Wisconsin: Please read "wrongfully accused of SH" by ME before reading this so you know what's going on. Here's my problem. I still work for the company that fired my husband for SH. No, he didn't do anything remotely sexual, some one was angry with him and this was the easiest way to get him gone. Numerous people know this and have told me this. People that know what happened to my now husband, are doing things they should know better than to do. For example, I was told to "consider this guy" by my boss in front of the guy he was referring to. My boss also told us "girls" to just smile to get help with a project. While discussing the new policy of certain employees having to wear company provided clothing because of what they work with my co-worker said I'd just have to measure all the guys. Then, when two men walked into her office I heard her say, "here's your first two customers". they asked for what and she said, "for getting measured for underwear". My husband's former supervisor has twice grabbed and repeatedly squeezed my shoulder then winked as he walked away. There was also another man who ran his finger from the middle of my back up to my neck. Yes, other's witnessed all of this. And, I found a book of naked women that belongs to the person I share an office with. I showed the book to a co-worker I trust. I can't take this anymore. My husband was falsely accused of sexual harassment and here are these people doing it now. I fear if I say anything it will be disregarded as retaliation because of what happened to my husband. However, I can't keep working in this environment. There is more than what I've written, too. I don't know what to do. It's almost as if they think they can do whatever they want since no one will believe a thing I say. Please, any advice would be most helpful.

For example, I was told to "consider this guy" by my boss in front of the guy he was referring to. Consider him for what???

My boss also told us "girls" to just smile to get help with a project. A poorly phrased statement but there was nothing illegal about it.

While discussing the new policy of certain employees having to wear company provided clothing because of what they work with my co-worker said I'd just have to measure all the guys. Then, when two men walked into her office I heard her say, "here's your first two customers". they asked for what and she said, "for getting measured for underwear". That sounds like little more than pretty typical workplace humor.

My husband's former supervisor has twice grabbed and repeatedly squeezed my shoulder then winked as he walked away. There was also another man who ran his finger from the middle of my back up to my neck. Did you report the behavior to HR or upper management?

And, I found a book of naked women that belongs to the person I share an office with. Found how? Was it left out in the open or in a place you regularly access or were you going through your co-worker's desk? And again, did you report what you found?

I fear if I say anything it will be disregarded as retaliation because of what happened to my husband. If you want your employer to investigate and resolve the problems, you must report these incidents.

Agree with Beth. If you don't report it as being a problem, it isn't going to just go away on its own. If those who are acting this way don't hear from you that it isn't acceptable, they will keep doing it as they have no idea it bothers you. Nothing you describe falls into the obviously unacceptable category. Is touching your shoulders is something that bothers you, by all means, tell that person so. Everyone has their own tolerance for those kinds of things but you need to make others aware if it is not acceptable to you.

Shoulders being rubbed - she objects - a day is cut off her work week by the boss. Problem is I'm used to confrontation and protracted warfare and she's --- a lady. Non confrontational, religious afterlife punishment garbage......

Points:

There's no breach of law unless someone is willing to do something about it.

What they are doing is illegal and immoral.

But rather than find the evidence and then present it to an attorney - have the attorney present what he would consider a case.

I know, I know some will object to this NOT being a victim first - willing to take a hit then parade it around to a jury - this mindset is so fundamentally sick that it should be striken from the public debate.

Being fondled 'enough' to qualify for a lawsuit - that makes as much sense as getting shot to prove someone else is dangerous. Fine idea until the bullet courses through the kidney or liver - you never quite recover because it's against natural law to be molested - for any reason. Instead do the reverse:

We with know this is actionable. Just finding the right mouthpiece is the time consuming issue. You'll find one - just remember....

In no time you'll get a profound sense of duty knowing that if you don't resist (as other may not have) then a terrible deal will be brokered with the devil in exchange for the POSSIBLITY of an outcome.

Be assured of the outcome first!

I prefer to strike with a preemptive lawsuit and gain allies on the way up (or down). You will find collaborating testimony. You will have records of HR paperwork. You will know what and how to play this round.

Endure for just a little while longer.

Good luck.

And you do know, endofempire, that you cannot sue for sexual harrassment without a right to sue letter from the EEOC or the state Human Rights Commission, right? There ARE violations of law, whether anyone does anything about it or not. If you're speeding and you aren't caught, does that mean you weren't speeding? No, it does not.