shellyrenee
02-27-2006, 11:36 AM
Hi everyone I live in Ohio. I'm now a stay at home mom husband is active duty and I have a five year old daughter and a grandpa I take care of. My ex and I broke up right after our daughter was born. He wasn't very nice to me and put his hands on me a few times and cheated on me when I was pregnant. It took me while to get the guts but I finally left with just a bag full of stuff and took my daughter and went out on are own.
I didn't talk to her dad for a few months after the fact. Went to use his insurance card one dad at her doctor appointment for shots and they said he notified them I was not to use his insurance card for our daughter. So I got in touch with him and he told me he would give me her insurance card only if I took her to the doctor he said and never take her to children's hospital. Because he had a large co payment at ERs.
My daughter was born with a health problem and has seizures. I would take her to the ER often and paid out of my pocket every time his co payment. Then he call me up and yell at me for taken her there.
He was a police officer and he always held that over my head saying he knows the law and he could take our daughter away from me if he wanted, I was a slut and a no good mother.
Through the years I tried to ignore him and one evening when I was at work I got a phone call from children's hospital saying my child was there and I needed to come ASAP. So I got there and she was at her fathers for the weekend. They had to call medics because my daughter temp was 104 and she was not responding. When I got there they told me it was a close one and they got her revived at the hospital.
I was freaked out and ask him are you that low to let her get that high of a temp because you don't want to pay a co payment.
Not long after that I filed for CS. Because he would give me 70 dollars every few months. And if he didn't and I ask him for some money he ask me what am I going to do for it.
I finally started getting child support which was nice him working for the county it came right out of his check and to me every two weeks. I was working two jobs and going to college still I was like 22 at this time. I come from a very poor family my parents where killed when I was a child and I was raised by my grandparents and always had to work to help support the family that's just how things where.
My grandmother became ill with cancer and my grandpa was working so I was not able to work both jobs and go to school and take care of her to. So I dropped out of school. Kept my jobs and looked after my grandmother.
Before my grandma got real bad my child's dad only had her like every other weekend. His parents and him said they would watch her three days a week for me. So She turned three and they went and put her in a Preschool behind my back and knew I was not going to agree with because of my religion. But his mom knows the women that runs the school and they get it real cheap. Is what they told me.
I tried to take her out and his family and him would harassed me and make threats and drive me crazy.
My ex got worse after this point and started messing around with a girl who drinks a lot and does drugs and hanging out with his cousins who do the same. He got fired from being a police officer for stealing and is on trial for it and might go to prison.
I have had nothing but big problems with her dad for the last year. I was out of town for two days his mother was supposed to be watching her instead he was. The school told me he had people pick her up those two days they didn't know. I got mad at the school for letting her go with them in the first place. When these people are not on my list.
I ask him about it he laughed and said no big deal. He goes out to dinner a lot on the weekends and if he has my daughter he still drinks and drives with her. I have went off over this a million times and he says it's only a couple beers. For me that's one to many.
He doesn't pay his child support he works part time and has tried to get his child support lowered. He has taken me to court for joint custody so he didn't have to pay child support. But they sided in my favor. So he didn't get joint. So he goes off on me all the time about CS about how much he has to pay. He is taking me back to court again next month to try and get it lowered we went to court early Feb and they would not lower his CS they said he was at fault for losing his job. And it's his problem he chooses to stay under employed.
He is working around 30 hours a week at 10 hour. And they kept his CS the same because they told him he could go get a better paying job or work two So this will be 13 times he has taken me to court to get his cs lowerd since I filed..
But he won't he thinks he is to good for two jobs is what he told me. That he isn't a low life like I am and he doesn't need to work two jobs like I always have.
When I met my husband and we where dating he never met my daughter yet we dated for a long time before hand because I didn't want my daughter to get know him in case it didn't work out. But my ex new his gf a week and allowed her around my child.
It was always my daughter and I before I got married. I got married in July and my life has turned to hell even more since. My ex is being so cruel and him and his family call us all the time and go off for no reason.
They went off on my husband last month for being in the military they said the military is a joke and my husband is a joke for being active duty. So after they said that to my husband he is done with them. He won't talk to them at all.
It sucks I can't trust my ex with our daughter when she gets sick because I don't want it to happen again like last time. I can't trust him with school because he let's his drug friends pick her up that time.
I have told him so many times about his gf is not to touch my daughter at all. And I would really like it if she would stay away from my child and he can see his gf on his time not my daughters time with him.
When they are together on the weekend they make my daughter stay in the bedroom with his gf child so they can be alone. My daughter loves the TV and messes up her channels all the time. No big deal I just go fix it.
