:confused: NJ - PLEASE TELL ME WHAT MY RIGHTS ARE AND WHAT THE LAWS ARE IN NJ. My daughter is turning 18 and heading to college in the fall. She has lived always lived with her mom since we divorced 15 years ago. Her Mom now wants $$$. I have never missed a support payment in 15 years, but my GOD how much more money can I give?! I think her Mom is just freaking out because she is worried my check is not going to come every month. I know that support does not end in NJ just because a child turns 18. Of course I will always care for my daughter as I always have, but this is ridiculous. We did not have anything set up for college in our divorce and support decree 15 years ago. Is her mother and myself both responsible for her college? Her mother seems to think I should "foot the whole bill." I am not rich! Her Mom works just like I do and I feel we should both contribute. I don't want my daughter pulled into the middle. Any information would be greatly appreciated! :(

:confused: NJ - PLEASE TELL ME WHAT MY RIGHTS ARE AND WHAT THE LAWS ARE IN NJ. My daughter is turning 18 and heading to college in the fall. She has lived always lived with her mom since we divorced 15 years ago. Her Mom now wants $$$. I have never missed a support payment in 15 years, but my GOD how much more money can I give?! I think her Mom is just freaking out because she is worried my check is not going to come every month. I know that support does not end in NJ just because a child turns 18. Of course I will always care for my daughter as I always have, but this is ridiculous. We did not have anything set up for college in our divorce and support decree 15 years ago. Is her mother and myself both responsible for her college? Her mother seems to think I should "foot the whole bill." I am not rich! Her Mom works just like I do and I feel we should both contribute. I don't want my daughter pulled into the middle. Any information would be greatly appreciated! :(

I'm not sure about the laws regarding college tuition (if there are any). However, what ever happened to the student paying for thier own college? My parents didn't pay for mine and they never divorced! Lots of kids these days have to work their way through. I'm sure parental support is appreciated, but have your daughter apply for grants, scholarships, etc, just like the majority of students. :p

Most states do not have provisions for the non-custodial parent to pay college tuition; however, in NJ they can modify the original court order to have you pay for college expenses, or they can continue child support until your daughter turns 21.

It is a shame that while parents of an intact family are not legally obliged to pay for their child's college education, some state courts may force the non-custodial parent to do so. And since we already know that the majority of ncp's are fathers, it glaringly shows the bias the family court system has against fathers.

:confused: NJ - PLEASE TELL ME WHAT MY RIGHTS ARE AND WHAT THE LAWS ARE IN NJ. My daughter is turning 18 and heading to college in the fall. She has lived always lived with her mom since we divorced 15 years ago. Her Mom now wants $$$. I have never missed a support payment in 15 years, but my GOD how much more money can I give?! I think her Mom is just freaking out because she is worried my check is not going to come every month. I know that support does not end in NJ just because a child turns 18. Of course I will always care for my daughter as I always have, but this is ridiculous. We did not have anything set up for college in our divorce and support decree 15 years ago. Is her mother and myself both responsible for her college? Her mother seems to think I should "foot the whole bill." I am not rich! Her Mom works just like I do and I feel we should both contribute. I don't want my daughter pulled into the middle. Any information would be greatly appreciated! :(
Is your daughter going to be going away to a college, or is she attending one close by and continue to live with Mom?

If she is going to be still living with Mom, you can just continue to pay the court ordered amount of CS, and pay whatever you believe to be your portion of the tuition, etc. directly to your daughter. Then it will be up to your ex to pay her portion. If your ex doesn't want to pay, you may have to file for a modification of CS.

If your daughter will be living away from Mom, the best thing you can do is file for a modification of CS.