I have been living with the father of my 3 month old child for about 6 years now. I have two other children age 13 & 15 from a previous marriage. About 3 1/2 years ago my fiance he had a stroke, which affected his short term memory, balance etc. He is currently on SSD and trying to get grants and loans to expand his business, he leaves for work at 6 am and doesn't get home until 8-9 pm. M-F then on the weekends he goes to the races and is gone all friday night, all day saturday and now this year many sunday's he'll be gone. Prior to the stroke he worked a regular job and ran his business at the same time. Due to the stroke, I had called off my wedding to him, he said he felt pressured. Since that time he has had regular mood swings and cannot accept the fact that he has limitations. He is currently on a bunch of different medicines, and has migrane headaches atleast twice a week in which he takes imitrax and aleve and everyone has to walk on egg shells while he tries to sleep it off. I have to constantly remind him to take his pills or do the simpilists tasks. Due to some health problems last year I underwent some surgery and the medicine they gave me made by birth control ineffective and I wound up getting pregnant. My initial thought was to not keep the baby due to health reasons and the drugs I took, the drugs he takes daily and the fact the he has a very hard time handling stress. I decided to keep the baby if it was healthy, which he his. I then decided that things were not going to work between us and my initial thought was to move out when my two older boys finished school in June. That is becoming more and more difficult. He is a very selfish individual and has many mood swings and is very rarely home. He keeps telling me that I am psychotic and that I am bipolar because I ***** that he is never home and he needs to balance his work and home life. Two weeks ago he threatend he was sending me a certified letter kicking us out. I have not received it yet, and not sure I will. With him it is all mind games to get me to do whatever he wants. He likes the idea of having a child but has no clue as to the responsibilityor how to raise one. My questions are as follows:
1. Can I file for child support if I am still living with him? I am sick of the threat of him kicking us out.
2. If I move out in June and we have no visitation set up legally, can he take the kids at any time? He forced me to put his name on the birth certificate and give the baby his last name.
3. Just seeing the little time he spends with him and how he interacts (changing the baby and forgetting to put a new diaper on him, or filling up a bottle (9 oz) full when he only drinks 3-4 oz., not hearing him scream for 20 min. at night because the drugs knock him out. Or making the formula so hot it would burn the back of his throught are just a few). Will I have to give him overnight visitation. Or can the visitations be supervised?

I would have already been out but for some odd reason I do love him and thought that he would change when he saw his own son. It is obvious that he does not want to be responsible for any one other that himself and due to the fact we started building a house two years ago, I diminished all of my savings on this house and have nothing left so I can move. He continues to tell me that when I move out he'll give me the money he owes me. However, until I see what his portion of child support will be, it is hard for me to know what I can afford.

Any help on this matter would be appreciated.

Under the circumstances, I think supervised visitation is a necessity, or else have him come visit the child while you are present or another responsible adult aware of the medical issues. Just ask the court to grant him supervised vistiation only for medical reasons and explain the medical history.