Hey, as you all know, my bmom recently called me and we'll be getting together
after the holidays (probably in January, weather permitting). Now, she asked if
I had her home phone number (I do) and told me I could call her anytime. I
called her last Sunday evening and we spoke for almost an hour - was cool beyond
words (let's just say I know where I got my sense of humor).

Anyhoo, what's the general "feeling" on how this calling issue. Is once a week,
the "norm" (if there is such a thing)? I'm still a bit freaked and while I, of
course, want to speak to her, I'm afraid of being a pain in the buttinsky.

Thoughts? Ideas? Eeeek! :)

Robyn
Resident Witchypoo & EAC Spellcaster
#1557

Robibnikoff <nospam@newsranger.com> wrote in message news:<FwBub.30284$cJ5.4764@www.newsranger.com>... Hey, as you all know, my bmom recently called me and we'll be getting together after the holidays (probably in January, weather permitting). Now, she asked if I had her home phone number (I do) and told me I could call her anytime. I called her last Sunday evening and we spoke for almost an hour - was cool beyond words (let's just say I know where I got my sense of humor). Anyhoo, what's the general "feeling" on how this calling issue. Is once a week, the "norm" (if there is such a thing)? I'm still a bit freaked and while I, of course, want to speak to her, I'm afraid of being a pain in the buttinsky. Thoughts? Ideas? Eeeek! :)



There's no 'norm', I'm sure of that :-)
It's prob'ly going to be a bit of a dance for a while, but she did
tell you to call anytime, didn't she?.
I see no reason not to take her at her word.
I'm sure she's feeling just as uncertain about how to conduct this as
you do (and I did).
I'm afraid you just going to have to suss things out as you go along.
Those are my 'feelings' on the matter.
Useful, eh?
(Not!)




Rh.



Robyn Resident Witchypoo & EAC Spellcaster #1557

In article <dafc70.0311190506.62ac6f6a@posting.google.com>, Rhiannon says...Robibnikoff <nospam@newsranger.com> wrote in message news:<FwBub.30284$cJ5.4764@www.newsranger.com>... Hey, as you all know, my bmom recently called me and we'll be getting together after the holidays (probably in January, weather permitting). Now, she asked if I had her home phone number (I do) and told me I could call her anytime. I called her last Sunday evening and we spoke for almost an hour - was cool beyond words (let's just say I know where I got my sense of humor). Anyhoo, what's the general "feeling" on how this calling issue. Is once a week, the "norm" (if there is such a thing)? I'm still a bit freaked and while I, of course, want to speak to her, I'm afraid of being a pain in the buttinsky. Thoughts? Ideas? Eeeek! :)
There's no 'norm', I'm sure of that :-)It's prob'ly going to be a bit of a dance for a while, but she didtell you to call anytime, didn't she?.I see no reason not to take her at her word.I'm sure she's feeling just as uncertain about how to conduct this asyou do (and I did).I'm afraid you just going to have to suss things out as you go along.Those are my 'feelings' on the matter.Useful, eh?(Not!)

LOL, no, that's very useful. I was pretty sure that I am going to have to "suss
things out" as I go along, but it certainly doesn't hurt to get some other
opinions on the matter - thanks :)

Robyn
Resident Witchypoo & EAC Spellcaster
#1557

Anyhoo, what's the general "feeling" on how this calling issue. Is once a
week,
the "norm" (if there is such a thing)? I'm still a bit freaked and while I, of
course, want to speak to her, I'm afraid of being a pain in the buttinsky.
===============
ME: I'm so glad you had a good conversation with her. Sounds like she's had a
huge transformation!

I'd maybe give it two weeks -- maybe giving her the opportunity to call you?

In article <FwBub.30284$cJ5.4764@www.newsranger.com>, Robibnikoff
<nospam@newsranger.com> writes:
Hey, as you all know, my bmom recently called me and we'll be gettingtogetherafter the holidays (probably in January, weather permitting). Now, she askedifI had her home phone number (I do) and told me I could call her anytime. Icalled her last Sunday evening and we spoke for almost an hour - was coolbeyondwords (let's just say I know where I got my sense of humor).Anyhoo, what's the general "feeling" on how this calling issue. Is once aweek,the "norm" (if there is such a thing)? I'm still a bit freaked and while I,ofcourse, want to speak to her, I'm afraid of being a pain in the buttinsky.Thoughts? Ideas? Eeeek! :)RobynResident Witchypoo & EAC Spellcaster#1557


Call her when you have something to say; don't when you you don't. But save
something for January.

