I say let the family decide on this. Not a kid who is re-acting to a
situation.. Also why is it that in the countries where there is a
good social support network for the pregnant girl/woman there are no
relinquishments.. or hardly any..

I like that a lot, it is logical, but family,,,,can be fickel,,
if a "family" decides she must keep a kid, isn't that a bad idea? wouldn't
she resent it more than likely (I would hope that those infamous motherly
instincts, would kick in and que sra sra, but maybe the parents proved thier
incompetence by letting the minor get knocked up (in this situation,,,I hate
this term) nah if they could not care for one kid, let em have a crack at a
another ta boot?,,,,
hmm maybe at this point mandatory counseling should kick in (hahahah ya
another counselor hahaha) ,,,her body her choice, maybe this is why adoption
exists, I don't like forced adoptions ,relinquishments, but,,,these adults,
suck, no real parents here maybe with time the girl, but not just
now,,,,(OMG naw this point sucked) hmm lets sell our nulcear weapons, and
support all the pregnant minors, ya!!! (serious,) we need more support in
heathcare, (babyboomers, gettin up there) n pregnant teens, well (I want
socialized medicine in US) and all should be in parenting classes (I was
only male in a health occupations class when younger, but could trace the
path of the ovum,!!!) more education and holding fathers accountable, (this
spread the seed of yer loins stuff makes me barf,er see how many virgins ya
can bag, you can blame men (here) so change
healthcare,education, maybe that would change attitudes,,????




"Jackie" <jdajda@newsguy.com> wrote in message
news:oltdfvsv5iv45k92arpdo016biflrd129l@4ax.com... On 22 Jun 2003 12:57:29 -0700, rkbose@pacific.net.sg (Rupa Bose) wrote:Jackie <jdajda@newsguy.com> wrote On 21 Jun 2003 21:01:48 GMT, adoptadad@aol.com (AdoptaDad) wrote: > > You can't split the baby. Where would you place the *final*
authority: the >mother or the grandmother? I would place the final authority on the adult in the situation.. Not on the teen or child who can be taken in so very easily by the incredibly pro aparent adoption laws in the US..I rather suspect that would have the effect of *increasing* the numberof relinquishments. You do not know that to be true Rupa. We are thinking on terms of my time.. Things have changed. We did have someone here (for a very short while) who made sure her sons baby was not relinquished..The adults in the situation may well feel thattheir child is not ready to take care of a baby, and yet few adultshave lives that are unencumbered enough to take on this carethemselves. This may be true and this may not be true.. All the old "shhhhh keep the secret's" are gone.I would guess that currently, the vast majority of girls whose parentsdon't want her to relinquish and offer support, don't make adoptionplans. But god help the ones who do make plans and change their minds..The girls who do are more likely the ones whose parents don'tsupport them. And I suspect this may be even more likely to happen inblended families, since in each home there will be a step-parent whomay well be less tolerant of the errors of the kids. I say let the family decide on this. Not a kid who is re-acting to a situation.. Also why is it that in the countries where there is a good social support network for the pregnant girl/woman there are no relinquishments.. or hardly any..I think the number of teens who keep their kids when their parentswould have preferred them to relinquish exceeds the number who wouldhave relinquished when their parents would have preferred them tokeep. I think the teens should be given a chance to decide after the birth.. After they have taken care of the baby.. After all the bills are paid by someone who has no interest in the baby. Jackie