GA...After three meetings with the ex..we still cannot come to an agreement because she is so unreasonable. My job is very tentitive. I make decent while I work, but there has been no job available for over two months. It is in a very specialized field and it is kinda saturated right now. I have never missed a payment in ten years. You never know when you go to court what will happen and I am afraid if they set it too high, I will get behind, be hauled into court...deadbeat dad......you know the drill. If I quit this job and get something that pays less and hour but is more steady....the court might say I am vol underemployed. She quit a good job because our laws are changing. I don't have the money to keep going back to court...I have offered to pay her the increase my lawyer said it would be, half the insurance (my job does not offer that and what I have now is high with a very high deductible) but that is not enought. She wants the increase, all insurance paid as part of the CS (although she may quit this job and get on welfare like before) 1/2 medical and 200 dollars a month for a tutor for one of the kids... All I want to do is pay what is fair based on a yearly income. Also, if we can't get this solved...I may be across county when she decides to haul me into court...that would be a tremendous hardship on me...not to mention it may cost me my job...I am just lost...I have tried everything I know...any advice??? Should I just go to court and let the chips fall where they may.

Make sure you give your attorney all of your earning statements. They will base the child support on the average of what you have made in the past. Also make sure you tell your attorney to have the courts impute an income on the mother and also explain how she voluntarily quit a good paying job.

ConfusedinVA
Thank you so much for your speedy reply...also, can I be made to pay CS and then half of everything else, tutors,tuba lessons, gas to take them to the Dr.,baseball uniforms???
Thank you...

No, you should only be ordered to pay child support. Everything else is what the child support is supposed to be used for. You may have to pay 1/2 of childcare and most likely half of the insurance. However, both of those will give you a decrease in child support. For example, lets say you were originally ordered to pay 600. per month. Now, you are responsible for 1/2 daycare and 1/2 medical ins. They will give you a credit for both of those making your support amount say CS=450, daycare=50, and medical insurance=100. These are not exact figures just an example.

ConfusedinVA
Thank you so much, that is just what I needed to hear. I thought that might be the way it was, but she took three months of legal classes on line and thinks she is Matlock, she told me I was wrong about everything I said,including the state imputing income on her, and I would not have known that if not for this website...you have all be such a blessing....thank you

P.S. to the person who sent the other response, I am kinda new to this forum and do not know how to reply to you...let me know how I can if you do not mind...thank you for your advice!!

Click on Private messages in upper right hand corner of screen. Then click on the message you want to reply to....then reply and hit send...

I need to know if I am entitled to know how much SSI my child is getting...ex will not tell me the amount..but she let it slip that one of my children was receiving a check...I knew nothing about this...and now she says the child is not receiving it anymore although the disability still exists..If I am entitled to know...how do I find out??? Thank you..

What do you court orders say about legal custody? Do you have joint legal custody? If you dont I still think that you are entitled to this information. I know that you are still entitled to school and medical records. I am not sure about SSI though as this is a type of welfare. They base the benefit on your income. I also dont think it would effect your CS obligation in any way. Hopefully someone who knows more about this will reply to you soon.

Yes, I have joint legal custody, for all the good that has ever done me...when I ask for medical records (because she takes the kids to the doctor very unnecessarily ( I really think she has that Munchausen by Proxy disease) but she tells me "Pay the bills, I will take the children to the Doctor when I see fit and you will pay the bills when I send them to you" And that is all I ever get...a medical institute name and an amount due.... I have tried to explain to her that I have a right to know not only what I am paying for but the medical conditions my kids may be facing, that it is in the divorce papers, she says she will do what she wants and it will be for me to take her to court for every single piece of info I ask for... now how big of a waste of time and money is that...if she won't follow the papers now, she won't follow them after a different judge tells her to do so. Until recently, she did not have me listed on my childrens school info, (HS and JrHS) they did not know that the kids had a father...and you know as well as I do that any legal "contract" is only as good as the people who enter into it...a piece of paper (or a judges comand) will not make anyone follow that order unless they are inclined to do so) it would be a constant battle to find her in contempt and I have neither the time nor the resourses to fight all the time. But I appreciate your response...maybe I can get an answer straight from the SS admin...
Also, I did not think it would affect my CS...I just want all info pertinent to my children...

Have you tried calling the dr.s and school yourself to get the information? They should give it to you. If the dr states because of the hipaa laws send them a copy of your court order. You are entitled to all medical and educational information.