hiya,
I am grandparent of 2 in Pa. and have been supporting my daughter through a bitter custody battle. Kids are now 7 (girl), and 3 (boy) and this has been going on for 2 years. You see my daughter was involved with the father of both kids for approx. 15 years and had an extensive drug history (both). @ years ago my daughter decided she had to get clean or she would die, so she left this town to go to a womens shelter (abuse), and where she lived for 6 months keeping contact with the father and both kids. She had both kids at aternating intervals since only one was allowed in the shelter at a time. So last spring she decided that her and the father could no longer be together since he was not willing to give up drugs and she was clean. So in the meantime the dad farmed the kids out to his grandmother and his aunt (separated kids). My daughter filed for primary custody and the family of the father has slung all types of allegations (child abuse, sexual abuse, exploitation, physical abuse to mention a few). My hubby and my daughter were investigated by CYS and all charges were unfounded. Now my daughter has a boyfriend and they have alleged the same things. Right now the court order is shared custody, Mon. thru Fri. with dad, and Mom gets Wed and Fri thru Sun every week then the custody reverses in the summer months. The problem is the Aunt of the dad feels the boy is her son since dad has left these two relatives be primary caregivers and she refuses to step out of the picture. Every week there is a new charge against my daughters boyfriend and the little boy is being coached on what to say to authorities. Both kids are being seen by court ordered family psychologists and she says the boy is very believeable. He tells me they tell him to say bad things so we don't get to see the kids. My main concern is getting these kids away from this family. Another custody hearing is scheduled march 14th. We are fighting a system of errors. Any suggestions????

periwinkle55

hiya,
I am grandparent of 2 in Pa. and have been supporting my daughter through a bitter custody battle. Kids are now 7 (girl), and 3 (boy) and this has been going on for 2 years. You see my daughter was involved with the father of both kids for approx. 15 years and had an extensive drug history (both). @ years ago my daughter decided she had to get clean or she would die, so she left this town to go to a womens shelter (abuse), and where she lived for 6 months keeping contact with the father and both kids. She had both kids at aternating intervals since only one was allowed in the shelter at a time. So last spring she decided that her and the father could no longer be together since he was not willing to give up drugs and she was clean. So in the meantime the dad farmed the kids out to his grandmother and his aunt (separated kids). My daughter filed for primary custody and the family of the father has slung all types of allegations (child abuse, sexual abuse, exploitation, physical abuse to mention a few). My hubby and my daughter were investigated by CYS and all charges were unfounded. Now my daughter has a boyfriend and they have alleged the same things. Right now the court order is shared custody, Mon. thru Fri. with dad, and Mom gets Wed and Fri thru Sun every week then the custody reverses in the summer months. The problem is the Aunt of the dad feels the boy is her son since dad has left these two relatives be primary caregivers and she refuses to step out of the picture. Every week there is a new charge against my daughters boyfriend and the little boy is being coached on what to say to authorities. Both kids are being seen by court ordered family psychologists and she says the boy is very believeable. He tells me they tell him to say bad things so we don't get to see the kids. My main concern is getting these kids away from this family. Another custody hearing is scheduled march 14th. We are fighting a system of errors. Any suggestions????

periwinkle55
Your daughter needs a good family law attorney. It will be expensive, but some do work out payments and the end result is worth it. That really is the best and only real chance she has. Sorry.
Xena

Thank you zena for the reply...My daughter has a good, probably the best attorney and most reputable in the area...He has been very reserved in the matter and feels this is now harrassment now. So we have been fighting through the legal system and not with them. He feels my daughter will gain and retain primary custody however we are pushed backward when these allegations are made. The fathers family takes no responsibility for reporting the allegations to CYS, but seem to be on top of pulling visitation from my daughter. These people are psychotic and my grandson, over the weekend admitted to us that he is being told what to say to the "doctors". I just hope we can do something to limit the exposure these kids have to this family when my daughter gets primary custody. The father has literally nothing to do with either child nor does he financially support them. He and my daughter were also ordered by the court to get mandatory drug testing at least once a month and my daughter has complyed but he hasn't. This is definately a mess and I pray for it to be over soon. The fathers family wants us totally removed from the childrens lives, which I will not allow. Thanks for listening.

periwinkle55