:confused: There is soon going to be a legal battle between my childs father and I concerning him getting his rights. He is not on the birth certificate due to issues around the time of birth. He is wanting full rights and some form of custody. Also I have heard talk about Grandparents Rights. I have done all the driving for my child to see his father other than 5 occasions and all the driving for his to see his Grandparents other than 2 occasions when I said I just could not do it. I would like to keep them from having any form of rights due to the well being of the child. Both parties on that side do drugs but since the birth say they don't. I don't know the truth in it but I am leary. Also none of my wishes are respected when I take my child to see them. What legally can I do to protect myself and child from having share custody. I am not asking for any form of child support at this moment. PLEASE HELP!

From experience, do not let them in. Once they are let in, it is impossible to fix. Do you have any court orders now?

No there hasn't been any orders yet but I know they are coming. I was trying to take him out there to see them to avoid conflict but it was costing to much in gas for me when I am the one who is spending all the money on him why should I have to pay for them to see him also. I was told my the father last night when I told him I can't be wasting my gas anymore that his mother doesn't want to waste her gas either. So thats why she would get Grandparents rights so I'D HAVE TO DRIVE him to see her.

what state are you in and what state are the gp's in? Grandparents rights are not usuallly granted just because they don't want to pay the price of gas to drive to see the kids. Some states don't have much of anything to do with grandparnet's "rights", but some have allowances under CERTAIN circumstances. It seems to me that if they want to see the kids, but don't want to 'waste' the gas, their son (the father) and you can work out a place to meet halfway and HE can take them to see his parents.

You are so living my life 10 years ago.

I left my son's father when my son was 6 months old because of the drugs. His mother was doing the drugs too. My son is now 11.

When I went for child support for my son, that's when his father fought for visitation rights. He did sign the birth certificate though.

My advice, get a good lawyer. The lawyer that I had sucked and screwed me and my son over. I had to provide transportation half way, every other weekend. In the summer, my son had to stay with his father one week a month.

I was forced to send my son to his father's house because of a court order. Turns out, his father was on heavy drugs(my lawyer refused to ask the courts for a drug test after I repeatly requested for him to ask for one). I did not have the right to know that his father was in and out of rehab the last two years of his life and his Bleep of a grandmother knew the whole time and did not tell me. She claimed that he was clean and sober and had a reality check when I left. The state (DYFS) did not help when my son came home with a burn mark on his back. I told them about the drugs in the past and they still did not give him a drug test either. They(son's father and his new wife) stated that he came down with the mark on him. Sorry, I do not smoke and it was a cigarette burn according to the doctor. They (DYFS) threatened to press charges against me because I alleged a false report. Come to find out, his MIL works for the County Government in the Family Court Division where he resided and DYFS investigated.

My son's father died when my son was 8 from complications from the drugs. My son does not want to even see his grandmother because she lied to him about why his father died.

She is constantly harassing me and my son about visitation. I told her to get a court order if she wants to see him. She can have verbal communication with him, not overnight visitation with him anymore. When he came home the last time, now I am a bad parent, he has every ailment known to man, my son is fat, I am only sending him down there so he can get his inheritance from her mother and now she has a problem with me homeschooling my son because she wants to homeschool him 4 days a week and for me to have my son for 3 days a week. She lives 2 hours away. She even lied to me and said that she could not find his inhaler and had to rush him to the emergency room in the middle of the night, come to find out, she had it in her purse the whole time. She even stuck me with the bill. He does not have asthma, he had a respitory infection that he was being treated for at the time. The hospital gave him the same medication that the doctor had prescribed him. Of course, she used my husband's insurance, she, nor the hospital would have had it any other way.

to answer both responces questions. We live in the state of GA and so does the Granparents. I will not allow the father or grandparent to take him anywhere or keep him due to trust issues and what I view as the best thing for my child. We live under 30 minutes away from each other and the only half way points would be eating somewhere. I am in the process of talking to a lawyer. I am not filing any papers just filling the lawyer in on what is going on for when and if they file anything. Also I would ask for a drug test but they have proudly stated that they can pass any drug test and they have done it before so I don't know what kind could be given to show the extent of what they do.