I have a 1/2 sister that I learned about 5 years ago
my Dad had a whole other family while married to my Mom
the kept the first boy (I had knew him as step-brother) then they he and now
step-mother had a girl they gve up for adoption, got married after my parents
divorced and had another girl they kept

it's the girl that got adopted I wonder about, I know the chances are damned
near if not impossible to find
NY laws say as a sibling I can search
talked it over w/my Therapist and decided it was best to give it up, hell she
may not even know she's adopted

I get a letter from my step-mother, saying I "had" to drop, it was none of my
buisness

and this makes me wonder
she says her and my dad were sworn to secrecy by courts, that neither are
allowed to talk about. The adoption was done in NY state, 40 yrs ago
(my dad is dead)

anybody heard of an adoption being sworn to secrecy by the courts?


ensoul







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>Subject: adopt sworn to secrecy?From: ensoul100@aol.com (Ensoul100)Date: 11/25/03 6:50 PM Pacific Standard TimeMessage-id: <20031125215015.27838.00001011@mb-m06.aol.com>I have a 1/2 sister that I learned about 5 years agomy Dad had a whole other family while married to my Momthe kept the first boy (I had knew him as step-brother) then they he and nowstep-mother had a girl they gve up for adoption, got married after my parentsdivorced and had another girl they keptit's the girl that got adopted I wonder about, I know the chances are damnednear if not impossible to findNY laws say as a sibling I can searchtalked it over w/my Therapist and decided it was best to give it up, hell shemay not even know she's adopted

Not your problem. You and your brother have a right to know your sister, and
she has a right to know you, if you all desire it. If she does not know she was
adopted, she should! Her parents have a moral responsibility to tell her.
I get a letter from my step-mother, saying I "had" to drop, it was none of mybuisness

That would be wrong. It is very much your business. What does your brother
think of all of this?? Your step-mother is wrong, and it's none of her
business if you search for YOUR SISTER. Sounds like she's trying to hide
something else...
and this makes me wondershe says her and my dad were sworn to secrecy by courts, that neither areallowed to talk about. The adoption was done in NY state, 40 yrs ago(my dad is dead)anybody heard of an adoption being sworn to secrecy by the courts?

The wording of each relinquishment is different. She may have been told she
would not have contact with the minor child. But, those papers were signed a
LONG time ago. It is not illegal for you to search, you will not be going
against anything your step-mother did. You are not her. If I were you, I
wouldn't wait another day to start searching!
ensoulI refuse to answer that question on the grounds that I don't know the answer.~ Douglas AdamsWhen will our consciences grow so tender that we will act to prevent human misery rather than avenge it?~Eleanor Roosevelt

Kathy, born Renee Karyn Racine

Permanent good can never be the outcome of untruth and violence.
--Mahatma Gandhi
Peace is not merely a distant goal that we seek, but a means by which we arrive
at that goal.
--Dr. Martin Luther King Jr.

>Subject: Re: adopt sworn to secrecy?From: reneekarynracine@aol.comhomesafe (Kathy T)

Thank you so much, you're kind and supportive..that means a lot

I have been searching on and off, when I get fed with lack of results I take
break

problem I don't have the proper info to do a real search

the brother, is a half bother...didn't grow up w/him and he lived cross country
last I knew he had a drinking problem and gave his child to another sister

my dad is dead, step mom refuses to talk it
I don't the date of adopted sisters birth
have a idea in years, thats not enough

don't know what name step mom used on her birth certifacate
her maiden name which I don't know
or either of her 2 married names, which I do know

again, many thanks

ensoul




I refuse to answer that question on the grounds that I don't know the answer.
~ Douglas Adams


When will our consciences grow so tender that we will act to prevent
human misery rather than avenge it?
~Eleanor Roosevelt

>Subject: Re: adopt sworn to secrecy?From: ensoul100@aol.com (Ensoul100)Date: 11/26/2003
don't know what name step mom used on her birth certifacateher maiden name which I don't knowor either of her 2 married names, which I do know

Is her maiden name listed on her and your fathers marriage certificate? Kathy