But it's a big deal to his gf when my daughter was over there a few weeks ago my ex's gf got mad at my daughter took the remote turned off the TV and hit her. And told her to go to time out.
Then last night I got a call from my child friend's mother. She told me that my daughter told her daughter that her dad left her with his cousins. So he could go out with his gf instead of calling me. And his cousin went somewhere and had her kids my ex's gf kid and my kid. Because she didn't have room in her back seat she put my child in the front seat with out a booster or seat built.
I went off on him for one she can't be in a front seat Ohio laws she is to short and doesn't weigh enough. She is to be in the back seat in a booster.
So my ex tells me yeah it could have happened so what. I said so what if they got a wreck and the air bag went off that could be the end of my child.
So I am about to say screw this and not let her go over there anymore. First the school incident then the gf hitting her. The front seat with his cousin when he knows I told him my daughter is never allowed over there because of the drugs.
My ex lies to us about his gf and about himself all the time she has had four jobs since this fall. She supposedly has a bachelors degree from a community college around where we live. But yet that college only offers associates and then you have to transfer to a four year.
He won't tell us anything about her last name nothing he says it's none of our business. So all we know is they lied to us about the gf school and she has had a lot of jobs this fall. And her first name that's it.
My husband doesn't want her to go over there anymore he doesn't believe in spanking or hitting a child. Since my ex and his gf do it to her my husband and I don't like it.
I'm tired that on the weekend when my ex is supposed to have my daughter he takes her to his parents every time. I'm so sick of hearing about CS I could scream.
He told me my husband was not aloud to put insurance on his daughter. We did it anyway her dad doesn't have any anymore.
They treat me like crap and always have and I'm sick of it. I'm tired of them calling here and starting fights with us.
I'm tired of my ex letting who ever watch my child so he can go out with his gf and her kid. It doesn't make any since when her kid is with them why can't my child go. None of it makes since to me. Her sneaks my daughter around his gf anyway. When I told him no.
I'm tired of him saying he is taking me to court and I am never going to see my daughter again. I'm tired of him and his gf driving us crazy because he thinks he should not have to pay child support.
The way I see it is if he can afford to take his gf out every weekend he can pay for his child. And he gives his gf money my daughter told me and her dad admitted to it.
My daughter was crushed on Christmas she got a few things from the dollar store. He bought his gf and her kid ps2 and games.
My daughter was upset because that's what she wanted. I'm tired of having to lie for him all the time. He makes promises to her then breaks them.
He says she can come over then doesn't call back. Or makes plans then something came up with his gf he can't do anything with her.
I'm tired of the fact she's come home with head lice 3 times in 4 months. I don't know what to think about his gf locking her kid in her room all the time. My daughter told me this and I ask him and he said yeah so.
Everyone keeps telling me he is unfit and I should not let her go over there. But I don't know what to do. Can I legally keep him from seeing her?
And since I have custody would it make me look bad if I took her our of her preschool and that dance class every week that her dad has her in that he uses against me.
Because I'm tired of him and his family trying to tell me what to do with my own child and harassing us all the time. We just want to be left alone and enough drama all ready.
I told my ex last night if you don't want to pay your child support then we can go to court and you can sign over any right you have. He said no of course.
I don't care about the CS I'm used to not getting it now and that's life. I'm just in fear that what if something happens to my daughter when she is over there.
A few weeks ago I was going to call the police at my ex's house because It was the weekend and I was dropping her off for her visit with him and he went off on me. I told him your not going to talk to me like a dog. So I got ahold of my daughter and was ready to walk out he pushed my daughter out of my arms grabbed me and push me then grab my arm and threw me up against the door.
So I took my child and left. And I told my husband after my daughter did and my husband wanted to hurt him. I didn't call the police because I didn't know what to do I didn't want them to come why my daughter was there. So we just jumped in my car and left.
I just want it to stop and can I keep her away from him because I really believe he is unfit?
This is my only child and the love of my life and if anything was to ever happen to her I could not take it. I have broke down in tears so many times because I want him to leave me alone and stop with everything he is doing.
He has no right to put his hands on me what if he put his hands on my daughter like he does me. The sad thing is he swears up and down he never touches me. But whatever my daughter has seen it with her own eyes.
What can I do about this I have no problem with his parents other then them bothering us with threats every time their son tells them something.
So here is what I want to do. Take my daughter out of that preschool they have her in and this dance class she goes to on Tuesday night. That they keep throwing in my face. And put her in what I want to.
I want him and his family to stay away from us and not call and bother us. Can I keep him from seeing my daughter.
