My fiance is 18 and living in Illinois right now. he recently moved back there from colorado because he found out that his ex was 8 months pregnate with a child that MIGHT OR MIGHT NOT be his. So just to be safe he moved back. Well she gave birth about 2 weeks ago and hasnt called him since. her mother refuses to let him tal to her or even swing by to see the baby. In the state of Illinois what rights does he have/ And does he have to get a paternaty test to activate those rights? We also have a baby boy on the way so i was also wondering, since we're not married whose last name do i put on the birth certificate because our dctor wasnt very sure. thanx in advance!!!!! Please email me on this issue at nobodysbabygurl@yahoo.com

I just read your post and am unsure of the laws in your state. You can probably call the courthouse to get some information. You can decide what last name to give the baby, if you chose to give your son his father's last name he has to sign a paper stating paternity that he is the father. you can get that from the hospital when they give you the papers to fill out for your son's birth certificate. Good Luck

Your fiance's ex - Make sure he request a paternity test to prove 100% the baby is his. Or he can volantary sign an acknoledge(Spelled Wrong) of paternity stating he is 100% the father. As far as your son goes it is up to you who's last name is put on the birth certificate. As of right now your fiance has no rights to that baby from his ex untill paternity is established.

My fiance is 18 and living in Illinois right now. he recently moved back there from colorado because he found out that his ex was 8 months pregnate with a child that MIGHT OR MIGHT NOT be his. So just to be safe he moved back. Well she gave birth about 2 weeks ago and hasnt called him since. her mother refuses to let him tal to her or even swing by to see the baby. In the state of Illinois what rights does he have/ And does he have to get a paternaty test to activate those rights? We also have a baby boy on the way so i was also wondering, since we're not married whose last name do i put on the birth certificate because our dctor wasnt very sure. thanx in advance!!!!! Please email me on this issue at nobodysbabygurl@yahoo.com
Your question was answered on your other thread http://www.laborlawtalk.com/showthread.php?t=84525

Yes a DNA will need to be done to establish paternity, then he will be able to file for visitation rights.

You can put any name you want on the BC. Is your fiance planning on signing an Affidavit acknowledging paternity?
Xena :)

There is no way I would have went along with him moving to where he thought a baby might be his whether it was his ex-wife, ex-fiance, ex-anything. He could have just went to the family law center in his state (wherever you all were living) and filed some papers to establish paternity. All he needed was her name and address and the courts would have located her and subpoenaed her to court to answer the petition and would have ordered a DNA test just because he believed that it was his child unless she had already had someone legitimated as the father. With your child with him, all he has to do is sign the birth certificate at the hospital and then go to the family law center and file a petition to legimate as the father. For him to even ask taht you relocate to see whether he was the father or not of a child was just stupidious.

You and your son deserve better reason than that. This situation is ridiculously simple and should not have involved a move. Good luck with your son and your inconsiderate man! Men never consider the woman's feelings. His responsibility was to you at the time, since you are the one carrying his baby because the other one was already made. And then, the mother doesn't even want to contact him? Something isn't right about that. She may be very "DONE" with him or that baby really isn't his. And if he is chasing her and using paternity to see if he stands a chance to get back with her, he is munipulating both of you.

Thanks for all the great advice. It's kind of a sticky situation and Im not sure on why I even bothered to get involved in the first place. I mean, like robinson25 said, maybe he is manipulating the both of us and he really isnt taking any of my feelings in to consideration so from yalls' personal stand-point what should I do from here? I would really hate to have to do the same thing that she did but if he doesnt pan things out and straighten up then what is there left for me to do? :mad:

Most men don't have it together and can't get their act together on their own. Sometimes it takes a very strong woman to mold a man. When you are "good" woman the worst thing that you can do to a man is "LEAVE HIM". Some women think that it's cheating on him or hurting him or cutting or burning up his clothes. I'm here to tell you that all you have to do is leave a man for a little while and their whole life falls apart.They all tend to think that everything is okay and that it will all work out-even with them making stupid choices. But truthfully they all have a ding dong for a brain and you have to put substance in that ding dong. For starters he is very young. His situation isn't all that uncommon but you are going to have to step up and let him know how you feel about things and that things need to change within your relationship. I will never tell a woman to leave her man because I have been in enough relationships to know that "LOVE" will keep you there for a long time no matter what is going on. But, for the sake of "YOUR" future don't allow yourself to waste any precious time "IF" he is playing some kind of game. I was in your shoes and sometimes you have to just tell your man what you want and need from him and if he can't deliver then you make the decision to do whats best for you and your baby. Cheer up, I just want you to know that you are not the first or the last woman to go thru something like this.