in my divorce my husband and i were granted joint legal coustody and he had taken the kids because he had all the money so i couldnt afford a lawyer(i was a stay at home mom) he worked for his family. our divorce was finalized in Kansas,i was ordered to pay child support but do not work and sence then i have moved to florida and in a new relationship but still do not work and my ex-has not let me see my children or speak to them in 2 years. sence then i have moved to florida and in a new relationship but still do not work,the child support case has now been transfered to Flordia, he is asking $528 a month for the 2 children.i miss them so much and need to find out how to change the child support,and see if i can find him in contempt of the court for not letting me see them or speak to them,sence we have joint leagal coustody.please help with any advise on how to change this.

Yes, if your court order says you are to have visitation and he is not allowing this to happen then file contempt charges on him.

Whay are you not working? Have you ever paid any of the child support? How much in child support do you owe?

Visitation and child support are separate issues.

kansas to florida is what? 1400 miles? joint custody in kentucky if not primary custodial parent is every other weekend ect so dont know what the visitation is in kansas but moving 1400 miles away puts visiting at all in a bind or atleast to me. what is your plan if visitation is set?

i do not work because i am a stay at home mom to my 1 year old and i have never paid the support due to when i did pay him directly he still did not let me see the kids,

kansas to florida is what? 1400 miles? joint custody in kentucky if not primary custodial parent is every other weekend ect so dont know what the visitation is in kansas but moving 1400 miles away puts visiting at all in a bind or atleast to me. what is your plan if visitation is set?
visitation has been set but he refuses to do so and my husband now and i would pay for them to fly out here,when thery are to be here and drive to get them we do not care how we get them we just want them

First of all, you need to get a job and start paying your support. However just because you arent paying your support shouldnt mean that you dont get to see your kids. If you have something in writing saying when you get visitation then file contempt charges on your ex for not allowing the visits.

How old are your children? why have you let 2 years go by without forcing the issue of visitation? Quit letting your ex call the shots.Get some back bone and fight for your children. Now that 2 years have gone by your ex probably has a good chance of being awarded supervised visits for you. Since you have voluntarily created so much distance, supervised visits will be big burden for you. Now you will have to either drive the distance, fly, and you will need somewhere to stay. Why did you not think this through better 2 years ago.

Seriously though, get a job. You knew you had other children to support when you have your youngest child. Your older children need your support as well. It is not all dads responsibility to support them. Thank god for dad, otherwise where would your children be?

confusedinVa is correct, you should file for contempt for him violating the visitation order. But as confused said, you really need to get a job and start paying CS. Be prepared because when you file to enforce visitation, he'll most likely file contempt on you for non payment of CS.

In your case, both parents have refused to obey the court orders, and you both need to start obeying them. If your new husband is willing to make the CS payments for you, you won't have to go to work. Alot of times couples do something like that, but that is something that you and hubby will have to discuss. Good luck.
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first off i can not get a job due to the fact that i have a little one at home with me now and my husband travels with his job and is gone more then half of the year.and i have made support payments to him but he refuses to let me see or talk to them reguard less if i pay or not and i have been trying to help him i send clothes and school supplies and even pay for them to be in school so it is not like i do not help him.he decided to file for child support because he wanted more money,he owns his own bussiness and is never with the kids my mother always has them,but if he finds out that she lets them talk to me he threatens her and says that see will not be able to see them as well. it is all about money to him he wants the cash so he can spend it on his new wifes 2 children's child support (which she does not have custody of due to drugs).that is why i send him the clothes and supplies and write checks dirrectly to the school for my kids,it is not a money issue to me we are well off.it is i pay and i still do not get anythimg in return and it doesnt even go to my children,in or original agrrement he was not going to file due to the fact that i was taking care of there school,clothes etc.. but then his new wife lost her job and now she has no way to pay her child support and my ex knows that mu husband and i are doing ok money wise.plus my ex will not help her pay for anything just like when we were married. he likes to keep his to hisself.

Well stop sending the clothes, supplies and paying for their school etc. You need to be sending money as the courts have ordered. If you dont do this your arrearages will keep piling up on you. Your ex is free to spend this money anyway he chooses. Do the kids have a roof over their heads, food in their bellies, clothes on their backs? Also the supplies etc that you are sending are right now considered a gift.

Also, support and visitation are separate issues. He cant withhold visitation because you are behind in support payments.

You have been instructed several times now to file contemp charges on the ex. Do you plan to do this? There really is no other way to enforce the court orders.

Well stop sending the clothes, supplies and paying for their school etc. You need to be sending money as the courts have ordered. If you dont do this your arrearages will keep piling up on you. Your ex is free to spend this money anyway he chooses. Do the kids have a roof over their heads, food in their bellies, clothes on their backs? Also the supplies etc that you are sending are right now considered a gift.

Also, support and visitation are separate issues. He cant withhold visitation because you are behind in support payments.

You have been instructed several times now to file contemp charges on the ex. Do you plan to do this? There really is no other way to enforce the court orders.
well under i origanal agreement that is what he wanted me to do but if i do not send them the clothes then they will most likley be wearing hand me downs from his wifes kids and i think that that is not fair, the do have food and a roof . as for filing charges i plan on it this time i can afford to get a lawyer,i did not have one during our divorce,because i was a stay at home mom and i worked for his parents so that left me with no money to get one so i had to go with the punches.