I desperatley need help on how my mother can try to gain temp or permanet custody of my nephew. My 27 year old sister still lives at home with my mom, the father is come or go as he wants his idea of visitation is staying at my moms house playing playstation or taking my nephew to his sisters house dropping him off and having his sister bring him back to us. My sister the past 6 months has become a different person she basically has abadoned my nephew at my moms house she only sees him for about an hour a day on good days sometimes she doesnt even go back to my moms, she has been missing work (they told her not to come back until the store manager is there, she might be fired from all her calling in), car payments she keeps paying $50 dollars to get an extension on paying on a ticket she got. She has gotten a boyfriend that is an absoulte loser and that in the begining of their dating "accidently" burned my nephews arm with a ciggerate (a great first impression) her standard use to be no one smoking around her child and it has completely changed she even lets her boyfriend smoke in her car, she might be doing it herself, we found an empty pack in her car. anyway she is emotionally draining him he doesnt even like to be with her anymore he just wants to be with my mom. All my sister does is start fights with her (5 yr old) son so she can walk out without feeling quilty she isn't responsible for feeding him, bathing him, getting him ready for school, taking or picking him up anymore from school, or tucking him into bed...my poor mom does it all. My mom knows my sister uses him as a pawn to get her way..and she is afraid she will take him and dissapear one day which is def. not good for my nephew. Is there anything we can do to get custody of him besides calling child services to report her. We want to make sure he does not end up in foster care or missing from her grabbing him and running. any addvice is appreciated! The situation thickens and thickens but that is some of it.

The father is a drinker on the weekends that has at least 3 dui's and hardcore sleeps during the day, he would not want custody.

I suggest that she file a petition for legal guardianship and ask your sister to support the petition.