I have a situation my nefew is named S. His mother is my sister and his father is Big S. They (meaning sister and Big S.) had joint custody of S. Until my sister was arrested for possesion and child neglect. I took it upon my self to inform Big S of the situation, because they were not together he had no idea. His relationship with S was not good and mostly because my sister would tell S. that his father was no good, he never wanted to go any where with him. He would scream and cry to stay with his mother. So Big S. gave up. Now that my sister has no rights I had S. staying with me and was trying to help S. and Big S. build there relationship. I didn't want S. to be pushed, I wanted him to want to be with his dad. Now what has happened is that Big S. has him and will not let him visit me. He is forcing him to stay with him and I am afraid that S. will resent him and it will make things worse. As his aunt do i have any rights i do not want to fight for custody S. has been tramatized enough. I want what is best for him. I don't think being forceful with him will help. What do I do. Do I file for custody do I have that right, do I have to prove Big S. is an unfit father. Is it going to be hard to get custody.

I have a situation my nefew is named S. His mother is my sister and his father is Big S. They (meaning sister and Big S.) had joint custody of S. Until my sister was arrested for possesion and child neglect. I took it upon my self to inform Big S of the situation, because they were not together he had no idea. His relationship with S was not good and mostly because my sister would tell S. that his father was no good, he never wanted to go any where with him. He would scream and cry to stay with his mother. So Big S. gave up. Now that my sister has no rights I had S. staying with me and was trying to help S. and Big S. build there relationship. I didn't want S. to be pushed, I wanted him to want to be with his dad. Now what has happened is that Big S. has him and will not let him visit me. He is forcing him to stay with him and I am afraid that S. will resent him and it will make things worse. As his aunt do i have any rights i do not want to fight for custody S. has been tramatized enough. I want what is best for him. I don't think being forceful with him will help. What do I do. Do I file for custody do I have that right, do I have to prove Big S. is an unfit father. Is it going to be hard to get custody.

it will be hard for the court to change custody, you would have to prove he is unfit. try to go for visitation, consult a lawyer. when everyone gave up and you had s then you should have filed for custody that way he would not have been able to take him. how old is s? he needs to know dad

trying for custody will be costly and difficult to win. Your best bet is to be as polite as you can to the father to win favoritism that will hopefully result in him letting you take the child and help in raising him. If you can't make nice with the father, you will battle it always.