ianf2
06-25-2003, 01:12 AM
I think that knowing a bparent, (both) is important, (a diaolog to work up
to, hey can I borrow that lung, kidney, uhmm, etc, asking this kinda stuff
may be next to never necessary but , aside from that just seeing where ya
came from, what hobbies talents, I like to know this stuff,,)
Best way to know this stuff is to ask, talk, communciate,
firstperson, in person.
I doubt most would "bypass, the bmom" but it takes time to work up courage
and,, a bit longer to get emotional detatchment (I truly believe it was only
a matter of time that this reunion would have happened, but it should have
gone better? I am curious, so they met then like a month later,, all hell
broke loose? (at first meet no plans of a 2nd were made? or even possible?
what we just don't know,,,)
I hate the thought to this day, that this person was such a massive part of
my life, (or the begining of it) may be walking down the street and I could
walk right past, and never know. (I think bypass was wrong word, delayed,
maybe, but not bypassed)
(I know my amom, of, my bdad,,n some siblings)
No, fer me now I would like to meet siblings maybe not really want to know
my bdad tho,,
"Jackie" <jdajda@newsguy.com> wrote in message
news:gfggfvkrms7qst9146ghm81efld5i8cm2a@4ax.com... On 23 Jun 2003 21:53:09 GMT, kjs668@aol.comeek (kj) wrote:And getting the knowledge from a sibling is not going to be goodenough IMO because the knowledge is colored by the issues of thesibling..I've know a number of adoptee's who feel a lot of bitterness towards
theirbirthparents. Here's a line that might help you get in the head of someadoptees... "My own mother didn't want me." And if they do not go to her and ask her questions then how in hell are they going to know what really went on in the womans mind. The siblings do not know the truth..(may not know) They may think they know the truth and they man verbalize what they think is the truth.. But the facts are only one person knows the truth.. Hence I am saying one needs to know the birthmother.. She is important in reunion. She should not be bypassed.. Jackie
to, hey can I borrow that lung, kidney, uhmm, etc, asking this kinda stuff
may be next to never necessary but , aside from that just seeing where ya
came from, what hobbies talents, I like to know this stuff,,)
Best way to know this stuff is to ask, talk, communciate,
firstperson, in person.
I doubt most would "bypass, the bmom" but it takes time to work up courage
and,, a bit longer to get emotional detatchment (I truly believe it was only
a matter of time that this reunion would have happened, but it should have
gone better? I am curious, so they met then like a month later,, all hell
broke loose? (at first meet no plans of a 2nd were made? or even possible?
what we just don't know,,,)
I hate the thought to this day, that this person was such a massive part of
my life, (or the begining of it) may be walking down the street and I could
walk right past, and never know. (I think bypass was wrong word, delayed,
maybe, but not bypassed)
(I know my amom, of, my bdad,,n some siblings)
No, fer me now I would like to meet siblings maybe not really want to know
my bdad tho,,
"Jackie" <jdajda@newsguy.com> wrote in message
news:gfggfvkrms7qst9146ghm81efld5i8cm2a@4ax.com... On 23 Jun 2003 21:53:09 GMT, kjs668@aol.comeek (kj) wrote:And getting the knowledge from a sibling is not going to be goodenough IMO because the knowledge is colored by the issues of thesibling..I've know a number of adoptee's who feel a lot of bitterness towards
theirbirthparents. Here's a line that might help you get in the head of someadoptees... "My own mother didn't want me." And if they do not go to her and ask her questions then how in hell are they going to know what really went on in the womans mind. The siblings do not know the truth..(may not know) They may think they know the truth and they man verbalize what they think is the truth.. But the facts are only one person knows the truth.. Hence I am saying one needs to know the birthmother.. She is important in reunion. She should not be bypassed.. Jackie
