>Subject: Re: Just for the recordFrom: Jackie jdajda@newsguy.comDate: 11/2/2003
Kathy (Tmnkat).. Got upset about her grandson who was sick.. She tookour relationship to the group when she asked me to relay info to hernmom.. Everyone knew what was going on..

Yes, James was born with numerous life threatening problems...cleft palate,
heart, stroke w/bleed from abnormally high platlate count to name a few which
is why doctors were pushing for familial medical information to diagnois and
treat. Generally, when there is more than one problem, they suspect something
genetic as opposed to a fluke, at least, that is what we were told. Very
thankful the NICU Doc followed his gut and investigated completely after
finding the cleft and heart defects or he might never have found the bleeding
lesion (stroke)

I probably should not even have even mentioned it to my birthfamily because I
knew they did not consider me a "family member". I was a basket case at the
time and was not using good judgement.

Kathy J

I said at that point I would never be a go between again..And I have not ..Jackie

My adoptive mom had a saying, "the road to hell is paved with good intentions".
I think we both had good intentions but that doesn't always mean things turn
out. It could have went the other way too. Like I said before, I just wasn't
the type that could handle the being in the closet thing.

On 03 Nov 2003 03:06:39 GMT, tmnkat@aol.com (Tm n Kat) wrote:
Subject: Re: Just for the recordFrom: Jackie jdajda@newsguy.comDate: 11/2/2003Kathy (Tmnkat).. Got upset about her grandson who was sick.. She tookour relationship to the group when she asked me to relay info to hernmom.. Everyone knew what was going on..Yes, James was born with numerous life threatening problems...cleft palate,heart, stroke w/bleed from abnormally high platlate count to name a few whichis why doctors were pushing for familial medical information to diagnois andtreat.

Yes it was going so well before this happened.. But my goodness it
must have been awful for you..
Generally, when there is more than one problem, they suspect somethinggenetic as opposed to a fluke, at least, that is what we were told. Verythankful the NICU Doc followed his gut and investigated completely afterfinding the cleft and heart defects or he might never have found the bleedinglesion (stroke)I probably should not even have even mentioned it to my birthfamily because Iknew they did not consider me a "family member". I was a basket case at thetime and was not using good judgement.

And that was when I came to the insight that when a woman gives up a
baby under traumatic circumstances she may not understand family..

You sure gave me some amazing lessons.. I hope I did no harm..


Jackie

Re: Just for the record

Group: alt.adoption Date: Mon, Nov 3, 2003, 3:06am (MST+7) From:
tmnkat@aol.com (Tm*n*Kat)
Subject: Re: Just for the record
From: Jackie jdajda@newsguy.com
Date: 11/2/2003
Kathy (Tmnkat).. Got upset about her grandson who was sick.. She took
our relationship to the group when she asked me to relay info to her
nmom.. Everyone knew what was going on..


Yes, James was born with numerous life threatening problems...cleft
palate, heart, stroke w/bleed from abnormally high platlate count to
name a few which is why doctors were pushing for familial medical
information to diagnois and treat. Generally, when there is more than
one problem, they suspect something genetic as opposed to a fluke, at
least, that is what we were told. Very thankful the NICU Doc followed
his gut and investigated completely after finding the cleft and heart
defects or he might never have found the bleeding lesion (stroke)
I probably should not even have even mentioned it to my birthfamily
because I knew they did not consider me a "family member". I was a
basket case at the time and was not using good judgement.
Kathy J

I said at that point I would never be a go between again..
And I have not ..
Jackie


My adoptive mom had a saying, "the road to hell is paved with good
intentions". I think we both had good intentions but that doesn't always
mean things turn
out. It could have went the other way too. Like I said before, I just
wasn't the type that could handle the being in the closet thing.
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Jackie, Kathy asked you to relay the medical information AFTER you
announced to her and the group that you had showed posts from Kathy on
her bm. It was AFTER you posted that her bm said her posts were not
true. NOT before. She also did it in an "as long as your talking to her
I may as well ask for help way".
And then you had the AUDACITY to say I will
not be a go between. You would NOT help, but before this you had NO
problem showing Kathy's bm posts when it was no help at all. ONLY HARM.
Christ you really are something.
BTW your posts can be erased, but the responses which show what you
wrote can not.
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