I really need help. I have a finalized divorce and abide by the rules and am still being harrased and threatened by my ex, and my lawyer wont help, he keeps telling me there is nothing I can do. The harrasment is about my daughters visitation with her father. I give him the days that the papers say. He doesn't abide by the rules and my daughter comes home hurt and knowing things that a three year old sould not know. My lawyer tells me basically that I can't do anything unless my daughter is hurt really bad or molested.
My daughter goes to my ex's mothers house for visitation, because thats where he lives, I think. They don't watch her I have called and they tell me shes in the bathtub by herself. She get scrapes on her face and back and hands and they tell me she fell off of the porch. She came home one time, and had a burn mark on her face from my ex's cigarette, and when he told me about it he told me one story,then when I asked him about it he told me a different story. This was all before the papers were signed, so I told him that he would have to see her in a public place for a while. I took her to McDonalds and let him have her for like two hours. I sat at a table and he had her in the indoor play area. He brought her out and took her to the bathroom, I thought that he should have gotten me, but I figured he made sure the bathroom was empty before he took her in. After the visit she sits in her car seat and rolled up a blanket in to a round shape and holds it between her legs and says thats how dadddy goes potty. When I told my lawyer he said she could have seen him by accident, but he should have brought her to me while he used the restroom. The way that she shaped the blanket, and held it, and did the actions he had to have shown her.
Now I let him have the days that he signed on the papers, because theres nothing else I can do according to my lawyer, and he always askes for more,and when I tell him no he threatens to turn me in, and take her away. I have a wedding to go to, on his visitaion day and he agreed he would see her next Saturday instead, but now he says she has to be there on HIS Saturday or he will get me in trouble. My lawyer says he can't agree to a day swap, then when I do the swap get me in trouble. I just don't know what rights I have and what I can do. I divorced him and got out of harms way, and now I have a lawyer telling me I cannot protect my daughter. Others tell me thats not how it works, that my lawyer doesn't know what hes talking about, and everytime I ask my lawyer anything he tells me one thing then someting completly different the next time I see him. I just need to know if there is anyting I can do to protect my daughter, and what rights I have. I want her to see her father, but in a more supervised and safe environment.

What state are you in? Try calling Child Protective Services. Make sure to take pictures of any marks on her. Check her from head to toe before and after visits. Document everything. You can always repetition the courts. CPS should be able to help. At least call the hotline for advice.

I really need help. I have a finalized divorce and abide by the rules and am still being harrased and threatened by my ex, and my lawyer wont help, he keeps telling me there is nothing I can do. The harrasment is about my daughters visitation with her father. I give him the days that the papers say. He doesn't abide by the rules and my daughter comes home hurt and knowing things that a three year old sould not know. My lawyer tells me basically that I can't do anything unless my daughter is hurt really bad or molested.
My daughter goes to my ex's mothers house for visitation, because thats where he lives, I think. They don't watch her I have called and they tell me shes in the bathtub by herself. She get scrapes on her face and back and hands and they tell me she fell off of the porch. She came home one time, and had a burn mark on her face from my ex's cigarette, and when he told me about it he told me one story,then when I asked him about it he told me a different story. This was all before the papers were signed, so I told him that he would have to see her in a public place for a while. I took her to McDonalds and let him have her for like two hours. I sat at a table and he had her in the indoor play area. He brought her out and took her to the bathroom, I thought that he should have gotten me, but I figured he made sure the bathroom was empty before he took her in. After the visit she sits in her car seat and rolled up a blanket in to a round shape and holds it between her legs and says thats how dadddy goes potty. When I told my lawyer he said she could have seen him by accident, but he should have brought her to me while he used the restroom. The way that she shaped the blanket, and held it, and did the actions he had to have shown her.
Now I let him have the days that he signed on the papers, because theres nothing else I can do according to my lawyer, and he always askes for more,and when I tell him no he threatens to turn me in, and take her away. I have a wedding to go to, on his visitaion day and he agreed he would see her next Saturday instead, but now he says she has to be there on HIS Saturday or he will get me in trouble. My lawyer says he can't agree to a day swap, then when I do the swap get me in trouble. I just don't know what rights I have and what I can do. I divorced him and got out of harms way, and now I have a lawyer telling me I cannot protect my daughter. Others tell me thats not how it works, that my lawyer doesn't know what hes talking about, and everytime I ask my lawyer anything he tells me one thing then someting completly different the next time I see him. I just need to know if there is anyting I can do to protect my daughter, and what rights I have. I want her to see her father, but in a more supervised and safe environment.
I agree with alone's suggestions. Get CPS involved and document EVERYTHING. Get a notebook to use as a journal and if you can get as many pics as possible. If she comes home with bruises(alot of them) take her to the ER or her pediatrician so that you'll have medical documentation. It may take awhile, but when you gather enough proof of the problem you can modify the visitation so that it is supervised.
Xena :)

not only modify the visits but stop them completely. I feel he should be no where near your daughter. There is something else there but you need to do whatever it takes to protect your daughter even if it means making him mad. She is more important than his attitude. :mad:

I agree with calling CPS in regards to the cig. burn on her face. BUT 3 year olds do get bruises...it is very common at that age and unless the bruises are intense I don't think that CPS will think much of it. Yes they will investigate any call made but I think that it is a lot to put a child through if the bruises are just the common toddler bruises.

My attorney always told me to document everything and get as much as I can in writting. If he agrees to switch a day with you..then have him sign a paper stating that. Then if he does "change" his mind you can't be held in contempt because you have the written and signed okay from him.