My Puerto Rican wife and I would like to adopt a hispanic newborn. We
live in Michigan, and will consider children born in the 50 states and
Puerto Rico. The plethora of alternatives can be overwehlming, so I've
got alot of questions. Answers to only one or just some of the
questions would be appreciated. Can anyone recommend an agency? Can
anyone recommend Catholic Social Services for us? Should we contact
state agencies (such as the Bureau of Family & Children's Services) in
Michigan as well as Florida, Texas, California, New York...? Or would
those state agencies not have newborns available? If not available,
how young would they have them? If we want to do a direct adoption
from Puerto Rico do we hire an attorney in Puerto Rico, in Michigan,
or in both? Are there any resources on the web for adopting hispanic
children? Will agencies cooperate if I want to interview multiple
b-mothers before making a decision?

Thank you,
--
Joe
jmantle3@peoplepc.com

jmantle writes:
My Puerto Rican wife and I would like to adopt a hispanic newborn. Welive in Michigan, and will consider children born in the 50 states andPuerto Rico. The plethora of alternatives can be overwehlming, so I'vegot alot of questions. Answers to only one or just some of thequestions would be appreciated. Can anyone recommend an agency? Cananyone recommend Catholic Social Services for us? Should we contactstate agencies (such as the Bureau of Family & Children's Services) inMichigan as well as Florida, Texas, California, New York...? Or wouldthose state agencies not have newborns available? If not available,how young would they have them? If we want to do a direct adoptionfrom Puerto Rico do we hire an attorney in Puerto Rico, in Michigan,or in both? Are there any resources on the web for adopting hispanicchildren? Will agencies cooperate if I want to interview multipleb-mothers before making a decision?Thank you,--Joe


Joe, you are new to adoption and are, understandably, operating under some
false assumptions. You should know that adopting a "hispanic newborn" will not
be an easy endeavor. Chances are good you will not have a "plethora of
alternatives" nor will you likely have the opportunity to "interview multiple
b-mothers before making a decision." Only a tiny fraction of a percentage of
women opt to place their newborns for adoption, regardless of race, age or
socio-economic circumstances. You can count on the adoption of a domestic
newborn to cost between $12,000 and $30,000 and take around eighteen months. My
advice to you is to attend the free orientation sessions of as many adoption
agencies as you can in your area. You can also consult with adoption attorneys
in your area free of charge, typically. You are sure to learn a lot. Go to
your local retail bookstores and purchase every book available on the subject
of adoption. Those written within the last two years would offer the most
reliable information.

Good luck to you as you pursue adoption. You might eventually determine
domestic, newborn adoption is a frighteningly risky pursuit. Once you start
educating yourself you will find a "plethora" of adoption options including
international adoption and the adoption of older children from our domestic
foster care system.




P2P

>Subject: want to adopt hispanic newbornFrom: jmantle3@peoplepc.com (WJM)Date: 11/21/03 9:49 PM Mountain Standard TimeMessage-id: <61b81cbf.0311212049.3710169a@posting.google.com>


Will agencies cooperate if I want to interview multipleb-mothers before making a decision?

I think you're a little mixed up here. They'll be interviewing YOU.




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>Subject: Re: want to adopt hispanic newbornFrom: lilmtncbn@aol.comnospam (LilMtnCbn)Date: 11/24/03 3:26 PM Pacific Standard TimeMessage-id: <20031124182608.20183.00000953@mb-m04.aol.com>Subject: want to adopt hispanic newbornFrom: jmantle3@peoplepc.com (WJM)Date: 11/21/03 9:49 PM Mountain Standard TimeMessage-id: <61b81cbf.0311212049.3710169a@posting.google.com> Will agencies cooperate if I want to interview multipleb-mothers before making a decision?I think you're a little mixed up here. They'll be interviewing YOU.-------------------------A good friend will come and bail you out of jail . . . but, a true friendwillbe sitting next to you saying, "Damn . . . that was fun!"-----Unknown
Yeah, WTF is up with that? Perhaps they'll want to wait until the baby is
born, so they can pick the cutest one? Maybe they can wait until they walk and
talk, so they can interview the children too? How rediculous is that,
"interview multiple birthmothers".

To the OP: You're ignorant, so I'm not sure why I expect you to understand
this. A woman isn't a b-mother until she has given birth, and chosen to
relinquish her child, or her rights to her child are terminated by social
services. Until that point, she is an expectant mother, or a mother. You will
not interview an expectant mother, she will either interview you, or choose you
based on what she sees in your profile. Children are not special order
products, FYI. Your post was pretty disgusting.
Kathy, born Renee Karyn Racine

Permanent good can never be the outcome of untruth and violence.
--Mahatma Gandhi
Peace is not merely a distant goal that we seek, but a means by which we arrive
at that goal.
--Dr. Martin Luther King Jr.