I have a complicated case. I have custody of my son (10 years old) in colorado. He now lives with his father in California. I never asked for support while I had my son. Father went for support as soon as he had him in his custody. I refused but of course lost and owe back child support. We had a horrible and nasty divorce, but now the two of us get along great. The father has agreed to disregard the back child support as long as I send $200 a month from here on out directly to him. I fly my son home every break he has. How can we stop Riverside County from coming after me? Is it as simple as him going into the office and signing paperwork with the case worker? When he filed the paperwork he did not disclose correct info on me. I have another daughter and I have my son anytime there is a break in school even if it's only for a long weekend. He said I had no other kids and that he had my son 100% of the time. Also, I have another child, a daughter 16, who he considers his. Will the courts take into consideration that she considers him dad and he considers her his daughter? I ask him why he wants support when I have one and he has one. He is an electrical contractor and makes a great deal more than I do. Yet somehow the court is ordering me to pay almost $600 a month and I only bring home $2000 a month. I have a new job and I know Riverside County will soon get me and I'd much rather get this resolved before that happens. Thanks for any help.

In order for child support to stop, your ex will have to send the agency a letter stating he wants it stopped. he is the only 1 who can close the case.

UInless there is a step parent willing to adopt you can not sign off, but maybe you can have your ex get the papers to stop child support.

Get an attorney and go after him, then ask for an offset of what he never paid you. I think you learned trying to be nice does not pay. I also believe you should go get your son back in your custody asap.