J.

On Wed, 19 Nov 2003 03:33:57 GMT, Robibnikoff <nospam@newsranger.com>
wrote:
Hey, as you all know, my bmom recently called me and we'll be getting togetherafter the holidays (probably in January, weather permitting). Now, she asked ifI had her home phone number (I do) and told me I could call her anytime. Icalled her last Sunday evening and we spoke for almost an hour - was cool beyondwords (let's just say I know where I got my sense of humor).Anyhoo, what's the general "feeling" on how this calling issue. Is once a week,the "norm" (if there is such a thing)? I'm still a bit freaked and while I, ofcourse, want to speak to her, I'm afraid of being a pain in the buttinsky.Thoughts? Ideas? Eeeek! :)

I don't have any kind of suggestion on that one.. But I wish to say I
am very happy for you Robyn..
What a wonderful thing to happen..

I hope and pray all goes well in the future..


Jackie

In article <20031119095011.10213.00000466@mb-m01.aol.com>, DJanice says...Anyhoo, what's the general "feeling" on how this calling issue. Is once aweek,the "norm" (if there is such a thing)? I'm still a bit freaked and while I, ofcourse, want to speak to her, I'm afraid of being a pain in the buttinsky.===============ME: I'm so glad you had a good conversation with her. Sounds like she's had ahuge transformation!

LOL, to put it mildly ;)
I'd maybe give it two weeks -- maybe giving her the opportunity to call you?

Maybe, I was think one - one and half weeks. I don't want to be too intrusive,
but at the same time, I don't want to seem uninterested either.

Robyn
Resident Witchypoo & EAC Spellcaster
#1557

Maybe, I was think one - one and half weeks. I don't want to be too intrusive,
but at the same time, I don't want to seem uninterested either.

==============

So you can call next Wednesday and wish her a happy Thanksgiving. Ask what
she's doing for the holiday, tell her what you're doing, etc. THEN you can
even ask her when would be a good time for you to call again?

In article <tl3nrv8r9qj76br514msplnv6ns363392p@4ax.com>, Jackie says...On Wed, 19 Nov 2003 03:33:57 GMT, Robibnikoff <nospam@newsranger.com>wrote:Hey, as you all know, my bmom recently called me and we'll be getting togetherafter the holidays (probably in January, weather permitting). Now, she asked ifI had her home phone number (I do) and told me I could call her anytime. Icalled her last Sunday evening and we spoke for almost an hour - was cool beyondwords (let's just say I know where I got my sense of humor).Anyhoo, what's the general "feeling" on how this calling issue. Is once a week,the "norm" (if there is such a thing)? I'm still a bit freaked and while I, ofcourse, want to speak to her, I'm afraid of being a pain in the buttinsky.Thoughts? Ideas? Eeeek! :)I don't have any kind of suggestion on that one.. But I wish to say Iam very happy for you Robyn..What a wonderful thing to happen..I hope and pray all goes well in the future..

Thanks, Jackie. It is pretty darn cool. Granted there are still some secrets
on both sides (she's not telling her parents and I'm not telling mine), but it's
certainly an improvement to put it mildly ;)

Robyn
Resident Witchypoo & EAC Spellcaster
#1557

>Subject: Re: Newly "Reunited" Question :)From: djanice@aol.com (DJanice)Date: 11/19/2003
So you can call next Wednesday and wish her a happy Thanksgiving. Ask whatshe's doing for the holiday, tell her what you're doing, etc. THEN you caneven ask her when would be a good time for you to call again?

My cousin and I call each other once a week just before a show that we both
like and then after. Silly to some but it's our way of keeping in touch. When
the season is over, there is always another that catches our eye. I vote for
calling her the day before Thanksgiving too and bringing up the subject to get
an idea of when to call or expect a call again. Don't you wonder if she is
thinking the same thing? Its like dating. Kathy J

Don't you wonder if she is
thinking the same thing? Its like dating. Kathy J
==============
LOL.. It's worse than dating. In dating, if the relationship falls apart,
well, you can at least get another date.