Since I found out about her riding in the front seat of his cousins car. I don't want to have to make her go back over to her dads. Because the bottom line is I can't trust anything them people tell me or do.
Thank you so much for reading
Shelly
I didn't talk to her dad for a few months after the fact. Went to use his insurance card one dad at her doctor appointment for shots and they said he notified them I was not to use his insurance card for our daughter. So I got in touch with him and he told me he would give me her insurance card only if I took her to the doctor he said and never take her to children's hospital. Because he had a large co payment at ERs.
My daughter was born with a health problem and has seizures. I would take her to the ER often and paid out of my pocket every time his co payment. Then he call me up and yell at me for taken her there.
He was a police officer and he always held that over my head saying he knows the law and he could take our daughter away from me if he wanted, I was a slut and a no good mother.
Through the years I tried to ignore him and one evening when I was at work I got a phone call from children's hospital saying my child was there and I needed to come ASAP. So I got there and she was at her fathers for the weekend. They had to call medics because my daughter temp was 104 and she was not responding. When I got there they told me it was a close one and they got her revived at the hospital.
I was freaked out and ask him are you that low to let her get that high of a temp because you don't want to pay a co payment.
Not long after that I filed for CS. Because he would give me 70 dollars every few months. And if he didn't and I ask him for some money he ask me what am I going to do for it.
I finally started getting child support which was nice him working for the county it came right out of his check and to me every two weeks. I was working two jobs and going to college still I was like 22 at this time. I come from a very poor family my parents where killed when I was a child and I was raised by my grandparents and always had to work to help support the family that's just how things where.
My grandmother became ill with cancer and my grandpa was working so I was not able to work both jobs and go to school and take care of her to. So I dropped out of school. Kept my jobs and looked after my grandmother.
Before my grandma got real bad my child's dad only had her like every other weekend. His parents and him said they would watch her three days a week for me. So She turned three and they went and put her in a Preschool behind my back and knew I was not going to agree with because of my religion. But his mom knows the women that runs the school and they get it real cheap. Is what they told me.
I tried to take her out and his family and him would harassed me and make threats and drive me crazy.
My ex got worse after this point and started messing around with a girl who drinks a lot and does drugs and hanging out with his cousins who do the same. He got fired from being a police officer for stealing and is on trial for it and might go to prison.
I have had nothing but big problems with her dad for the last year. I was out of town for two days his mother was supposed to be watching her instead he was. The school told me he had people pick her up those two days they didn't know. I got mad at the school for letting her go with them in the first place. When these people are not on my list.
I ask him about it he laughed and said no big deal. He goes out to dinner a lot on the weekends and if he has my daughter he still drinks and drives with her. I have went off over this a million times and he says it's only a couple beers. For me that's one to many.
He doesn't pay his child support he works part time and has tried to get his child support lowered. He has taken me to court for joint custody so he didn't have to pay child support. But they sided in my favor. So he didn't get joint. So he goes off on me all the time about CS about how much he has to pay. He is taking me back to court again next month to try and get it lowered we went to court early Feb and they would not lower his CS they said he was at fault for losing his job. And it's his problem he chooses to stay under employed.
He is working around 30 hours a week at 10 hour. And they kept his CS the same because they told him he could go get a better paying job or work two So this will be 13 times he has taken me to court to get his cs lowerd since I filed..
But he won't he thinks he is to good for two jobs is what he told me. That he isn't a low life like I am and he doesn't need to work two jobs like I always have.
When I met my husband and we where dating he never met my daughter yet we dated for a long time before hand because I didn't want my daughter to get know him in case it didn't work out. But my ex new his gf a week and allowed her around my child.
It was always my daughter and I before I got married. I got married in July and my life has turned to hell even more since. My ex is being so cruel and him and his family call us all the time and go off for no reason.
They went off on my husband last month for being in the military they said the military is a joke and my husband is a joke for being active duty. So after they said that to my husband he is done with them. He won't talk to them at all.
It sucks I can't trust my ex with our daughter when she gets sick because I don't want it to happen again like last time. I can't trust him with school because he let's his drug friends pick her up that time.
I have told him so many times about his gf is not to touch my daughter at all. And I would really like it if she would stay away from my child and he can see his gf on his time not my daughters time with him.
When they are together on the weekend they make my daughter stay in the bedroom with his gf child so they can be alone. My daughter loves the TV and messes up her channels all the time. No big deal I just go fix it.
But it's a big deal to his gf when my daughter was over there a few weeks ago my ex's gf got mad at my daughter took the remote turned off the TV and hit her. And told her to go to time out.
