Any of you out there have to deal with an X who lies about everything in court, wants to get everything his way and wants his child-support reduced to nothing....

After having no contact with my son from age 3mth to 3yrs, he is now dragging me throught the court system. Over the years I have since found out that almost my whole relationship was a series of lies. This man even broke-up with me got another girl pregnant, then tried to get back to me and denied that he was with a pregnant girl at the Dr's (which a mutual friend saw)... To make a long story short, I get back with him, get pregnant, he leaves me and then tries to get back with me right before the birth... I don't let him but allow him to visit his son the first few mnths only to find out when I ask about support $ "I can only give you X amount because of my other child support payment..." By this time his other child was 2yrs old. So, I suppose him having another child was none of my business?!
Well anyway, he hardly paid this poor girl any support and now he was ordered to pay for my son and the judge didn't believe he was making only $13,000 per year, so it ended up being higher than he expected... He lied to the court saying he was a carpenter when he has been a licensed contractor, capable of earning hundreds of thousands a year for over 6 yrs now... He doesn't have a bank account and when I was still with him he would drive hours to find customer's banks so he could cash their checks...
So he just dragged me into court again because he is, unemployed - but our judge wasn't in so it is being moved to next week. And he is trying to get me on contempt because I can't make the ordered weeknight visit because I have to work - even though I offered any morning of the week and he can't make it because get this, he is working... But I have made up the hours on his Saturday afternoon visits... This man just wants things his way and will not cooperate in any way. In court I have to deal with a male judge who is pro-male and seems to want to give him whatever he wants....

Sorry for the long rants, if anyone has any advise please let me know! :confused:

anytime it comes to child support, visitation anything like that....you need to document, document document. write it all down. everything he tells you, when he tells you, when you do the visitation everything. then when you take it in front of the judge, the judge can see that you know what you are talking about. i would try to get the visitation changed, so that you can move it around a bit and have some flexibility. my ex gets twice a week, 2 hours at a time, but no specific day. tell the judge this, get a copy of your work schedule from your employer. the more together you look, the better.

I would record the phone calls and transcribe them to paper so you can get every detail and catch every lie. You are not able to use the tapes but it is an easy way to remember everything that is said in detail. Your ex sounds just like mine and I have learned the hard way that it is really hard to deal with someone that lies like that but if you can get this on paper then the judge will have something to document these lies! More than likely he is probably doing cash jobs so there is no record of his income that is what my ex did, he had no money to pay child support but he went and bought 3 four wheelers, brand new GMC truck with monster wheels, brand new Yukon for his girlfriend (now wife), some land in CA, a nice house on wheels to travel to Glamis to ride the four wheelers, money to get drunk and wasted at bars and etc. All of this because I could not prove he was making money! Try to find out what he is doing for work and where and see if these are cash jobs and bring that to court. Good luck I have been there and I still am and it is really frustrating!!!

Any of you out there have to deal with an X who lies about everything in court, wants to get everything his way and wants his child-support reduced to nothing....

After having no contact with my son from age 3mth to 3yrs, he is now dragging me throught the court system. Over the years I have since found out that almost my whole relationship was a series of lies. This man even broke-up with me got another girl pregnant, then tried to get back to me and denied that he was with a pregnant girl at the Dr's (which a mutual friend saw)... To make a long story short, I get back with him, get pregnant, he leaves me and then tries to get back with me right before the birth... I don't let him but allow him to visit his son the first few mnths only to find out when I ask about support $ "I can only give you X amount because of my other child support payment..." By this time his other child was 2yrs old. So, I suppose him having another child was none of my business?!
Well anyway, he hardly paid this poor girl any support and now he was ordered to pay for my son and the judge didn't believe he was making only $13,000 per year, so it ended up being higher than he expected... He lied to the court saying he was a carpenter when he has been a licensed contractor, capable of earning hundreds of thousands a year for over 6 yrs now... He doesn't have a bank account and when I was still with him he would drive hours to find customer's banks so he could cash their checks...
So he just dragged me into court again because he is, unemployed - but our judge wasn't in so it is being moved to next week. And he is trying to get me on contempt because I can't make the ordered weeknight visit because I have to work - even though I offered any morning of the week and he can't make it because get this, he is working... But I have made up the hours on his Saturday afternoon visits... This man just wants things his way and will not cooperate in any way. In court I have to deal with a male judge who is pro-male and seems to want to give him whatever he wants....

Sorry for the long rants, if anyone has any advise please let me know! :confused:
IF the court order states specific days and you do not have the child available for visitation on the specified day- technically you would be in contempt. You can TRY to have the visitation order modified, however, anything that is not specific leaves too much room for problems.

Is he paying the court ordered CS? If not, you should file a contempt motion. Since he is hiding income (although I doubt that he's hiding as much as you BELIEVE he is) when you file the contempt or a modification, you will need to subpoena all of his financial records. If he is self employed, you can subpone all of his business records, you can also subpoena things like mortgage and other loan papers. It is alot of work, and he'll fight every inch of the way, but it really is the only way to find hidden income.
Xena :)

My address was court-ordered impounded and he sought me out, pretty sure using the internet, went to the town hall to look at my marriage license (I got married & it fell on a day he was trying to get me into court) found out who married us and showed up at his house on 2 occasions. He was trying to get him to sign a document stating that we purposly scheduled our marriage on his court date... he also went to the place we got married - to try to get info from them. He has all this time to harrass people but isn't available during those times to see his son.
But now, at our recently purchased house, we are receiving pre-approved credit offers in his name with our address! I think online he has somehow linked himself to the ownership of our house - he had bad credit when I was with him and couldn't even be put on the loan papers of my house which just cost $39,000....
Should I go to the police and file a report? I am not sure what is going on but perhaps he is somehow going to try to ruin me financially...
This guy is a nut case and is obsessed with having things his way - this bs will never end with him. I hope the judge sees it and gives him min visitation - he is not a good role model for my son!
Tks again ladies!

Credit card offers in his name with your address??? That's just creepy. Skip going to the court, go to the police. :eek:

I agree go to the police that is just way too coincidental that his mail is going to your house? I would definitely watch your back at all times!!!