I have a good friend that lives a distance, and for the past decade or so, we
watch the Hallmark specials together -- and call eachother during every
commercial. It's a bizarre thing, but somehow over the years, it's become a
tradition. So I can see how you and your cousin developed yours : )

"Robibnikoff" <nospam@newsranger.com> wrote in message
news:FwBub.30284$cJ5.4764@www.newsranger.com... Hey, as you all know, my bmom recently called me and we'll be getting
together after the holidays (probably in January, weather permitting). Now, she
asked if I had her home phone number (I do) and told me I could call her anytime.
I called her last Sunday evening and we spoke for almost an hour - was cool
beyond words (let's just say I know where I got my sense of humor). Anyhoo, what's the general "feeling" on how this calling issue. Is once a
week, the "norm" (if there is such a thing)? I'm still a bit freaked and while
I, of course, want to speak to her, I'm afraid of being a pain in the buttinsky. Thoughts? Ideas? Eeeek! :)


I think J said it best. Not bad for an evil a/par and non bastard. I
expect it has something to do with his advanced age/wisdom coefficient.
Whodathunk?

Either way, my opinion is to make a call when you have something to say.
Other than that, whatcha doin'?


Jack

In article <_qXub.31257$7k1.4374@newssvr31.news.prodigy.com>, "Jack Bernhard"
<jcbernhard@deletethisprodigy.net> writes:
"Robibnikoff" <nospam@newsranger.com> wrote in messagenews:FwBub.30284$cJ5.4764@www.newsranger.co m... Hey, as you all know, my bmom recently called me and we'll be gettingtogether after the holidays (probably in January, weather permitting). Now, sheasked if I had her home phone number (I do) and told me I could call her anytime.I called her last Sunday evening and we spoke for almost an hour - was coolbeyond words (let's just say I know where I got my sense of humor). Anyhoo, what's the general "feeling" on how this calling issue. Is once aweek, the "norm" (if there is such a thing)? I'm still a bit freaked and whileI, of course, want to speak to her, I'm afraid of being a pain in the buttinsky. Thoughts? Ideas? Eeeek! :)I think J said it best. Not bad for an evil a/par and non bastard. Iexpect it has something to do with his advanced age/wisdom coefficient.Whodathunk?

Thanks, Jack. I think.

J.
Either way, my opinion is to make a call when you have something to say.Other than that, whatcha doin'?Jack

In article <20031119205514.25936.00000586@mb-m05.aol.com>, Tm n Kat says...Subject: Re: Newly "Reunited" Question :)From: djanice@aol.com (DJanice)Date: 11/19/2003So you can call next Wednesday and wish her a happy Thanksgiving. Ask whatshe's doing for the holiday, tell her what you're doing, etc. THEN you caneven ask her when would be a good time for you to call again?My cousin and I call each other once a week just before a show that we bothlike and then after. Silly to some but it's our way of keeping in touch. Whenthe season is over, there is always another that catches our eye. I vote forcalling her the day before Thanksgiving too and bringing up the subject to getan idea of when to call or expect a call again. Don't you wonder if she isthinking the same thing? Its like dating. Kathy J

LOL, excellent analogy. It IS like dating :)

I figure I'll either call her Sunday or closer to Thanksgiving :)

Robyn
Resident Witchypoo & EAC Spellcaster
#1557

>Maybe, I was think one - one and half weeks. I don't want to be toointrusive,but at the same time, I don't want to seem uninterested either.

There are holidays approaching. It will give you "excuses" to call, lol. I'm
with you, don't want to see too disinterested, yet not too eager either. If you
vary your calls to 10 days or so, it won't seem like you're doing it out of
obligation (like every Sunday, etc). I think she'll appreciate the effort.
Kathy, born Renee Karyn Racine

Permanent good can never be the outcome of untruth and violence.
--Mahatma Gandhi
Peace is not merely a distant goal that we seek, but a means by which we arrive
at that goal.
--Dr. Martin Luther King Jr.

"J." <jmdjmh@aol.com> wrote in message
news:20031120022418.25815.00004593@mb-m07.aol.com... In article <_qXub.31257$7k1.4374@newssvr31.news.prodigy.com>, "Jack
Bernhard" <jcbernhard@deletethisprodigy.net> writes:
I think J said it best. Not bad for an evil a/par and non bastard. Iexpect it has something to do with his advanced age/wisdom coefficient.Whodathunk? Thanks, Jack. I think. J.

Never let it be said that I'm not the king of the backhanded compliment.
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