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Zamanda
04-02-2006, 11:46 AM
Hi, my name is Amanda and I'm 14 years old. I live in Floridawith my mom. My question is about my wanting to live with my dad. About 2 years ago my parents were divorced, my mom had an affair and made up claims of verbal abuse to cover herself I guess. Neither me, my brother, or any other family members (besides my mom's of course who basically go along with anything that she or my new step dad say) every saw ANY trace whatsover of abuse. My dad bought her everything and anything she wanted even taking a second job at one point just so she could have a imported china set. When I was first told of their divorce she told me that I could decide to live wherever I wanted to live, untill I chose my dad's house. They went to court, I was suposed to be able to testify but at last minute she told the judge that I Wasn't mature enough to testify and the judged listened to her. The custody was set as 50/50 unless one of them left the county. My dad couldn't handle living so near to my mom (we were only 5 minutes apart ) and was really depressed with al the memories of her in the house. He moved to brooksville and my mom said I Could go with him. Until she got pregnant, I've heard her tell my dad she needed me around beeause she needed help with the baby. I can't stand my step father or step brother and I'm miserable here, we are absolutely sure she'd NEVER give up custody she's also extremely good and looking pitiful. I've tried to talk to her about how unhappy I am here and as soon as I mention something she abruptly interrupts with "Why dont you love me?!" complete with tears and everything. If I address it further she goes on to say how awful it is to be "the unloved parent" and tell me my dad is brainwashing me. The most recent time it was bad enough that she started to describe how my dad abused her, which at that point I left the house and called my older brother. She came outside and said she wouldn't talk about it any more but that I needed to understand how hurt she was emotionally. A few times I've gotten upset and told her I wanted to go to court to which she responds that the court will never listen to me because I'm just a child. Apparently I'm mature enough to babysit for her but not mature enough to realize I'm not getting a good education here. She's making me be homeschooled even though I want to go to private school. My dad offered to pay for it but she refuses saying that she wants to know what influences I am getting. We all know how racy a christian private school can be I Guess. I basically school myself. If Ineed help with something she'll help but usually on her time, the rest of the time I'm in my room doing it on my own. If anyone addresses it she denys it and claims I'm lying. She heard me talking about emmancipation to my cousin and sais that I can't do it unless I have parental consent (If I did get emmancipated it would only be to get out of here and then I'd go live wiht my dad). Is this true? I'm miserable here and really want to go live with my dad but it's extremely hard for me to know that I'm hurting her, even if she does seem to have very timely emotions. I was told that most judges will favor a mother is this true?? My dad sais he'll go back to court but its my decisions. Should I just forget my highschool years and deal with it untill I'm 18?
Sorry about the book, I hope you guys have some advice.

elklaw
04-24-2006, 12:32 PM
Post was already answered.
I suggest that you get your fahter to pursue custody. You are not really in position to pursue emancipation, which is likely why your mother will not let you out of the house to go to school, so you cannot discuss it with anyone.

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