Question and hopefully some answers:

Me and my ex have 2 children together, 1 now 22 (who moved out of my house 1-06), and 1 now 14, who lives with him. At the age of 6 my ex begged me to allow him to send my son to school and even threatened that a man should raise a boy to be a man or he would get into trouble. Well with much pain in my heart I decided to let him send my son to school during the week, and I would get him on weekends. Over the years he has been very controlling and even controlls when my son comes over. My ex have always been a money hungry person and now wants me to pay him child support to send my son to a $600 a month high school. I have no problem with helping him, as I always do when I can, but I also have a special needs child that is 5 (with her father incarcerated) and I have very little help. He is also seeking sole custody.

Any ideas?

Who currently has sole custody of your 14 year old? What were the custody arrangements originally, and did they change when your son went to live with his dad?

He attempted to take me to Child Support Court in 2004, and I was ordered to pay him $138 every 2 weeks (by an arbitrator, I guess), but he was unable to receive payments because the court found out that he did not have legal custody of my son. We didn't see a Judge though, I really didn't understand that either, I thought the court take into consideration one's other children, bills, etc. By the way he barely took care of our daughter, who is now 22.

He attempted to take me to Child Support Court in 2004, and I was ordered to pay him $138 every 2 weeks (by an arbitrator, I guess), but he was unable to receive payments because the court found out that he did not have legal custody of my son. We didn't see a Judge though, I really didn't understand that either, I thought the court take into consideration one's other children, bills, etc. By the way he barely took care of our daughter, who is now 22.

Well he can't receive child support if he doesn't have custody of your son, even if your son lives with him 100% of the time. Both parents are obligated to financially support thier children. When custody is awarded, the non-custodial parent will pay his/her portion of the determined child support to the custodial parent.

The court will take into consideration the children you have together (not children from a different father) and your incomes. They will not consider your bills, since those can vary depending on what your personal spending habits are.

I'm guessing he is trying to get sole custody of your son so that he can then collect child support from you. You will be ordered to pay child support if he modifies custody. If your son is living with him, its fair for him to do this.

My advice is to decide what you want. If you think it is best for your son to live with his dad, he should have custody and you should pay support. If not, you need to bring your son home. You aren't obligated to pay for a $600/mo school, if he was given sole custody that would be his decision and he would have to pay for it himself and using any money he receives from you as support payments.