would be unaware that their privacy had been eliminated by this law, until being sent a contact preference form on behalf of the adult adopted child. Providing adult adopted persons identifying birthparent information without birthparent approval would, obviously, increase the number of unwanted, unilaterally imposed contacts. Moreover, birthparents who do not wish to be in contact with the adult adopted child, and who so indicate on the contact preference form, will then live in fear that the person, now knowing their identity, will disregard these wishes and attempt to make contact. Unwanted reunions between adult adopted persons and birthparents are often highly disruptive and unsatisfactory for everyone involved, despite the rosy scenarios sometimes portrayed in the media. Even when adopted persons and birthparents mutually consent to contact, their satisfaction with reunions and ongoing relationships is quite unpredictable. . Third, SB335 would undermine the strength of the adoptive family, by establishing as the legal norm and the cultural expectation that adopted persons and their birthparents will, and should, "reunite" when the child reaches the age of majority. A chief reason adoption has been so successful is because society and law have respected the adoptive family as the child's "forever" family. But SB335 would promote the view of the adoptive family as essentially long-term foster care, until the adopted child grows up and can be reunited with her or his "real" family. Such a view is harmful to children and families. Adoptive parenting has provided untold social and familial blessings to children throughout the years. Law and society must continue to respect the adoptive family's status as the adopted person's true and permanent family, in order for those blessings to continue. . Fourth, SB335 would reduce the number of adoptions and increase the number of abortions. Open-records advocates' argument that eliminating the option of privacy in adoption would have no effect on the number of abortions defies common sense. Obviously, some number of women with unplanned pregnancies, who would otherwise choose adoption, would choose abortion if they could not choose adoption with the assurance of privacy. What that number would be is impossible to tell, but what does it need to be? The loss of human potential from even one abortion that would have been an adoption is unknowable. And the ratio of adoptions to abortions in New Hampshire is already extremely low. In 1996, New Hampshire had only 43 domestic infant adoptions placements for every 1,000 abortions.2 . Fifth, SB335 would reduce the number of adoptions and increase the number of children in foster care. Eliminating privacy in adoption would mean that women with unplanned, out-of-wedlock births, who would only choose adoption if it was confidential, would have no choice but to single-parent. Social science data clearly reveal that the more single parents there are, the more children languish in foster care. Additionally, fewer couples would be willing to adopt, because of the promotion of the view of adoption as longterm foster care, and because of heightened fear over birthparents' ability to disrupt the adoptive family. With fewer families willing to adopt, more children would be stuck in foster care for longer periods of time. . Sixth, SB335 would perpetuate the myth that adopted persons face debilitating identity problems that can only be resolved by open records and reunions with birthparents. The erroneous assumption of open-records advocates is the false and demeaning notion that in order to be psychologically healthy, all adopted persons must fulfill a deep-seated need to have identifying information about, and contact with, their biological parents. The truth is, however, that the vast majority of persons adopted at a young age accept their adoption readily, and grow up to be successful, happy, stable adults at the same rate as people raised in their biological families. While many adopted persons indicate a curiosity about their biological parents, very few profess anything approaching a need for identifying information or contact, fewer still would favor having the right to impose themselves on birthparents against their will, and only a small percentage actually search. . Seventh, SB335 would add nothing to the adopted person's ability to obtain medical information. New Hampshire law already allows for adopted persons to obtain birthparent health history. Agencies and attorneys alike willingly facilitate this process confidentially. But genetic testing available today already makes this issue moot. One can obtain far more information about one's genetic predispositions from such tests than from any medical history of biological parents. A Fair and Effective Policy -- Mutual Consent Birthparents and adult adopted persons who desire to exchange identifying information and/or have contact with each other should be allowed to do so. New Hampshire's existing Chapter 170-B:19 does just that. By allowing birthparents to sign, at the time of relinquishment or consent to adoption, a release authorizing the adult adopted child to obtain birthparent identifying information, and also allowing the birthparent the right to revoke or amend the permission at any time, New Hampshire is facilitating mutually desired contact, all the while allowing birthparents to safeguard their privacy, if they so choose. Though one may sympathize with the adopted person who desires to know his or her birthparents personally, mutual consent is the only fair standard for the sharing of identifying information and for contacts between adopted persons and their birthparents. Opponents of the principle of mutual consent often justify their opposition by stating that the low frequency of reunions is evidence of the policy's ineffectiveness. The more likely explanation is that those who do not consent to contact simply have chosen not to share identifying information or have contact. People who so choose should be allowed to keep their privacy. Existing law that allows birthparents to authorize, as part of the adoption approval process, release of their identifying information to the adult adopted child, has the effect of making birthparents aware of the option to forego privacy. Conclusion No other counseling relationship between client and professional service provider is subject to State violation of client privacy. If the State may remove a professionally guaranteed right to confidentiality in adoption, what is to prevent the State from attempting to remove that right in relationships with doctors, lawyers, clergy, and others, as well? Eliminating privacy in adoption resulted in the elimination of adoption as a social institution in Great Britain.4 It would be tragic and devastating to the interests of children to see that outcome in New Hampshire. But the same result could well occur here if SB335 is enacted, to the detriment of children, birthparents, and families. In 1996, the State of New Hampshire had 121 domestic infant adoptions, as compared with 3,400 non-marital live births and 2,771 abortions.5 If the Senate Public Institutions, Health and Human Services Committee were to pass SB335, then it would be choosing to continue this trend. If, on the other hand, the Committee defeats this harmful legislation, it would be choosing to protect the loving option of adoption, with all its proven benefits to children, families, and birthparents. 1 "Privacy and Adoption," by Jeremiah Gutman, Adoption Factbook III, National Council For Adoption, 1999, page 197. 2 "National Adoption Data," Adoption Factbook III, page 40. 3 Growing Up Adopted: A Portrait of Adolescents and Their Families, by Peter L. Benson, Ph.D., Anu R. Sharma, Ph.D., L.P., and Eugene Roehlkepartain, Search Institute, Minneapolis, MN, 1994. 4 "Removing Privacy and Its Impact on Adoption: An Analysis of Data from England and Wales as Compared with America," by William Pierce, Adoption Factbook III, 1999, pages 209-212. 5 "National Adoption Data," Adoption Factbook III, page 40. Thomas C. Atwood is President and CEO of the National Council For Adoption. The Alexandria, Virginia-based National Council For Adoption is one of America's leading adoption and child welfare organizations. Founded in 1980, the mission of the National Council For Adoption is to promote the well-being of children, birthparents, and adoptive families by advocating for the positive option of adoption.

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