Jbj4712
02-01-2004, 05:34 PM
It occurs to me that there may be a way to warn current birthmothers before
it's too late.
The Gladney Center is a baby farm located in Crowley, Texas, behind Harris
Southwest Hospital.
At a dairy farm, the farmer provides the cows with food and water, and
veterinary care. The cows get to wander around and moo with the other cows. At
night, they get to stay in the barn provided by the farmer for them, because if
they stayed in the pasture all night, they'd get pasteurized. 8-) The farmer
gets milk from the cows, to provide to people who want milk. That's the idea.
At the baby farm, the farmers provide pregnant girls with food and water, and
prenatal care. The girls get to wander around and talk to the other pregnant
girls. At night, they get to stay in the dormitory provided by the farmers for
them. The baby farmers get to place the bay for adoption with an adoptive
couple that wants a baby.
Of course, they give up the baby voluntarily, just like they gave up their
virginity voluntarily. Of course, when they gave up their virginity, a lot of
smooth pillow talk was instrumental in their voluntary decision. I do not know
whether the baby farmers smooth-talk them out of the baby, or what the deal is
there. I do not know whether she is under emotional strain (such as the
adoptive parents attending the birth, who will be heartbroken if she changes
her mind now.) without an offer of moral support for her right to keep her
baby. That's why I was careful to assert this right on the ads on my website.
Expecting the adopting parents to remind her that she does not have to give up
her baby is like expecting the 15-year-old boyfriend to remind her that she
doesn't have to give up her virginity if she doesn't want to. Sure, it happens,
but those girls, therefore, don't wind up at the baby farm as often.
Here's my suggestion: If you want to warn birthmothers about all the pain that
goes with giving up your baby, before it's too late, and remind them that they
have every right to keep the kid, run an ad in the Crowley Star
http://thestargroup.com which the girls can read during their pregnancy.
Perhaps the best scenario --IN SOME CASES-- is if she tries to reunite with the
boyfriend. Possibly, an intermediary can find out what caused the break-up and
help them reunite. For example, the guy might have stopped going to her house
because her parents were always angry at him. Perhaps they, or the girl,
prejudged him as the type that would abandon her, and then her own resulting
ill will caused the emotional bond to break. Maybe she had given up because he
showed no interest in the baby, and forgot that he hasn't seen the kid yet. She
can bond with the critter wiggling in her belly, but he can't. A mediator can
offer him a deal, where he doesn't HAVE to bond with the baby, just the girl.
After the baby is born, that's the first day for him, so give it time and he
might bond with the kid.
The guy might just be overwhelmed at the idea of being committed long-term now.
Somebody needs to tell him that he can still flirt with other girls. One fun
way is to show them pictures of the baby, and girls love that. This has an
advantage that he can even flirt with his buddy's girlfriend and other girls
who he wouldn't ask for a date, and watch them light up. He doesn't need to ask
them for a date since he has a perfectly good girlfriend, and they won't reject
him, either.
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adoption@adoption.com.ws
http://adoption.com.ws
it's too late.
The Gladney Center is a baby farm located in Crowley, Texas, behind Harris
Southwest Hospital.
At a dairy farm, the farmer provides the cows with food and water, and
veterinary care. The cows get to wander around and moo with the other cows. At
night, they get to stay in the barn provided by the farmer for them, because if
they stayed in the pasture all night, they'd get pasteurized. 8-) The farmer
gets milk from the cows, to provide to people who want milk. That's the idea.
At the baby farm, the farmers provide pregnant girls with food and water, and
prenatal care. The girls get to wander around and talk to the other pregnant
girls. At night, they get to stay in the dormitory provided by the farmers for
them. The baby farmers get to place the bay for adoption with an adoptive
couple that wants a baby.
Of course, they give up the baby voluntarily, just like they gave up their
virginity voluntarily. Of course, when they gave up their virginity, a lot of
smooth pillow talk was instrumental in their voluntary decision. I do not know
whether the baby farmers smooth-talk them out of the baby, or what the deal is
there. I do not know whether she is under emotional strain (such as the
adoptive parents attending the birth, who will be heartbroken if she changes
her mind now.) without an offer of moral support for her right to keep her
baby. That's why I was careful to assert this right on the ads on my website.
Expecting the adopting parents to remind her that she does not have to give up
her baby is like expecting the 15-year-old boyfriend to remind her that she
doesn't have to give up her virginity if she doesn't want to. Sure, it happens,
but those girls, therefore, don't wind up at the baby farm as often.
Here's my suggestion: If you want to warn birthmothers about all the pain that
goes with giving up your baby, before it's too late, and remind them that they
have every right to keep the kid, run an ad in the Crowley Star
http://thestargroup.com which the girls can read during their pregnancy.
Perhaps the best scenario --IN SOME CASES-- is if she tries to reunite with the
boyfriend. Possibly, an intermediary can find out what caused the break-up and
help them reunite. For example, the guy might have stopped going to her house
because her parents were always angry at him. Perhaps they, or the girl,
prejudged him as the type that would abandon her, and then her own resulting
ill will caused the emotional bond to break. Maybe she had given up because he
showed no interest in the baby, and forgot that he hasn't seen the kid yet. She
can bond with the critter wiggling in her belly, but he can't. A mediator can
offer him a deal, where he doesn't HAVE to bond with the baby, just the girl.
After the baby is born, that's the first day for him, so give it time and he
might bond with the kid.
The guy might just be overwhelmed at the idea of being committed long-term now.
Somebody needs to tell him that he can still flirt with other girls. One fun
way is to show them pictures of the baby, and girls love that. This has an
advantage that he can even flirt with his buddy's girlfriend and other girls
who he wouldn't ask for a date, and watch them light up. He doesn't need to ask
them for a date since he has a perfectly good girlfriend, and they won't reject
him, either.
---------------
adoption@adoption.com.ws
http://adoption.com.ws
