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anatomynurse
05-04-2006, 06:20 PM
confused is the word of the moment earlier today when I finally had enough and quit my job I was humiliated for the last time ,18 months ago I began work as a nurse consultant for a large corrections corp. dressed as I always did (the same for my interview) this particular day was wearing a skirt and jacket and the usual office attire the CEO walked by looked me up and down and stated"I hope you have panties on under that" I was so stunned I just ignored the remark and kept working,a few weeks later while walking to the elevator the CEO again commented "If you ever catch a chest cold youll be in trouble" today my immediate director walked over to my work area and sternly said "stand up!" and said it twice she then looked at me and said , your skirt is to short do somthing about it(I might add was just above the knee)t,all these instances occured out infront of other co workers in plain veiw and hearing, not once during my time at this corp did my supervisor or my hr person for that matter come to me and tell me my dress was inappropriate or there was a dress code i wasnt adhereing to so i feel like I was singled out by my superiors for harrassment,today I had enough is this harrassment?I did ask for assistance by hr but got no where

ElleMD
05-05-2006, 10:56 AM
Punctuation and Capital letters at the beginning of a sentence are good things and they help the reader understand your post.

Three isolated comments do not form the basis of a sexual harassment suit. The comment by the CEO was out of line, but one comment doesn't form a case nor alter your work environment any. I'm not even sure what the second comment means or how it could be SH. Again, it was one comment.

The third comment was by someone else entirely. Whether you felt the skirt was too short or not isn't the issue. Your director felt it was inappropriate and therefore had the right to tell you not to wear it anymore. It would have been better had he made the comment in private, but this doesn't make it illegal harassment. It doesn't matter whether HR approved or there is a formal dress code or not. It was deemed unacceptable at work.

You were free to quit if you were unhappy there, but that does not translate into having a legal case.

anatomynurse
05-05-2006, 08:37 PM
Are you here to be critical of me or help me? At the time this was written I had just been "corrected" so excuse me if getting the message across to (and I'm assuming here that your a lawyer?)you was more important than making sure my punctuation was correct tell you what I'll consult a real Law firm and chalk this up to clicking on the wrong service.

mitousmom
05-06-2006, 10:07 AM
Are you here to be critical of me or help me? The people who respond to you here will do both. In most posts, we are being asked to examine the behavior and conduct of the poster, the employer and/or co-workers and indicate whether there is a violation of a law. The examination can show that the behavior of the poster was wrong or the poster's interpretation, actions or expectations are wrong or unwarranted.

It's very difficult to read and comprehend strings of words that don't follow the rules of grammar. The people here do this on a voluntary basis. If it's too difficult to understand your question or your situation, you won't get a reply.

As ElleMD noted, the three comments you experienced, don't amount to a violation of any federal law. I, however, would have been annoyed by the CEO's comments, especially if large-busted. Had you not resigned, I would have suggested that you let him know that his comments make you uncomfortable. If he continued to make comments tinged with sexual innuendo, you probably could allege that his comments were sexually harassing depending upon the frequency.

Blue22
06-05-2006, 04:09 AM
It only has to be once as long as severe or pervasive. If I was you I would be keeping a record of what he said the dates, time, place and who was present to witness it and who played along in the conversation and what they said.

ElleMD
06-05-2006, 07:11 AM
Except that this post is a month old and the employee in question already left. The 3 comments are neither severe nor pervasive enough to qualify as SH. If it only happens once, it can be severe but not pervasive.

If the CEO has assaulted her that would be severe enough to invoke legal rememdy regardless of how many times it happened. If the comments were multiple times a day over a period of time, it could be pervasive enough to have a case. This was neither.

Blue22
06-05-2006, 11:12 PM
In that case what is a definition of assault?

It was multiple times.

She specified it was humiliating.

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