I work at a high school in illinois. a fellow male co-worker has made several sexual advances. I had finally went to my supr. and told her that I wanted him out of my class. She stated she wanted me to press charges after a couple of days I told her I would. My supr. wanted to go to our principle but I told her if we did I wouldn't press the charges due to this co-worker and principle are the bestest of buds. my supr. totally agreed with me and she reported it to the director of our department. The very NEXT DAY the whole building other co-workers and the male in question knew i was pressing charges due to my supr. going to the principle and telling him that I was pressing sexual harassement charges against his friend. This male co-worker new all about it. After that I had Ms. ****** is a ***** written on my classroom door. staff members talking about me make fun of me and make my work day a living hell. I would cry in my car on a daily basis.
The investagtion started and know its over the aren't doing anything to my supr. for breaking conf. nor this male co-worker they placed him back in my class yesturday and I made such a stink about it they pulled him out today and i have a meeting with the director of HR tomorrow. I don't want this male co-worker back in my class and I want my supr. written up due to her opening her mouth.

HELP!

It is not up to you whether the supervisor gets written up or not. She does not owe you confidentiality under the law and what's more, she may not have had any choice. Once she knew about this, she was required under the law to take action and that does NOT mean keeping the principal in the dark about what is taking place in his school.

What's more, you don't get to dictate whether they leave the co-worker in your class or not. Their legal obligation is to make the harassment stop, period. They do not have any obligation to see that you don't have to work with him any further.

I'm telling you this because your post (as well as your description of your own behavior) indicates that you are taking the position of, "This is what I want and if I don't get exactly what I want there's going to be hell to pay" and that is the worst thing you can possibly do. It is THEIR decision, not yours, who gets disciplined and how. If you come in like gangbusters demanding things that under the law it is not your right to demand, how likely do you think it is that they'll be willing to work with you?

If the harassment continues, you have recourse, both internally and with the state and Federal regulatory agencies. But right now, you need to calm down and listen instead of making demands, or you're going to find yourself in a worse position than you are now. They can't fire you because you filed an SH complaint but they sure as heck can for making a spectacle of yourself.

What does pressing charges have to do with this guy being friends with the principal? The principal was going to have to find out if anything was going to be done about the behavior. Being friends with someone does not mean that inappropriate berhavior will be swept under the rug. It may mean the principals designates someone else to look into it, but it doesn't exempt you from notifying him.

Your supervisor did what should have been done. If you report illegal behavior, confidence goes out the window. If she wasn't the person to ensure it stopped, then she had a duty to report it to others who could and yes, most often that is the principal.