Hi there all,

I know that I should have done this a very long time ago but I was a child of natsy divorce and just didn't so please understand why I have wait so long.....

I am a single mom of a 13 year old daughter in the State of Louisiana. I have been divorced from my ex-husband for about 5 to 6 years now. I have the domicled custosy of our child. However, I never filed for child support. (ok, so I have been dumb) I have always had to beg each month for my ex to pay the money he owes this child and in fact my dad ended up making the agreement that if he paid the car note and insurance that I would call it child support. Anyways, I pay her dental insurance while he pays her medical insurance. My ex now wants to drop the medical and stop eveything else. Also, my ex also makes 3 times the amount of grossly yearly income than I do. It has come way past the time to fight for my child's support and I have no clue of what to do as far as how to file for it or get it. I struggle every single month to make ends meat with the bills and living expenses to raise my child. I always have been afraid of my ex because I never wanted my child to go through the whole court battle and other pains. However, my child has told me of the secrets I tried to keep from her about her dad's other problems he has cuz I wanted her to not base her relationship on the bad but the good of him. My ex is a successful professional worker and on the side of looking all professional has a drug problem. This has gone from heavy rec drugs to now going to now a doctor precibes pain killers to him. I can not live anymore the way I do dealing with the madness of this daily. My child rarely ever goes over to her dad's due to his actions and mood swings by her choice not mine. I just need some advice/support on what to do about this kinda situation. At times he is a great dad but others times he is the most horrible dad I know. Could someone please talk to me and tell me what to do? I really need some advice.

Thanks,

La Confused mom

If you want a set amount for child support and on a regular basis,(well thats the intention anyway) you need to file for support. You can either take it through court or you could go to your local child support enforcement.

Be aware though that when you file for CS your ex will most definately file for a set visitation schedule. This you will HAVE to follow. You and your daughter will have no choice. If she refuses to go, you will possibly be found in contempt of court. If your drug allegations are accurate, and IF you can prove them you could possibly ask the court for supervised visitation to start with until your ex can clean himself up.

Good luck to you.

file immediately for the support

as far as the drugs go if they are prescribed by a doctor there probably is not a whole lot you can do about it. In fact if you make allegations and the only drugs he is using are prescription meds it might actually make you look bad for trying to make accusations that are unprovable.

careful how you tread here.



rini