Then last night I got a call from my child friend's mother. She told me that my daughter told her daughter that her dad left her with his cousins. So he could go out with his gf instead of calling me. And his cousin went somewhere and had her kids my ex's gf kid and my kid. Because she didn't have room in her back seat she put my child in the front seat with out a booster or seat built.
I went off on him for one she can't be in a front seat Ohio laws she is to short and doesn't weigh enough. She is to be in the back seat in a booster.
So my ex tells me yeah it could have happened so what. I said so what if they got a wreck and the air bag went off that could be the end of my child.
So I am about to say screw this and not let her go over there anymore. First the school incident then the gf hitting her. The front seat with his cousin when he knows I told him my daughter is never allowed over there because of the drugs.
My ex lies to us about his gf and about himself all the time she has had four jobs since this fall. She supposedly has a bachelors degree from a community college around where we live. But yet that college only offers associates and then you have to transfer to a four year.
He won't tell us anything about her last name nothing he says it's none of our business. So all we know is they lied to us about the gf school and she has had a lot of jobs this fall. And her first name that's it.
My husband doesn't want her to go over there anymore he doesn't believe in spanking or hitting a child. Since my ex and his gf do it to her my husband and I don't like it.
I'm tired that on the weekend when my ex is supposed to have my daughter he takes her to his parents every time. I'm so sick of hearing about CS I could scream.
He told me my husband was not aloud to put insurance on his daughter. We did it anyway her dad doesn't have any anymore.
They treat me like crap and always have and I'm sick of it. I'm tired of them calling here and starting fights with us.
I'm tired of my ex letting who ever watch my child so he can go out with his gf and her kid. It doesn't make any since when her kid is with them why can't my child go. None of it makes since to me. Her sneaks my daughter around his gf anyway. When I told him no.
I'm tired of him saying he is taking me to court and I am never going to see my daughter again. I'm tired of him and his gf driving us crazy because he thinks he should not have to pay child support.
The way I see it is if he can afford to take his gf out every weekend he can pay for his child. And he gives his gf money my daughter told me and her dad admitted to it.
My daughter was crushed on Christmas she got a few things from the dollar store. He bought his gf and her kid ps2 and games.
My daughter was upset because that's what she wanted. I'm tired of having to lie for him all the time. He makes promises to her then breaks them.
He says she can come over then doesn't call back. Or makes plans then something came up with his gf he can't do anything with her.
I'm tired of the fact she's come home with head lice 3 times in 4 months. I don't know what to think about his gf locking her kid in her room all the time. My daughter told me this and I ask him and he said yeah so.
Everyone keeps telling me he is unfit and I should not let her go over there. But I don't know what to do. Can I legally keep him from seeing her?
And since I have custody would it make me look bad if I took her our of her preschool and that dance class every week that her dad has her in that he uses against me.
Because I'm tired of him and his family trying to tell me what to do with my own child and harassing us all the time. We just want to be left alone and enough drama all ready.
I told my ex last night if you don't want to pay your child support then we can go to court and you can sign over any right you have. He said no of course.
I don't care about the CS I'm used to not getting it now and that's life. I'm just in fear that what if something happens to my daughter when she is over there.
A few weeks ago I was going to call the police at my ex's house because It was the weekend and I was dropping her off for her visit with him and he went off on me. I told him your not going to talk to me like a dog. So I got ahold of my daughter and was ready to walk out he pushed my daughter out of my arms grabbed me and push me then grab my arm and threw me up against the door.
So I took my child and left. And I told my husband after my daughter did and my husband wanted to hurt him. I didn't call the police because I didn't know what to do I didn't want them to come why my daughter was there. So we just jumped in my car and left.
I just want it to stop and can I keep her away from him because I really believe he is unfit?
This is my only child and the love of my life and if anything was to ever happen to her I could not take it. I have broke down in tears so many times because I want him to leave me alone and stop with everything he is doing.
He has no right to put his hands on me what if he put his hands on my daughter like he does me. The sad thing is he swears up and down he never touches me. But whatever my daughter has seen it with her own eyes.
What can I do about this I have no problem with his parents other then them bothering us with threats every time their son tells them something.
So here is what I want to do. Take my daughter out of that preschool they have her in and this dance class she goes to on Tuesday night. That they keep throwing in my face. And put her in what I want to.
I want him and his family to stay away from us and not call and bother us. Can I keep him from seeing my daughter.
Since I found out about her riding in the front seat of his cousins car. I don't want to have to make her go back over to her dads. Because the bottom line is I can't trust anything them people tell me or do.
Thank you so much for reading
Shelly
