>Subject: Re: REUNION SPARKS ANGERFrom: Jackie jdajda@newsguy.comDate: 6/25/03 5:16 AM Pacific Daylight TimeMessage-id: <fi4jfvkp5b5vi97uttsnhom05gcjudgcts@4ax.com>On 24 Jun 2003 16:20:02 GMT, reneekarynracine@aol.comhomesafe (KathyT) wrote:So far, nobody has said she should be bypassed. I can only speak formyself.I said the level of emotions that goes into a reunion with siblings, andotherbfamily members is not the same as it is with the bmother. I've beenthrough aseries of reunions, and can say that the one with my bmom, while it is theonethat means the most to me, was the most emotional. I would not have beenreadyat 16. I would not have felt ready, and even if I'd have thought about it (Ihad not) I wouldn't have followed through with it at that time.Do you think it okay that the woman has to hear about her relinquishedson or daughter through her other son or daughter?
See, now we get to the heart of the matter for you. It's not about the
adoptee. It's
about the birth mother. If she is ready for a reunion, who cares how young the
child is.
Do you ever wonder if that is painful for the woman?

It is not about the woman. It is about the CHILD. This adoptee is still a
CHILD.
Do you care?

I care about my birth mother. I care that she is not a whiney, life is about
me, oh, poor me, strong woman.
Or is she guilty no matter what.

If you think there is guilt associated, then you have a guilty conscience. If
you didn't do all you could have, that is on you.Jackie
Kathy, born Renee Karyn Racine

Permanent good can never be the outcome of untruth and violence.
--Mahatma Gandhi
Peace is not merely a distant goal that we seek, but a means by which we arrive
at that goal.
--Dr. Martin Luther King Jr.

In article <20030625085021.04279.00001736@mb-m04.aol.com>, Kathy T says...Subject: Re: REUNION SPARKS ANGERFrom: Jackie jdajda@newsguy.comDate: 6/25/03 5:16 AM Pacific Daylight TimeMessage-id: <fi4jfvkp5b5vi97uttsnhom05gcjudgcts@4ax.com>On 24 Jun 2003 16:20:02 GMT, reneekarynracine@aol.comhomesafe (KathyT) wrote:So far, nobody has said she should be bypassed. I can only speak formyself.I said the level of emotions that goes into a reunion with siblings, andotherbfamily members is not the same as it is with the bmother. I've beenthrough aseries of reunions, and can say that the one with my bmom, while it is theonethat means the most to me, was the most emotional. I would not have beenreadyat 16. I would not have felt ready, and even if I'd have thought about it (Ihad not) I wouldn't have followed through with it at that time.Do you think it okay that the woman has to hear about her relinquishedson or daughter through her other son or daughter?See, now we get to the heart of the matter for you. It's not about theadoptee. It'sabout the birth mother. If she is ready for a reunion, who cares how young thechild is.

LOL, well duh. This is from Jackie, afterall.
Do you ever wonder if that is painful for the woman?It is not about the woman. It is about the CHILD. This adoptee is still aCHILD.Do you care?I care about my birth mother. I care that she is not a whiney, life is aboutme, oh, poor me, strong woman.Or is she guilty no matter what.If you think there is guilt associated, then you have a guilty conscience. Ifyou didn't do all you could have, that is on you.

Exactly.

Robyn
Resident Witchypoo & EAC Spellcaster
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