I am to be married on June 3rd, and my fiancee has a 2 month old daughter. Her mother hates the fact that he and I are together, and refuses to let me even see the baby. I have respected her wishes as I know that I have no rights to the child. However, she has on more than one occaision told my fiancee that if he marries me, he will never see his child again. She often calls in the middle of the night, and when she realizes that he is with me, she tells him that if he doesn't leave me and come see the baby right then, that he will neve see her again. I understand that she has full control of the child and may do whatever she wishes with the baby. But what are the steps that should be taken so that my fiancee can be with me, and not live in fear that she can take his child away?

He needs to make sure that paternity is legally established and file for visitation or custody through the courts.

The child is 2 months old and he is already planning on marrying you? Wow that sounds awful. :confused:

As far as his rights are concerned, has he signed the bc? If not like Suzy says, paternity will need to be established as well as filing for visitation.

You may want to reconsider marrying a man that allows another woman to dictate his relationships and find yourself a man with a backbone instead. He doesn't have to keep caving in to mom's demands. He needs to file for visitation so that mom no longer gets to control his life.

You may want to reconsider marrying a man that allows another woman to dictate his relationships and find yourself a man with a backbone instead. He doesn't have to keep caving in to mom's demands. He needs to file for visitation so that mom no longer gets to control his life.

What about the fact that she is marrying a man with a newborn? Does that sound right?

Just because the baby is only 2 months old doesn't mean she's only known him for 2 months (or less). She could have known him for 11 months (9 months of the mom's pregnancy and 2 more months since the child's been born), or she could have known him for years and they've now become a couple within the last year.

Just because the baby is only 2 months old doesn't mean she's only known him for 2 months (or less). She could have known him for 11 months (9 months of the mom's pregnancy and 2 more months since the child's been born), or she could have known him for years and they've now become a couple within the last year.

And the fact that it was less than a year that you've pointed out makes it any better? If she is so excited to be marrying a man that has a 2mth old then hey she deserves everything he dishes.

Can you smell 18 years of drama? Mother is probably going crazy with pp.

I have to agree with whyte noise how do you know that they have not been together for a long time and maybe dad had a one night stand who knows, don;t put her down because she is marring someone with a 2 month old.

I have to agree with whyte noise how do you know that they have not been together for a long time and maybe dad had a one night stand who knows, don;t put her down because she is marring someone with a 2 month old.

So does that make it any better? If it was a one night stand?

No it does not make it any better! I just mean we shouldn't critizie before we know the situation! I agree she might want to re think the marriage thing and realize this problem will never go away untill the child turn 18

I am to be married on June 3rd, and my fiancee has a 2 month old daughter. Her mother hates the fact that he and I are together, and refuses to let me even see the baby. I have respected her wishes as I know that I have no rights to the child. However, she has on more than one occaision told my fiancee that if he marries me, he will never see his child again. She often calls in the middle of the night, and when she realizes that he is with me, she tells him that if he doesn't leave me and come see the baby right then, that he will neve see her again. I understand that she has full control of the child and may do whatever she wishes with the baby. But what are the steps that should be taken so that my fiancee can be with me, and not live in fear that she can take his child away?

And if you do marry him please keep all of your assets separate from his own because whatever he ends up owing in support will be taken including whatever monies you have tied with him.

And if you do marry him please keep all of your assets separate from his own because whatever he ends up owing in support will be taken including whatever monies you have tied with him.

That's true ONLY if he ever gets behind on CS and owes ARREARS. :D
Xena

That's true ONLY if he ever gets behind on CS and owes ARREARS. :D
Xena

It doesn't sound like there is an order in place yet. She never mentioned it which means when she does go to file they won't go into court automatically. He'll be starting in arrears unless he can pay it immediately.

And the fact that it was less than a year that you've pointed out makes it any better? If she is so excited to be marrying a man that has a 2mth old then hey she deserves everything he dishes.

Can you smell 18 years of drama? Mother is probably going crazy with pp.

I don't think she is excited about marrying him because he has a 2 month old. I think it's because she's in love that she is excited. The man has a kid. It doesn't matter if the kid is 2 months or 2 years. What she needs to be considering, is the fact that her future husband let's the mother of the child walk all over him. He is putting the mom ahead of the future wife and that will not make for a good marriage. Putting the child first is one thing, but bending over backwards for mom is another. If the OP doesn't mind having her feeling put AFTER those of mom's, then who are we to judge? If it does bother her, she needs to know, it probably isn't going to get any better.