I have a few question. I have 2 children from a previous marriage. My ex is paying $455 a month for them. They are in private school that cost more then what he is paying a month. I am remarried and my husband makes very good money. I read from another message on the wedsite that his income is not included. I have recently reduced my hours at work because I am in nursing school. My health insurance will terminate. My husband has insurance for them. Does his income come into play because of that reason? Also, I am not making very much money at all. I am barely making enough to pay their tuition so the bulk of the money come from my husband income. Does that change anything?

Please don't take this as a rude reply, but...

Why did you start nursing school right now? I would love to go back to get a post-graduate degree, but I have to continue working to support my kids. Your first responsibility is to take care of them for now - you'd have to really bust your tail working extra AND going to school to keep things the way they were.

If your new husband agrees to help pitch in for the kids' tuition, great. But you shouldn't expect your X to have to foot the extra bill because you choose to reduce your hours and go back to school. How about working for a while, saving up some money, and then going to nursing school when you can better afford it?

Unfortunately, with the system we have now, your X will probably be forced to pay more, should you file for a modification of CS. I wonder how you'd feel if he "reduced his hours" to go back to school?

I am sorry I think you miss understood me. My children are well taken care of and it is not that we need his money. Like I said before my husband makes very good money. I don't need to work I work because I want to. This child support order was when my children were 3 & 4. They are now 10&11. At this age they want a lot and also need more. We also pay for tutoring for my son. My daughter is in sports and cheerleading which cost money. Their shoes and clothes cost more money. We also pay for after school care. I have asked him to pick the kids up after school which would help. He doesn't want to do anything more than what the court order says. He is not obligated to do so. They are his children just as much as they are mine. And to me it is not fair that myself and my husband does everything and he does nothing. He has also changed jobs and is making a lot more money then years ago. I would not have a problem if he did a little more. If he bought some clothes or a pair of shoes. Even if he took the day off and took the kids to the Doctor or took them to practice. He has no problem with buying rims for his car, but he has a problem with buying his children a pair of shoes. I am not doing this because I need money. I don't my husband takes care of US. I think that he should do more for his children. I know a lot of fathers that are not in the home that spend extra time with their children. They are very involved with their children. They don't have a problem with buying their child a pair of shoes even though the pay child support. He is making a lot more money. All I ask is that he do a little more and if he did I won't try to get more support.

There is a big difference between asking him to spend more time with his children and wanting more money. You said you know fathers who are not in the home and do more for their children, that is a whole different situation. A court can make him financially responsible but they cannot make him see his kids more than he wants to. You asking for more money now that YOU CHOOSE to cut back your hours and go to nursing school is not his problem. OK so your ex makes good money, I'm sure he works hard for his money, you could work just as hard and not need to ask him for more money. Everyone makes their own choices in life, plus if your new husband makes so much money whats the problem??