shiatan
12-26-2005, 02:10 PM
me and my soon to be ex recently went to court to finalize our divorce. after a year of being put off and revamping, we finally agreed on property ect and joint custody with us working out our own visiting schedule, we have been doing this for awhile when she decided back in march that our schedule didnt suit her and we ended up with a mediator and our arranged schedule stuck as it was. both me and the mediator thought it was a perfect schedule so her court arguement didnt work and being as we had a divorce going on with custody being an issue, we just had to make the best of it. well ive ended up with my girls, 70% of the time since then and made the best of it as it was with no argueing over days. she recently lost her job at the first of december and all of a sudden had more time to spend with them and so i allowed her to get them on some of the days im court intitled to have. well we went to court for our finalized divorce and she said she no longer agreed on us working out a schedule and wanted temporary custody at that moment inwhich the judge denied and set us for a hearing in january. she lives in one county, i another and my girls go to school in the county i live in. im about 200 yards from the school and now, she is threatening to pull them out of the school and put them into the one where she lives without my permission. i told her that she couldnt because there is no set custody of the girls as of now and neither of us is primary so neither of us has anymore rights over the other and being as custody will be set in a few weeks it isnt the wisest of things to do plus to switch the girls with so much of the year gone by would be a major adjustment on them. in one ear and out the other as it where and now im at a loss. any ideas on whether she can do this or not. its bad enough to be in this fight for custody as it is if we could actually be civilized enough to do whats best for the girls but ive had them more this year than she has and she tells me that doesnt matter because court papers say these days are hers and these days are mine and the fact ive had them half of hers doesnt make a difference. no job,no stable home and not having them when she should is whats best for my girls?
